To be fucked off that DH ate my leftovers

[CatLoaf]

I had an amazing dinner last night, steak platter with friends. It came with bubble and squeak, fab chips...piles of it, and we couldn't finish it. I checked with the others if they were OK with me taking the leftovers home, and was so so looking forward to them tonight. DH (a 'flexitarian' who tries not to eat meat), just told me he ate it for lunch.

I am so so pissed off, and I KNOW I should have expressly told him not to eat it if that's what I wanted. But I'm 6 months pregnant, hormonal, and when he told me I just saw red. Totally overreacted and told him I was really pissed off with him. Then went into our bedroom and had a scream into a pillow. I know, pathetic. Then I told him he could sort his own dinner out.

Now he's taken his coat and backpack and gone out, saying he can't stay here atm. It's completely blown up and I feel horrible. Currently sitting in the dark in DD's room. I hate this

He probably won’t want dinner after that!
yeah yabu, but you are eager and pregnant so he’ll probably let it slide. Food in the fridge is fair game, plus I’d have thought you would have brought it back for me!

Is it your second baby with him? He should know better by now not to mess with a pregnant woman's food !!!

Poor bloke

Don't blame him for leaving tbh

Do you usually have to ask each others permission to eat stuff from the fridge?
I think given you didn't tell him he couldn't its a bit harsh.
Would he not have been sorting his own dinner anyway if there was only enough for 1?

Yes, second baby. He wasn't at all apologetic which made me feel more rage. (I know I'm being totally out of proportion. I know. I just feel angry :/ )

He's supposed be trying to be a bloody vegetarian as well!

Nah that would have pissed me off as well! Your DH is unreasonable to have eaten your food without asking first.

Honestly, until the last paragraph, I was like “yeah, I’d be irrationally furious too, you’re all cool though, you can just say he needs to go and get you a fresh one now and it’s all win-win-win”. But no, he doesn’t get to storm out when his pregnant wife gets pissed off that he gobbled up her food! He was entirely in the wrong. When I was pregnant, I had awful HG, I couldn’t eat anything at all and was monstrously sick. If there had been a food that I could even consider eating and DH snaffled it then he’d be on the receiving end of a death stare and a potential divorce. He was inconsiderate, you were emotional - he doesn’t get to use your emotional outburst to distract from that fact that he was actually in the wrong.

Pregnancy is tough, OP. Stop being hard on yourself. Honestly, take yourself back to the platter place now and order a whole one for yourself and have enough left over for both you and DH. If you’re feeling extra kind, call your DH on the way there and invite him to join you.

This isn’t worth the stress.

I WISH I could go back! But DD is asleep, and he's gone.

I would be livid and I wouldn't let him anywhere near me until he made a sincere apology.

I'd be so pissed off

YANBU, that would really piss me off too. I don't agree that food in the fridge is fair game when it's clearly a special meal you've brought home and not just random items from the weekly shop.

He needs to drop the vegetarian pretence

Never, ever touch a pregnant woman's food like. No good comes of it.

I once had a sobby, snotty foot stampy thing when I was pregnant because I couldn't get my clothes on fast enough to get a desired feast lolly from the shop and ex wouldn't go for me.

Sometimes pregnancy feelz just take over.

I would want to rip his head off.

At least he won't do it again.

I’ll be honest, there’s not a single friend on this planet who I could go to dinner with who I wouldn’t go to a restaurant the next night to grab a takeaway platter for because she was craving and sad. If you’re home with DD, could a friend grab the platter for you?

(I might be over-invested here because there was a place near my old house who made the best meat platters with mezze and dips. When I was pregnant, I couldn’t eat at all and I was desperate to be able to eat it again. Then, when DD was born, she had CMPA and I couldn’t have any (meat was marinated in yoghurt). Then we moved away and I never had my platter again.)

If I could, I’d get you your platter OP. Also, I know you’re pregnant and that makes you emotional but he’s quitting meat and that makes me bitchy so maybe that’s why he was an arse?

Sorry, upset as you are but I think YABU. It was food in the fridge that you hadn't told him to leave alone or to at least not eat all of.

Of all the things to rage about.... this ain't it 😕

YANBU. My previous partner used to eat any sweets I bought or was given as presents. I hardly ever eat sweet things but sometimes I like to.
One year a friend bought me a personalised box of Haribos for my birthday - they had my photo on the box and said happy birthday - I found the empty box before I had even eaten one. I did not even open them myself. So yes I would be very annoyed.

I'd be really pissed off. It's not about needing permission to eat something from the fridge, it's about eating something which is very obviously yours. If DP has bought himself something/has leftovers, I wouldn't dream of eating it, knowing he'd have planned to have it for a meal and so it'd leave him short.

I baked brownies last week. He despises chocolate orange. I saved myself one chocolate orange brownie and made treat boxes for my mum and friends for Mother's Day so gave the rest away. Saved him two Mars bar brownies, his favourite. I came down the next morning to my brownie in the bin. He didn't know it was chocolate orange (despite it had a big segment of chocolate fucking orange on top) and he'd microwaved it, didn't like it, so chucked it. I was irrationally pissed off with that, too. If he'd have applied a bit of sense and looked at the decoration on top, he'd have known which was mine!

YABVU

Leftover food in the fridge is fair game

You'll get everyone asking if you all need permission to eat food in the fridge (in fact I see one already) but this isn't a bit of cheese or a pack of ham, or the leftover of a shared dinner

I would absolutely expect to be asked before someone ate the leftovers I brought home from a restaurant, or the remains of a solo takeaway, or nice chocolate that had been bought as a gift and I would be really cross if they felt it was fair game just because it was in the fridge

You were probably a bit OTT but his reaction is really twattish

He should really know better, this isn't his first rodeo and to not apologise is probably the last straw, I wouldn't be impressed with him passing off either unless it was to go get you a suitable replacement.

Id be pissed off. Leftovers aren’t fair game in our house, whoever they first belonged to gets first dips!