To be fucked off that DH ate my leftovers

[CatLoaf]

I had an amazing dinner last night, steak platter with friends. It came with bubble and squeak, fab chips...piles of it, and we couldn't finish it. I checked with the others if they were OK with me taking the leftovers home, and was so so looking forward to them tonight. DH (a 'flexitarian' who tries not to eat meat), just told me he ate it for lunch.

I am so so pissed off, and I KNOW I should have expressly told him not to eat it if that's what I wanted. But I'm 6 months pregnant, hormonal, and when he told me I just saw red. Totally overreacted and told him I was really pissed off with him. Then went into our bedroom and had a scream into a pillow. I know, pathetic. Then I told him he could sort his own dinner out.

Now he's taken his coat and backpack and gone out, saying he can't stay here atm. It's completely blown up and I feel horrible. Currently sitting in the dark in DD's room. I hate this

No. May I suggest you don't enter the field of psychology. I just think the OPs DH has treated her like shit.

That's such a fucking horrible thing to say.
He returned after about half an hour, and we went to bed without resolving it really.
We're OK today, but I need to get control of my anger when stuff like this happens, and he needs to not eat my stuff! Especially my meat... Flexitarian nonsense 🙄

That's such a fucking horrible thing to say.
He returned after about half an hour, and we went to bed without resolving it really.
We're OK today, but I need to get control of my anger when stuff like this happens, and he needs to not eat my stuff! Especially my meat... Flexitarian nonsense

Shit happens! I had a screaming crying fit during one pregnancy, I can't remember what it was even about it was so stupid. No one died, everything was fine. Hopefully you and your partner understand each other much better than anyone here 😁

Indeed it is. To justify abuse because one is pregnant/hormonal is flipping wild.

To think telling someone you’re pissed off is abuse is also flipping wild 🙄

@ManipulatorPedipulator I think the pp was pointing out that locking him out of his own home as suggested would be abusive, and it would.

That’s also not abuse

Well, that didn't happen. Neither of us were abusive, and I think that pp is taking the piss a bit tbh🙄

His reaction was totally OTT.

A second baby is no joke so he may be looking for an out. Naturally it has to be your fault.

You have two real dc to take care off. An overgrown man baby who takes off in a tantrum is no help. He'll in all likelihood be back in the morning as if nothing happened. Watch out for it happening again. You don't need this stress not to mention also being pregnant.

And stop blaming your hormones. They're there for a reason. The pregnant evolved to survive in dangerous times and not be ridiculed!

This brings back memories of my childhood. My stepfather was food aggressive like this. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to be unkind or rude. It's not a get out of jail card for being an asshole.

It's probably been sorted out now seeing as it happened in March!

@CatLoaf

your emotions will be all over x
whether he should or shouldn’t have eaten the leftovers is not the point - pregnant lady trumps here I think - make up tomorrow now harm done?

His reaction is out of order. He should have asked. The food wasn't general house food.

I would also walk away if my partner was this irrational (like screaming into a pillow over some leftovers), and come back to discuss things once they've calmed down.

What's pregnancy got to do with any of this? It's not an excuse to act like an arse. Why do some women think that they can get away with any kind of irrational arsey behaviour just because they are pregnant?

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Whilst you know you overreacted (which we all do at times - it's normal), it's also a bit rude to eat food that clearly the other person sourced. If my husband had leftovers in the fridge from a meal out, I'd definitely check before eating.

So YANBU but you overreacted. But then he's also overreacted by leaving so...

He is in the wrong times two.

1. He stole your food

1. He walked out

He is 100% in the wrong here. Entitled and arrogant behaviour.

He deserves any crap you need to shell at him. The nerve of him eating a pregnant woman's leftovers.

THIS THREAD IS FROM MARCH PEOPLE!!!!

Judging has no time limit

I'd be livid! Clearly it was YOUR food from YOUR plate from YOUR meal in the restaurant. Pretty obvious it's YOURS! Sorry but no way I would back down he is 100% in the wrong! I hope he takes you back there or gets a takeaway.