To be fucked off that DH ate my leftovers

[CatLoaf]

I had an amazing dinner last night, steak platter with friends. It came with bubble and squeak, fab chips...piles of it, and we couldn't finish it. I checked with the others if they were OK with me taking the leftovers home, and was so so looking forward to them tonight. DH (a 'flexitarian' who tries not to eat meat), just told me he ate it for lunch.

I am so so pissed off, and I KNOW I should have expressly told him not to eat it if that's what I wanted. But I'm 6 months pregnant, hormonal, and when he told me I just saw red. Totally overreacted and told him I was really pissed off with him. Then went into our bedroom and had a scream into a pillow. I know, pathetic. Then I told him he could sort his own dinner out.

Now he's taken his coat and backpack and gone out, saying he can't stay here atm. It's completely blown up and I feel horrible. Currently sitting in the dark in DD's room. I hate this

She should’ve spoken to her line manager and they’d have checked the CCTV so HR could ask OP’s DH about the incident. Oh wait…

So you had a lovely meal and you begrudge your OH the leftovers? Seriously?

Sort of hoping he has taken his rucksack to buy steaks...

How big are these steaks going to be do you think

I understand your perspectives and frustration, your dh was rude and selfish especially as it was due to you that you had the food to begin with,.Your dh is a pickle

If someone accidentally eats your lunch out of the work fridge- do you see red, and go have a scream?

How is eating someone else's lunch from a work fridge ever accidental?

right? I'd not blame him if he didn't come back at all.

And I think he’s a prize cunt and wouldn’t blame OP for not letting him back in. Funny how we all have such different opinions, isn’t it?

op i hope hes back and youve both forgiven each other

OP sorry that you were looking forward to finishing the rest of your meal and he snaffled it.

My mother's a terror for this, a friend came visit and she brought me a box of chocolates. My mother ate the entire box, I was really cross.

Another one who would be mad as well even when not pregnant! If pregnant I’d have hit the roof 😁 I can’t believe he’s just stomped out like that. Maybe he’s mad at himself too for eating meat and deflecting that onto you too?

Do not let him turn this one around on you Op. Do not apologise.

He owes you a massive apology.

“I checked with the others if they were OK with me taking the leftovers home”.

Why did you have to check with the others, did you take everyone’s left overs?

YABU you didn't mention that he can't eat it, how would he know. Anything in family fridge is for whole family to eat. Plus it's just a food and he is your husband. I can never argue about food

Well..you know which restaurant it came from why not order it fresh today again?

Pregnant too if i want to eat something my husband goes gets it regardless if he has eaten it or not, tbh i wouldnt want to eat leftovers anyways while pregnant bubble and squeak is already heated up leftiver so its heating it up third time around,,urgh.

Furious over a strangers left overs ? That is not a normal reaction.

It’s called empathy.

@Ktime or projection

Never happened in any office I've been in...

He should have asked then knowing he didn’t bring it in.

My DH and I will make or bring food in. We don’t always see when the other has but will notice something is new in the fridge. We ask each other if we can have something that one of us has brought in. Simple manners.

Nope, empathy. The poster hasn’t even given her own experience so how is it projection?

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I've never seen this either. If it's happening I'll wager it wasn't an accident.

“So your pregnant wife had some lovely leftovers and you didn’t ask to share them, just ate the lot? Seriously?”