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To not give up my Playmobil and cut cousins hands off if she tries to take it?

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Qantaqa · 19/03/2023 13:15

Ok Ok .. the last part is possibly U....

I have an extensive collection of playmobil which has been boxed up for many years. I briefly got it out 10 years ago when my DSs were 7/8ish but after a particularly traumatising incident where they broke some I boxed it all back up and put it away and never got it back out. I say this to show that my attachment to it is frankly ridiculous.

My cousins daughter is 6. She is in many ways an mini version of me at that age and I adore her and obviously indulge her and am silly with her in ways her parents can't be. I (obviously) have been buying her Playmobil for birthdays and Xmas which she loves. My collection came up in a discussion at a birthday meal recently and cousins daughter asked if she could come over and play. I said it was boxed away and that was it.

Except it isn't. Cousin has asked about "getting some sets for her DC since I aren't using it". I've politely said various versions of no with excuses, but this morning I had this message,

Hey Q. Any more thoughts over the Playmobile? DC is beside herself with excitement ay the thought of having some of yours! We are out for Mothers Day this afternoon but I'll give you a bell later. xx

Clearly I need a stronger "No over my dead body" response but having moaned mentioned this to DM at lunch she thinks IABU to not "pass it down".

DB thinks I should just go buy a box off Facebook and hand that over which I am considering.

So AIBU to want to keep my Playmobil?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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Ishefuckingkiddingme · 19/03/2023 13:18

You’re being irrational but you’re allowed to be irrational, it’s yours. It’s not hers, she’s not entitled to you. You have no logical reason for not letting her play with it but you don’t need to justify yourself with logic. If I were you, I’d be honest and say you’re irrationally and illogically attached to it and don’t want to risk it getting broken.

Truckinghell · 19/03/2023 13:19

This is a side question really what end are you keeping it? Have I read rightly that noone plays with it?

I mean, that is your right and your cousin isn't entitled to it but I'm genuinely intrigued...

unclebuck · 19/03/2023 13:20

Reply "I didn't even let my own kids touch that - it's mine! " and take the piss of yourself whilst holding your line

tealandteal · 19/03/2023 13:20

Just say “Haha, I’ll leave it to her in my will”

monsterradeliciosa · 19/03/2023 13:20

People need to back off
i hate boundary pushing
say no and stop asking me. I collect them . They are never going to be given away.

on repeat

dietcokelime · 19/03/2023 13:21

tealandteal · 19/03/2023 13:20

Just say “Haha, I’ll leave it to her in my will”

This x100!

Your cousin is a massive CF, to continue going on about it and message you / try to call you to put pressure on! Just don't answer her call.

Berthatydfil · 19/03/2023 13:21

Hi cousin - im not sure i was clear enough, my collection is not up for sharing. I dont want to upset your dd but please respect my decision in this matter and dont ask again or I will have to be firm.

PacificallyRequested · 19/03/2023 13:21

Give a couple of your least favourite sets to the wee girl as a token gesture. Toys are meant to be played with!

steff13 · 19/03/2023 13:22

YANBU. It's silly to keep it boxed up, though. Why don't you display it?

Berthatydfil · 19/03/2023 13:22

PacificallyRequested · 19/03/2023 13:21

Give a couple of your least favourite sets to the wee girl as a token gesture. Toys are meant to be played with!

Give me some of your savings - after all money is meant to be spent

drpet49 · 19/03/2023 13:23

You obviously haven’t been clear enough. But I am intrigued as to why you won’t allow anyone to play with it?

Paq · 19/03/2023 13:24

YANBU. You're a bit weird but YANBU. Your cousin is a CF.

I had very similar attachment to my Lego and Fisher Price so I do completely understand.

LeilaDarling · 19/03/2023 13:24

The will response is fantastic!
Agree, everyone always seems to be pushing for their wants, needs and desires and that of their own kids.
I love giving my niece my childhood toys as I have boys but if my sister EXPECTED them it would irritate me.

whumpthereitis · 19/03/2023 13:24

No, you’re not unreasonable at all. You have an attachment to it and don’t want to give it away, and you don’t have to. That you don’t have it out is irrelevant.

You’ve already politely told her no, and I would personally be significantly less polite now in the face of her attempts to force the issue. If she wants her kid to have playmobil then she can go ahead and buy it herself.

Bunnyhascovidnoteggs · 19/03/2023 13:26

Imo it's a good life lesson demanding dc can't always get what they want...

NailsForBreakfastTacksForSnacks · 19/03/2023 13:27

Absolutely NBU.

I have the original Victorian Mansion in the loft. If I ever have a grand child I would bring it out for them to play with, but it would stay here where I could love it. Not a chance would a random cousins child be taking it anywhere.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 19/03/2023 13:27

Just dismissively say,

“I already said no.” Then immediately change the subject.

Tygertiger · 19/03/2023 13:28

YANBU and I am also similarly precious about Playmobil and Sylvanian Families. Could she play with them with you as a compromise? I can cope with that if I am there to police the handling of the items 😆

feelinglikeanewparent · 19/03/2023 13:28

DB thinks I should just go buy a box off Facebook and hand that over which I am considering.

Why do people do this? Pick the easier option.

Just say no. One word. Every time. It's not hard.

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 19/03/2023 13:30

I would reply a combo of what PPs have said. Of course YANBU. It's yours and you have a strong attachment to it. If you're a toy story fan just try not to think of your poor wee Playmobile characters in the loft longing to be played with. 😉

gazpachosoupday · 19/03/2023 13:32

Have you had a look to see how much it is worth?

I know lego sets can go up in value, but if they are now expensive sets, you can say that to your cousin, or she can buy them off you for £800

1000yellowdaisies · 19/03/2023 13:32

Cousin probably doesn't understand your attachment to it, but its yours, its important to you and you are of course not compelled to give it to any child. I would message back and politely tell her its something you treasure and you don't want to get it out. If she doesn't understand that, its tough.

burnoutbabe · 19/03/2023 13:32

If it's all boxed does it have value? Check eBay out?

Then you can use it as an excuse-it's collectible and will be funding your retirement!

Qantaqa · 19/03/2023 13:34

See she already knows I am irrationally attached to it. Its been a bit of a long standing family joke that I would throw the DCs out before I threw the Playmobil out...

I used to have it on display in the spare room until I was 20ish. I then had the DSs and it got put away. I always intended to give it the DSs to play with and as I said I got it out when they were younger but I was just so on edge all the time watching them play with it and then when DS2 broke the leg of the Gnu I actually burst into tears and packed it all way. Its not rational I know. I tell myself that my GC can have it all but the joke in the family is it might have to be Great GC as I'll be dead before anyone is allowed to touch it!

If I had a room to put it out and display it in I would but the spare room is currently a Gym for the DSs.

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SnarkyBag · 19/03/2023 13:34

I like the will comment you could also add in “don’t worry I’m sure DN understands and will be holding onto her own playmobile very tightly until she is a very old lady! Enjoy Mother’s Day”

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