To be clear, I son’t start lecturing anyone, it’s just that quite often friend or family members ask me how come I never have a partner etc.
Usually I just shrug my shoulders and try move the topic, but few times I’ve said honestly that I just don’t believe love is an actual thing.
Once again, I don’t start speeches, just quick honest remark and move the topic.
Never said anything about anyone else’s partners/lack off…
And let me tell you!
This does NOT go well.
People are adamant I am wrong, sad I’ve ’given up hope’ (I haven’t, it just was never there), soon I’ll meet someone and change my mind (doubtfull) and how I can’t say something like that.
Why not?
I do not understand, at all.
AIBU?
Why do people get upset if I say that I don’t believe in love?
CantAskAnyoneElse · 18/03/2023 15:10
Am I being unreasonable?
381 votes. Final results.
POLLOhthebanality · 18/03/2023 20:47
@Thatdarncat4 Your reply to my post was nasty. I may not have expressed myself that well but I meant no harm. There was no need to say the things you did to me.
Tibtilkobkob · 18/03/2023 20:56
It was never the main point of my comment which was the fact you (wilfully or not) misinterpreted pp's comment but I suppose it suits you to divert onto this instead. Re qualitative: I explained exactly what I meant in my last comment. Re-read if unsure.
Tabitha888 · 18/03/2023 21:07
Love is real, it a chemical reaction in the brain... Google it
LolaSmiles · 18/03/2023 20:55
And I think it hasn’t been meaningful to me, because watching all these people have these relationships and then break-up’s, someone new, no that wasn’t it, okey now this, no - get rid…
Round and round.
Like was there actually anything there, ever.
No wonder they're taking your statements about love not being real personally. Just there the way you're talking about it minimises and dismisses people's experiences in favour of a really bitter worldview.
I don't think you can go around telling people you don't think love exists and then be surprised that they work out that you be think their relationships are based on nothing.
Putple · 18/03/2023 20:57
Are you Autistic OP?
I can see you've been asked this a couple of times and you haven't answered, I'm just curious that's all :)
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beastlyslumber · 19/03/2023 00:20
Hardly over dramatic. Saying that someone who doesn't feel love (of any kind, not just romantic) is probably autistic is a bit insulting towards autistic people. I know lots and they all have normal human emotions.
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