To be clear, I son’t start lecturing anyone, it’s just that quite often friend or family members ask me how come I never have a partner etc.
Usually I just shrug my shoulders and try move the topic, but few times I’ve said honestly that I just don’t believe love is an actual thing.
Once again, I don’t start speeches, just quick honest remark and move the topic.
Never said anything about anyone else’s partners/lack off…
And let me tell you!
This does NOT go well.
People are adamant I am wrong, sad I’ve ’given up hope’ (I haven’t, it just was never there), soon I’ll meet someone and change my mind (doubtfull) and how I can’t say something like that.
Why not?
I do not understand, at all.
AIBU?
Why do people get upset if I say that I don’t believe in love?
CantAskAnyoneElse · 18/03/2023 15:10
Am I being unreasonable?
381 votes. Final results.
POLLIncompleteSenten · 18/03/2023 15:31
To clarify - you are talking about romantic love?
You're not basically telling your parents etc you don't love them? Cos if so I can see why they'd be upset 😁
waterlego · 18/03/2023 15:46
I think it probably upsets people because it doesn’t make any sense. Love is a feeling, or a collection of feelings. Just because you personally have never experienced it and don’t believe it is something that exists for you, doesn’t mean that other people aren’t experiencing it.
It is a universal concept, spoken about by billions around the world, and has existed in art and text since man has been creating art and text! That in itself means it exists as a concept, whether you believe in it or not.
MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 18/03/2023 15:17
Because it sounds bitter and rude.
You're seriously suggesting people don't love their parents, siblings, spouses and kids?
I also think it makes you sound jealous, because you haven't found a partner yet.
Abraxan · 18/03/2023 15:32
This.
They hear you don't believe love exists as a feeling.
Which means they also hear that you don't feel love towards them.
Or do you say that it's romantic love you don't believe exists? Or all love?
Hillrunning · 18/03/2023 15:15
Surely this is obvious. Your friends and family are hurt that you are telling them that you don't love them.
StaunchMomma · 18/03/2023 15:57
Do you have kids, OP? Because I don't see how any Mother could not believe in love.
My partner feels like home, to me. I absolutely love him.
So, yes, if someone told me they don't believe love exists I'd think they were talking bollox, sorry.
maddening · 18/03/2023 16:03
And how are you quizzed about your opinion on love so much that there is a pattern of upset people?
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Albiboba · 18/03/2023 15:14
Probably because it comes across as you passing judgement on most of the relationships in their life, presuming they love their partner/kids/siblings/parents/friends.
Just say you don’t want a partner.
No need to climb love isn’t a thing. You just come across as bitter.
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