To be clear, I son’t start lecturing anyone, it’s just that quite often friend or family members ask me how come I never have a partner etc.
Usually I just shrug my shoulders and try move the topic, but few times I’ve said honestly that I just don’t believe love is an actual thing.
Once again, I don’t start speeches, just quick honest remark and move the topic.
Never said anything about anyone else’s partners/lack off…
And let me tell you!
This does NOT go well.
People are adamant I am wrong, sad I’ve ’given up hope’ (I haven’t, it just was never there), soon I’ll meet someone and change my mind (doubtfull) and how I can’t say something like that.
Why not?
I do not understand, at all.
AIBU?
Why do people get upset if I say that I don’t believe in love?
CantAskAnyoneElse · 18/03/2023 15:10
Am I being unreasonable?
381 votes. Final results.
POLLFimofriend · 18/03/2023 16:11
Just because someone is blind it doesn't mean that colours don't exist for other people.
Choconut · 18/03/2023 16:02
Didn't you as a child feel loved by your parents? I know we see their flaws as we grow up but still.... didn't you love you parents as a child? Don't you think you could feel that same feeling for another adult? Love doesn't have to be gushy, it's about feeling safe, trusting, looking out for each other, working together - just being a team with someone else to support each other. I don't know how you don't think that exists.
Do you mean love just doesn't seem to be a feeling you feel - or do you mean you don't think love exists for anyone? They're quite different things.
Donnashair · 18/03/2023 16:00
Op has said they are talking about romantic love.
Why is it bollocks for someone to not agree with you?
StaunchMomma · 18/03/2023 15:57
Do you have kids, OP? Because I don't see how any Mother could not believe in love.
My partner feels like home, to me. I absolutely love him.
So, yes, if someone told me they don't believe love exists I'd think they were talking bollox, sorry.
StaunchMomma · 18/03/2023 16:48
It's like people who've never had an orgasm saying they don't exist.
That too would be bollox!
Donnashair · 18/03/2023 16:00
Op has said they are talking about romantic love.
Why is it bollocks for someone to not agree with you?
StaunchMomma · 18/03/2023 15:57
Do you have kids, OP? Because I don't see how any Mother could not believe in love.
My partner feels like home, to me. I absolutely love him.
So, yes, if someone told me they don't believe love exists I'd think they were talking bollox, sorry.
CahierNumberSixPlease · 18/03/2023 16:38
I don't believe in romantic love either. I have a DD who I adore but that's not the same as being "in love" with a person. Just because me, the OP, or anybody else holds that view why should others be upset about it if they truly think that kind of love exists? If it leaves them feeling bewildered or defensive then maybe they aren't "in love" at all and the thought frightens them. If they were secure in their knowledge that romantic love is what they feel then it shouldn't bother them what others feel or think should it?
StaunchMomma · 18/03/2023 16:48
It's like people who've never had an orgasm saying they don't exist.
That too would be bollox!
Donnashair · 18/03/2023 16:00
Op has said they are talking about romantic love.
Why is it bollocks for someone to not agree with you?
StaunchMomma · 18/03/2023 15:57
Do you have kids, OP? Because I don't see how any Mother could not believe in love.
My partner feels like home, to me. I absolutely love him.
So, yes, if someone told me they don't believe love exists I'd think they were talking bollox, sorry.
Augend23 · 18/03/2023 16:48
I mean I think it's pretty different saying "I don't experience love as an emotion" from saying "I don't believe love exists at all (including for all you other people who clearly do) and therefore believe the emotion on which you have based probably a significant number of major life decisions is nothing but a load of nonsense ".
One is just about you, the other makes a judgement about others as well.
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