I've been talking to a man I met online for the past week and a half. We have a date set up for next week. He's very chatty, extremely keen, bordering on too keen really but I was open to seeing how the date. I have been completely put off.
He has taken a picture of me from my social media and sent it to this random bloke (random to me atleast, it's his friend) saying this is the pretty woman I'm taking out next week.
The friend replies "she ain't pretty" and asks him to send a picture of me without a filter on. There's no filter on the picture in the first place.
He then asks him to show him a picture of my teeth!
I know all of this as the guy I'm scheduled to go on a date with thought it would be a great idea to screenshot their exchange and send it to me alongside a request for a picture of my teeth.
Who the fuck does that?
What that says to me is that he has a total disregard for boundaries, my privacy and decency in general. His friend is obviously a prick. Probably the sort who insults people for fun under the guise of "banta mate"
I know I'm not BU for cancelling a date for whatever reason I see fit but do you see this the way I see it or am I being OTT due to embarrassment? How would this make you feel?
I've NC for this.
AIBU?
To cancel the date and ditch the bloke because of this..
Raffety · 06/03/2023 11:44
Am I being unreasonable?
3003 votes. Final results.
POLLTheredfoxfliesatmidnight · 06/03/2023 13:20
I swear we as women were genuinely better off when religion and social rules meant that a man had to ask permission from the Father to take his daughter out, and then had to return her by 10 pm. As women collectively it seems we are shit at exercising self respect or enforcing decent behaviour. And therefore men get away with it. These posts make me sad.
Raffety · 06/03/2023 12:09
He tried to style it out by saying he's sure women do the same about men behind their backs.
I can't say I ever have personally. Have any of you?
If any friends of mine ever did make jibes about a dates appearance I certainly wouldn't then screenshot it and send it to the man it's about.
I told him his behaviour is quite frankly weird and blocked him. Lucky escape.
southlondoner02 · 06/03/2023 11:51
I wonder if it's a complicated way of 'negging' you - why else would he send you a message telling you his mate doesn't think you're pretty?
Definitely block!
Raffety · 06/03/2023 13:37
He's 38 believe it or not 🤦🏼♀️
MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 06/03/2023 11:51
Bizarrro.
'show me her teeth. Are they aware you're a human and not a mare?
Raffety · 06/03/2023 13:42
I'm not familiar with the word negging and had to look it up but that fits well.
I say "believe it or not" about his age as its bizarre to me that a man pushing 40 would behave in a way you'd expect from a teenage boy.
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