To cancel the date and ditch the bloke because of this..

[Raffety]

I've been talking to a man I met online for the past week and a half. We have a date set up for next week. He's very chatty, extremely keen, bordering on too keen really but I was open to seeing how the date. I have been completely put off.

He has taken a picture of me from my social media and sent it to this random bloke (random to me atleast, it's his friend) saying this is the pretty woman I'm taking out next week.

The friend replies "she ain't pretty" and asks him to send a picture of me without a filter on. There's no filter on the picture in the first place.

He then asks him to show him a picture of my teeth!

I know all of this as the guy I'm scheduled to go on a date with thought it would be a great idea to screenshot their exchange and send it to me alongside a request for a picture of my teeth.

Who the fuck does that?

What that says to me is that he has a total disregard for boundaries, my privacy and decency in general. His friend is obviously a prick. Probably the sort who insults people for fun under the guise of "banta mate"

I know I'm not BU for cancelling a date for whatever reason I see fit but do you see this the way I see it or am I being OTT due to embarrassment? How would this make you feel?

I've NC for this.

[Gemcat1]

The problem is that far too many people make friends through social media and not face to face so don't learn social cues. He probably doesn't think that he's done anything wrong.

[JMSA]

What a fucking idiot. And a lucky escape for you, OP!

[Roman151]

I'd say 100% he's "negging" you - wouldn't even be surprised if the "mate" was him with another number. I don't think this is him being tone deaf, he knows exactly what he's doing - in my opinion.

I'd block and not look back.

[callthataspade]

@SideshowBlob why are you asking that here?

[knittingaddict]

@Roman151

I'd say 100% he's "negging" you - wouldn't even be surprised if the "mate" was him with another number. I don't think this is him being tone deaf, he knows exactly what he's doing - in my opinion.

I'd block and not look back.

That's what I think too. This man and his imaginary friend are having a bit of fun at your expense op.

[ChaliceinWonderland]

Jesus wept!! you can report him in the dating site too, have done this a couple of times when blokes were offensive, eg texted me for a pic so they can have a wank ( ffs) ... there are some truly gross losers out there.

[Luckypom]

@Raffety

throw him back - in any direction but mine! Wtf do these people think they are at 😕 it’s depressing tbh but at least you know now before having to endure a date without seeing the narcissistic idiot

[PKDaisy]

He sounds very immature and probably asks his mates opinion on everything. You are quite right to cut any contact with him.