Anybody else scared to post on Mumsnet

[Herthatry]

I feel like Mumsnet can be a bit toxic sometimes and I feel a bit uncomfortable posting anything.

People can be very judgmental in here.

You can report your post and ask for it to be moved to another board

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I'm one of those dreadful feminists @ilovesooty so fair game.

I doubt it's any different from walking into a large hall full of strangers and asking them for their opinion on your issue. Some will say "Aww!", some will call you an idiot, some will say "but why did you have another child with him when you knew he was like that?" You're better off asking a friend or a paid professional if you need a sensitive answer.

It got really bad during covid with the "stay the fuck at home" posters.

I was a frequent poster on a positive news thread on here for a bit as living with a cev Dh and it was a very stressful time. And there were people constantly monitoring the thread to say we were deluded, covid would get worse and worse for years and vaccines and useful treatments would never arrive. If you any remotely good news you were burying your heads in the sand. How's that going now you horrible fuck heads?

I've noticed recently there's a lot more posters trying to catch op out, like they think they're lying all the time. Which really annoys me

It comes across as so petty and childish

They don't even offer advice or any sort of contribution to the thread at all

I never bare my soul on here. Far too risky. I also never reveal my weight, height or eating habits (nothing out of the ordinary, but enough to get the closet orthorexics and Kate Moss wannabes out of the woodwork).

I have figured out over the years that AIBU is spoiling for a fight, 90% of the stuff on Relationships is made up and don’t get me started about the Education posters whose children have 12 GCSE grade 9s, five A* at A-level and an Oxford scholarship in the bag. Despite this, I do love the reminiscence threads, the quirky ones on language (like the odd place names) and the plain crazy wrong answers ones.

Unfortunately this is the result of the increase in trolls over the past few years. People got annoyed at wasting their time giving advice, and now they get annoyed on other people's behalves when they think those are wasting their time giving advice in good faith to an OP who they believe is trolling.

I for one would never advocate for strong women! Women should be weak, meek, and ready to... not speak!

I've reported a nasty personal attack like that today and was pleased to see it was quickly deleted.

Clearly you are not scared to post on MN because here you are starting a thread in AIBU.

And of course you don't name change, so you're bound to look familiar 😉

I know. Nothing worse than feminists or strong women on a board predominantly aimed at women.

Are you quite young, op?

Or maybe a man, scared of the monstrous regiment?

Mn can be utter bollocks, but it can also be brilliant. I think netmums used to be good for the people seeking constant affirmation.

One thing in particular that I've noticed lately is that I'll post a comment expressing a similar view or opinion to several other posters,and someone will single me out to make a sarky remark or have a go at me,even though several others have said virtually the same thing! Very strange.

I haven't started a thread. I'm not scared or worried a troll will take me down. I honestly couldn't give a fuck, I just don't feel like creating a post. I wouldn't know where to start anyway, it's hard enough doing the food shop at the moment.

Actually I do @ilovesooty

I am literally everyone on MN, including YOU!

Bwahahahaha.

I think I'll get my coat.

Oh there are some insane posters on here. They are always looking at ways to blame an OP. Or the ones the days ones child turns 18, they can never have a parent intervene and help. And woe betide landlords, grandparents, in laws and step parents.

Total batshit answers sometimes - pass the popcorn :)

Anyone with any degree of cop on knows that you only come on MN to read and join in on other people’s threads.

You don’t start your own. Let alone in AIBU. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Very true!

You can never guess before opening.

You have the men haters, the feminists and the strong 💪 women advocates trying to break any relationship

Yeah... if you post shit like that I'm not surprised you get offensive replies.

99% of the women posting in Relationships are miserable as fuck and at their wits end. Leaving the situation seems a reasonable suggestion.

Oh the irony OP

I've seen plenty of this too. There is a particularly bitter contingent who often post on relationships threads who are clearly men who feel they have been wronged/taken to the cleaners by their ex wives and so bang on and on about how no one realises the pressure of being the sole provider etc (this is often regardless of whether the op works or not). It's so tedious. Same old thing every time.

Great to see you managed to get over this fear 👍

There is a really sad thread going at the moment and this poor Mum has traveled across the world to be with her daughter on ITU …some of the comments have been absolutely hideous…I really understand what you are say…some absolute horrors out there ..sad people!

Bad hostess because I have a shoeless house. Was also called "really fucking weird" because I have a basket of slippers for guests if they want them and "utterly grim" because clearly I'm lying about chucking them in the washing machine between uses

Kinell. I remember this one @ReneBumsWombats: some years ago now. It stood out in memory as one of the most batshit crackpot threads aside from the repeated missives on 'People Who Don't Answer Their Own Front Doors Are The Devil Incarnate And Are Going Straight To Hell'.

I've never seen @MrsTerryPratchett bullying anyone.