Anybody else scared to post on Mumsnet

[Herthatry]

I feel like Mumsnet can be a bit toxic sometimes and I feel a bit uncomfortable posting anything.

People can be very judgmental in here.

It's certain topics I think. Some people are shockingly unpleasant but at the same time some topics are pretty stupid on the surface and it's hard to hold back at times. AIBU is the worst followed by Relationships but Chat is a little friendlier.

YOU HAVE A FAT BUM

(You don't really, or if you do, it doesn't matter, hooray for bums of all sizes, especially on wombats. I'm not really insulting you. I'm just trying to make a joke.)

Perfect example of why people don’t want to post. To avoid replies like yours.

I had some very supportive PMs to a thread I started asking for advice. That was appreciated.

There's a different issue I feel strongly about that gets me a bit of abuse, but I kind of expect it on that topic.

I have started a thread while I was preoccupied that got zero replies. That was a bit toe-curling tbh.

I do worry that some of the advice freely thrown at women to leave partners immediately can put them at risk. The current thread by the woman whose children have been taken by her partner is concerning. She might have been buoyed up by MN support, without realising the potential for harm. I hope that situation ends well.

I’m pretty sure wombats don’t menstruate though.

I have started a thread while I was preoccupied that got zero replies.

Oh, I've done that. Don't worry. Clearly nobody is looking!

Are you a bit of a troll at heart?

Nope. Nobody is entitled to go through life without a moment’s ‘discomfort’, and I enjoy it as somewhere women can go all Afterlife and just say what the fuck they think without having to be all polite and #bekind like we are often told we should be. I find it refreshing!

Yes, thank goodness 😁

You’re not alone. I read and comment (if I have anything helpful or positive to say) but wouldn’t post myself anymore after seeing and experience vitriol from many keyboard warriors, quick to judge and spout vile on others who are genuinely asking for advice. Plus, Mumsnet seems to have become an anti-trans haven which I find very uncomfortable to be honest.

It’s not trolling, some people (like me) are a bit more marmite and know this and are happy to receive a mixed bag of replies.

@Herthatry

but how exactly do you think you thread will help?

Gut instinct is just to say 'So? It's not compulsory to post. Check out nethuns.'

your post is goading and pointless. Post or don't, but starting threads complaining about the host site is pretty off.

Skinny arse. 😂

You have the men haters, the feminists and the strong 💪 women advocates trying to break any relationship

I am not critical of Mumsnet. The thread is about some posters and we need to talk about it

While some posters are very quick to tell women to LTB and he's abusive, this doesn't worry me. I think we get far more messages that it's acceptable and normal to be treated like shit and most women in abusive relationships don't leave. So I'm not worried about an epidemic of women leaving healthy, happy relationships with wonderful men just because of a few posters on Mumsnet. I don't think it's happening.

Ummmm, have you read what some women have been through?

LTB is often the best option, but the actual leaving part can be risky if rushed into without preparation

I think you've missed the point here.

Also feminists aren't man haters.

If you feel really insecure and are posting purely for validation, just don't. You will get such a mixed bag in terms of response and it may be hard to handle.

If you feel fairly robust and are seriously open to the opinion of others, then fire away. But never ask for what you cannot take.

There's a serious shortage of feminist comment on the internet in my opinion.
The woman-positive threads on MN are the only thing that keeps me here.

I think MN is therapy for a lot of people who go through their lives biting their lips and keeping quiet when things irritate or annoy them.

MN is a forum where we can all be (anonymously) brave and outspoken with our opinions, without the fear of repercussions.

I can only speak for myself, but I am much more outspoken on MN than I am in 'real life'. I suppose in a strange way it's empowering.

Sadly, I'm also finding that sometimes people can be plain nasty on here. It's a shame because most of us post here for help, support and advice.

Oh dear OP. You know those responses that scare you...? Buckle up! 😯

I rarely start a thread. I just lurk and sometimes comment. One time, someone did not like my comment so they made a thread claiming to be me, and posted sockpuppet nonsense all over it.
It really upset me that someone in the world at that time hated me so much as to go on and do such a thing.

I wouldn't post on here asking for advise on anything important

are you a bully? Your name
Is becoming very familiar

I assumed @ReneBumsWombats would take it as a joke, which I think she did. You didn't, which may point to the issue. Do you think maybe you take everything a little too seriously?