Neighbours sex life

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AIBU not wanting to hear the neighbours having sex several times a week?! They are not overly loud but the construction of the houses means there's little soundproofing. I'm embarrassed that I can hear them but I'm just in bed trying to sleep, I'm sure they'd be embarrassed if they knew I could clearly hear them, but what can I do?! I can't exactly tell than can I?

Yes.Tell them.
then hopefully they can make some adjustments.
if you feel embarrassed you could put a card through the door saying
Hello I live next door at number xx and I am being kept awake during the night due to the bed squeaking/headboard banging/groans coming through the front/back bedroom walls.I am sure you weren't aware of this and possibly feel as embarrassed about this as I do.
please would you kindly consider taking some actions to reduce the noise as much as possible and I will buy myself some ear plugs too.
I really appreciate your understanding in this matter
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If the walls are that thin they should be able to hear you coughing loudly - so next time it happens just cough really really loudly several times, until they get the message. You might need to do it really really loudly enough (maybe even angrily!) & they might cotton on!

Don’t do this

Round of applause when they finish?

How long does he last? If they are practicing the karma sutra then maybe, but if not just put up with it. Its life!

Oh I would love to get ideas too. My upstairs neighbour and his lady friends are v v loud. One time I genuinely thought I heard seagulls, which confused me as it was dead of night- it was whoever he was sleeping with. Last summer, when it was scorching, the windows were open and as the estate has lots of apartment blocks, sound bounced off the walls and am pretty sure lots of people heard them. they can go on for ages- which, good for them but it is difficult to sleep to, and difficult when you have family over.

Change your wifi to “the walls are thinner than you think”

Sex is sex. What’s to be embarrassed about? It’s not healthy to be embarrassed over such a natural act.

Yeah it’s not great for you to hear it, but they have no need to be quiet out of fear of embarrassment.

Not very realistic! Far too embarrassing, I'd like to be able to come and go from my house without avoiding eye contact with them forever more!

That’s inspired 🤣

Bang on the wall and shout "She's faking it"

This is the best I think 🤣

How old are they. Not that there is any difference in this at all. I’m just being nosey !

Seagulls 🤣

Does your bedroom share a wall with theirs? I'm just wondering if you could move your bedroom to another room in the house, one that doesn't share a party wall?

If you're talking about an orgy then no need for embarrassment fair enough however they may not be exhibitionists or attention seekers and they themselves might be mortified if they realised.

Why on earth should I?!!

😂😂😂

@Fudgemaker I just thought it might solve the problem altogether!

You either tell them, move your bedroom or ignore it. You don't seem willing to choose any option, so why ask for ideas?

This is a lovely idea. But in real life, you just wouldn’t!! Omg the awkwardness!! Sorry @KarmaStar

😂😁. I think things would stop very quickly if he heard that 👍🏻

Unless they are being ridiculously and deliberately loud, this is just one of the joys of living in a terrace/flat/semi. Noise travels. You don't have to move your bed, but nor do they have to curtail a normal sex life.

If you think the noise they make is extreme then maybe consider addressing it with them. But if it's just a normal level of sound that unfortunately is heard in your house because you share walls then it's probably best to just do what you can in your home to reduce the impact (earplugs, explore soundproofing options, move bedrooms).

This!