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AIBU?

Set his cheating message as his screen saver

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Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 01:38

So my lying, cheating.....now (not that he knows it yet) EX is snoring away beside me. We have the same make and model of phone, and I'd plugged mine in earlier to charge, but didn't realise he'd taken mine out to charge his up while I was in the shower. A notification popped up, on what I thought was my phone plugged in, I went to read the message and saw it was from another women, talking about how amazing their kiss was, completely baffled, I soon realised it was his phone. Turns out not only have they shared this amazing kiss, but they've also spent nights together while he's been away at work. To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement, anger has over ridden me but I want to play it cool before I dump his sorry, pathetic lying cheating fucking ass!!!! I've set his screen saver to the last message she sent, so there's no way he can deny it, I'm waiting for him to eventually see it in the morning, am I crazy, or do I wake him up and kick him out now?????

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HettySunshine · 26/02/2023 07:16

What an absolute knob stain.

You sound ace OP and deserve so much better.

pussycatinfluffyslippers · 26/02/2023 07:17

Stay calm.
Do NOT get upset in front of him.
He is not worthy of your tears.
Do NOT enter into a conversation.
Tell him to leave.
He has 1 hour to get his shit and go.
Anything left behing goes in the bin...today is "taking out the trash" day - and he's been binned.

Threee · 26/02/2023 07:20

Yes be as cool as a cucumber, sit there with your coffee and a paper, feet up and put his bags by the door ready.

Oysterbabe · 26/02/2023 07:24

My bet is that he will make a big fuss about you going through his phone.

Dubbydoodoubter · 26/02/2023 07:25

Fraaahnces · 26/02/2023 03:32

I’d also send all evidence to mutual friends so he can’t try and make you look like an idiot.

Why do people post this crazy shit? If I ever got a text a friend’s H sent with evidence of her cheating, I’d be over to my friend in a shot to support her in the face of his unhinged behaviour.

He would have no business trying to shame my friend or to try to make me ‘take sides’ and all doing so would achieve is to make me resolutely give her my unqualified support.

Having said that,sorry your partner is a shit OP and your screensaver strategy is total class.

JPG21 · 26/02/2023 07:27

What a wanker, I'd text her to let her know he has a partner just in case she doesn't know. How long were you together? 💐

DownInTheDumpster · 26/02/2023 07:27

OP you seem so cool and calm. Can’t wait to hear of his panicked face when he sees that. What a dick.

Anotherschooldilemma · 26/02/2023 07:29

Well done.

I did this before too. He'd been looking up loads of prostututes, booking appts, ringing and texting them. I found out while he was taking part in a sport he plays. I sent screenshots to myself, set stuff as his screensavers, left the phone in his friends car and drove away home myself leaving him stranded.

When the event was over, he didnt know wher I was so rang me from his friends phone. I answered only to tell him I had to leave and his phone was in his friends car.

forgotmyusername1 · 26/02/2023 07:31

I agree with taking a picture of him sleeping with date and time showing and texting it to her saying - 'you want this lying, cheating piece of shit? You can have him. I would watch out though if he says he is going away for work - seems he can't keep his dick in his pants. Good luck. Signed- his partner of x number of years now ex as of this morning'

pictoosh · 26/02/2023 07:31

Yikes…what a nightmare.
He will possibly berate you for going through his phone, as if that matters. There will be other accusations too…maybe you’re frigid, unloving and sent him straight into the arms of another. That doesn’t matter either.
Get the lying fuck out and good luck.

monomatapea · 26/02/2023 07:34

forgotmyusername1 · 26/02/2023 07:31

I agree with taking a picture of him sleeping with date and time showing and texting it to her saying - 'you want this lying, cheating piece of shit? You can have him. I would watch out though if he says he is going away for work - seems he can't keep his dick in his pants. Good luck. Signed- his partner of x number of years now ex as of this morning'

I really wouldn't. Stay classy. Just the photo would be enough for her to realise someone else was there.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 26/02/2023 07:35

I don't think I'd have been able to wait until morning but your way is definitely better. Wait for him to find it and when he comes rushing down, don't say anything. Just let him talk and dig a bigger hole for himself. Then calmly tell him to leave, dignity intact.

Dotcheck · 26/02/2023 07:37

This happened to a friend of mine. She called the OW, and they both woke him up. The look on his face……

C1N1C · 26/02/2023 07:39

Can you get her number?

INEEDAWEEAGAIN · 26/02/2023 07:40

So sorry OP x

pilates · 26/02/2023 07:40

Good for you op. Love what you did btw with the screensaver. So sorry what you are going through 💐

Nugg · 26/02/2023 07:41

Why involve her. She will think he's single! And even if she doesn't she isn't in the relationship this scum bag is.

Walk away head held high. If a PP is right and you've posted about him before please don't go back again. Took me years to run away but my life is better since I did!

londonrach · 26/02/2023 07:41

Good luck today op...today the start of your new life....

ReneBumsWombats · 26/02/2023 07:43

forgotmyusername1 · 26/02/2023 07:31

I agree with taking a picture of him sleeping with date and time showing and texting it to her saying - 'you want this lying, cheating piece of shit? You can have him. I would watch out though if he says he is going away for work - seems he can't keep his dick in his pants. Good luck. Signed- his partner of x number of years now ex as of this morning'

I wouldn't bother involving her at all. Chances are she thinks he's single and even if she knows he's not, he's your problem, not her.

Ffossip · 26/02/2023 07:44

Well done @Tothemoonandbackx
Keep as calm as you can, just show him the door when he eventually emerges this morning.

I think often it unnerves them more if you just say nothing and show no emotion.

TequilaNights · 26/02/2023 07:44

So sorry OP!

I would love to see the look on his face though.. Not gonna lie!

forgotmyusername1 · 26/02/2023 07:46

monomatapea · 26/02/2023 07:34

I really wouldn't. Stay classy. Just the photo would be enough for her to realise someone else was there.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 26/02/2023 07:46

Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 07:09

Sorry for all the typos, heads a bit foggy this morning x

Strong coffee OP and a strong dose of courage. You can do this

ItchyBillco · 26/02/2023 07:47

forgotmyusername1 · 26/02/2023 07:31

I agree with taking a picture of him sleeping with date and time showing and texting it to her saying - 'you want this lying, cheating piece of shit? You can have him. I would watch out though if he says he is going away for work - seems he can't keep his dick in his pants. Good luck. Signed- his partner of x number of years now ex as of this morning'

No, don’t do this. Keep cool, keep the power.

Cuppaand2biscuits · 26/02/2023 07:49

This is horrible, stay strong. Have you got anyone who could come over this morning just so you're not on your own, will make sure he gets out the house without too much drama.

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