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Set his cheating message as his screen saver

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Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 01:38

So my lying, cheating.....now (not that he knows it yet) EX is snoring away beside me. We have the same make and model of phone, and I'd plugged mine in earlier to charge, but didn't realise he'd taken mine out to charge his up while I was in the shower. A notification popped up, on what I thought was my phone plugged in, I went to read the message and saw it was from another women, talking about how amazing their kiss was, completely baffled, I soon realised it was his phone. Turns out not only have they shared this amazing kiss, but they've also spent nights together while he's been away at work. To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement, anger has over ridden me but I want to play it cool before I dump his sorry, pathetic lying cheating fucking ass!!!! I've set his screen saver to the last message she sent, so there's no way he can deny it, I'm waiting for him to eventually see it in the morning, am I crazy, or do I wake him up and kick him out now?????

OP posts:
Jamjaris · 26/02/2023 08:29

I hope you’re ok? Make sure you take your key off his keychain, once you get him to leave block his number as the only closure you need is he is a cheat and you deserve better

ProjectsGalore · 26/02/2023 08:29

So sorry you are going through this op. Stay strong this morning and thank goodness you don't share a home with him. He can just shuffle off!

Mulhollandmagoo · 26/02/2023 08:29

WillowBeeT · 26/02/2023 08:22

Were are all the excuses and sympathy for the guy?
When a woman does it, it’s aw, he’s cold, he’s ignoring you, you were depressed, he deserves it.
Clearly their relationship isn’t working.
Why the double standards though?

Eh????

OP I am so sorry this has happened to you! He's a piece of shit and you deserve better 💐stay strong and calm, don't engage in conversation with him, there is nothing to say, have him get his stuff and leave!!

jelly79 · 26/02/2023 08:30

You sound strong and you know exactly what you need to do! Good luck OP

SomersetONeil · 26/02/2023 08:33

WillowBeeT · 26/02/2023 08:22

Were are all the excuses and sympathy for the guy?
When a woman does it, it’s aw, he’s cold, he’s ignoring you, you were depressed, he deserves it.
Clearly their relationship isn’t working.
Why the double standards though?

What…?

Americano75 · 26/02/2023 08:34

Can you have someone be in the house with you when he wakes up?

shudawudacuda · 26/02/2023 08:34

Stay strong OP, you got this

ThePoshUns · 26/02/2023 08:35

Sounds like you are well rid. If he is still sleeping I'd gather up all of his crap and put it in a bag ready to go. I'd also get dressed, hair and make up done just so he knows what he will be missing. Stay calm and good luck.

ThinWomansBrain · 26/02/2023 08:35

@WillowBeeT must be the slimy cheat whose woken up before the alarm.

hope you're OK OP

ThePoshUns · 26/02/2023 08:36

WillowBeeT · 26/02/2023 08:22

Were are all the excuses and sympathy for the guy?
When a woman does it, it’s aw, he’s cold, he’s ignoring you, you were depressed, he deserves it.
Clearly their relationship isn’t working.
Why the double standards though?

Are you on the same thread or on glue?

Pearsandclocks · 26/02/2023 08:36

I’m sorry you’re going through this. 🙁

Whydothat · 26/02/2023 08:36

Good luck. I hope you remembered to get his door key before he wakes up

RadioactiveWear · 26/02/2023 08:38

Why let him off Scott free? I would message her back off his phone.

Hi

This is tothemoon and back. I see from these messages that the scumbag is living a double life. He's lying next to me here in bed, after telling me last night that he loved me and wants to move in with me. Well, that is not going to happen now.

He'll be awake in a few hours. I will be packing his bags and you are welcome to him. Congrats on your booby prize. He's lying cheating scum and you are welcome to him.

Good luck. Remember, when you get a cheat to yourself, you create a vacancy.

Ciao

jolenethea · 26/02/2023 08:39

Good on you for being so composed.

Trymorelube · 26/02/2023 08:39

sounds like a dick
Maybe you could cheat on him to get your own back!

justasking111 · 26/02/2023 08:40

jolenethea · 26/02/2023 08:39

Good on you for being so composed.

I'm in awe here.

DipperandMabel · 26/02/2023 08:40

I’m sorry he’s been such a cheating bastard. I think you did the right thing not throwing him out at 2am (for your sake) as this likely would have been a scene and probably stressed you out more. This way when he wakes he can get a surprise and fuck off out your life.

If he’s still sleeping I would probably purposefully be a bit noisy (hoover up in the bedroom ha!) cos it’s a reasonable time now. Don’t let him sleep til noon.

Hope you are ok OP.

I would have the exact same advice for a man, women can be cheating bastards too!

RadioactiveWear · 26/02/2023 08:41

OP, get up, get his stuff together and put it in a cheapo bag at the door and tell him it is not open for discussion, you have seen the messages and just leave. If you sent her a message, tell him shes waiting for him.

coffeestrongblacknosugar · 26/02/2023 08:41

Trymorelube · 26/02/2023 08:39

sounds like a dick
Maybe you could cheat on him to get your own back!

ooft! awful advice! Please don't follow this nonsense.

OP I hope you are ok. Pack his stuff and keep that anger until he has gone.

LemonPeonies · 26/02/2023 08:44

Good for you OP! Hope you've got rid of him by now.

Maireas · 26/02/2023 08:44

I think from this point onwards he'll have a lock screen code.
Although he'll still cheat, the woman won't be able to access his phone.

ApiratesaysYarrr · 26/02/2023 08:45

This comes to mind...

Set his cheating message as his screen saver
quietnightmare · 26/02/2023 08:47

Get the OWS NUMBER so you can ask her yourself what's been going on because he is going to play it down

BadNomad · 26/02/2023 08:48

Why are people assuming the OW doesn't know she's the OW? If he only spends nights with her when he's away for work then she'll likely know.

Forget everyone else. They have nothing to do with this. Don't try to publicly shame him. Forget her. She has nothing to do with you. Dont try to confront her.

End it with him then move on with your life.

Ohhmydays · 26/02/2023 08:48

Hope ur ok op x