So my lying, cheating.....now (not that he knows it yet) EX is snoring away beside me. We have the same make and model of phone, and I'd plugged mine in earlier to charge, but didn't realise he'd taken mine out to charge his up while I was in the shower. A notification popped up, on what I thought was my phone plugged in, I went to read the message and saw it was from another women, talking about how amazing their kiss was, completely baffled, I soon realised it was his phone. Turns out not only have they shared this amazing kiss, but they've also spent nights together while he's been away at work. To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement, anger has over ridden me but I want to play it cool before I dump his sorry, pathetic lying cheating fucking ass!!!! I've set his screen saver to the last message she sent, so there's no way he can deny it, I'm waiting for him to eventually see it in the morning, am I crazy, or do I wake him up and kick him out now?????
AIBU?
Set his cheating message as his screen saver
Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 01:38
Am I being unreasonable?
1652 votes. Final results.
POLLLoekMa · 26/02/2023 03:05
Unhinged. Why would you want her in your house?
sashh · 26/02/2023 02:11
I'm not that cool, I'd be sending the message to everyone in his contacts.
Then I would be replying to the OW (as your ex), maybe ask her to come round for breakfast because you have gone away for a couple of days?
Totalwasteofpaper · 26/02/2023 03:49
Assuming its your place he moved into
Wake around 7. Get his main things from outside the bedroom/in the house packed and near the door.
Tell him to give you your keys pack some clothes for a few days and get him out the door/off your property. Dont engage in discussion say you can talk later. He can come back for the rest of his stuff
Remember everything from here on out is "not my fucking problem"
No where to go? Nmfp
Can't move his stuff? Nmfp
Wants to talk it out? Nmfp
Go for a nice brunch and walk in the park. Come home and have a bath/try and sleep.
Your aims should be:
Control the situation.
Get him out asap.
Look after yourself (not him).
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