Set his cheating message as his screen saver

[Tothemoonandbackx]

So my lying, cheating.....now (not that he knows it yet) EX is snoring away beside me. We have the same make and model of phone, and I'd plugged mine in earlier to charge, but didn't realise he'd taken mine out to charge his up while I was in the shower. A notification popped up, on what I thought was my phone plugged in, I went to read the message and saw it was from another women, talking about how amazing their kiss was, completely baffled, I soon realised it was his phone. Turns out not only have they shared this amazing kiss, but they've also spent nights together while he's been away at work. To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement, anger has over ridden me but I want to play it cool before I dump his sorry, pathetic lying cheating fucking ass!!!! I've set his screen saver to the last message she sent, so there's no way he can deny it, I'm waiting for him to eventually see it in the morning, am I crazy, or do I wake him up and kick him out now?????

Oh well there is that.

Hope you can stand strong this time and not let him back in your house. Sounds like you have been treated badly for months before now.

Someone said she was with the other man ( or this man if it's the same one ) for 20 years?

Make sure you keep all the messages to prove he was cheating

hope your ok op. and after previous posts you havent let him back and continue to be a shit to you. seeing youve not updated is a bit worrying that you may indeed have let him walk over you again.
stay strong this time,get him gone

I like your style, OP! Good riddance.

Well played, OP. In fact, you are now one of my heroes.

Oh wow! I'm so sorry. He should be ashamed of himself. Hope you're okay. Sorry to hear that

Guessing OP isn’t comming back. Such a pointless thread if its true.

Any updates @Tothemoonandbackx

Hope you are ok OP

I'd rather handle it calmly and coolly as if I couldn't really care, like OP has, rather than turn myself into a shrill bonkers controlling stereotype (which is perfectly understandable in the circumstances, but only "justifies" the cheater's sense of victimisation).

What for? She knows what she saw. She doesn't need to prove it to anyone.

Why is it pointless. She’s given an update. It’s not a soap opera.

Sorry this happened to you.

Im confused why someone let alone someone cheating would remove security from their phone so anyone could access messages.

Hope you are ok op . Think you’ve handled it so well .

While I don’t think that anyone owes anyone an update, given the previous thread, which seems to have almost identacle wording to this one in terms of that it refers to him as “my now ex as of <insert time>” it sounds as if this relationship is one of those which lives from drama to drama, and the chances of this OP not actually getting rid of him and being back here (probably under a namechange) to bemoan him in a year’s time are high.

In isolation, setting his cheating message as a screensaver and calmly throwing him out is a strong move. When it’s just one of several it’s just an action.

And none of that makes it pointless. Even if it was cathartic for OP, that’s fine, who are you and others to police what is posted on MN? Or how people life their lives: Because if, this is someone’s life and the drama vultures who insist on picking OPs bones clean need to get another fucking hobby tbh.

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What happened then ?

I'd say they've had a big row and now a big make up!

Chill, why are you so bothered?

Placemarking for the update.

You can just watch the thread and then filter by OP's post to see her update the easiest way.

OP, well done for being so strong and inaccepting of his awful behaviour. I hope you're ok