4 days ago had a baby. Mil was at ours when I came back from hospital the next day. She mentioned about going to hers next week so she can invite her family to see the baby. DH said it’s too early and for me to have more time to recover. MIL got very upset at this and since then she has been ignoring DH calls time to time. DH keeps inviting her around but she is refusing. However she told other people like her close friend that we are not letting her see the baby. Her close friend now keeps calling DH and saying how it’s his mum, so not to ditch and how she is acting childish as she’s getting older and to bare with her (she’s 55) and how she’s excited as a grandmother.
So DH did u turn. I have a midwife appt tomorrow and he is saying for us to visit after that. Which I don’t mind but she probably is going to sulk the entire time, so how would I even respond? Or would she think because she acted this way we are visiting?
I’ve been in tears ever since I heard she told people that we don’t let her see the baby. When I had my first, it was a very complicated birth and again it was the same story, it made me depressed. I promised myself that this time round I’m not going to get upset but I just can’t help it. I’m angry at myself!
the other thing is if she does invite her extended family and we go, I’m gonna be expected to help out. Im feeling really tired and sleepless, and not sure if I’d be okay to be hosting in a few days!
aibu to wanting staying at home and doing the gathering later on?
AIBU?
Being pressured to visit in-laws after birth?
Kardelen · 19/02/2023 20:59
Am I being unreasonable?
800 votes. Final results.
POLLGettingStuffed · 19/02/2023 21:05
I had a traumatic first birth and went to stay at my MiL's who spoilt me something rotten .
GettingStuffed · 19/02/2023 21:05
I had a traumatic first birth and went to stay at my MiL's who spoilt me something rotten .
HungryandIknowit · 19/02/2023 21:15
If you give in to her tantrum she'll do it again.
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