DH regrets baby name

[regretter]

It's a long long story, but basically my H regrets the name we've given our DD. She's now 6 months old.

I suppose I pushed for the name more than he did, however he did agree to use it. It's a lovely name and not at all weird.

What would you do about this? There's no way we can change the name and I think it's just unhelpful to even mention the dislike / regret, as we won't do anything about it. It's just his way of getting at me, I think.

I usually let him make decisions/ final calls on stuff, because if I make the final call and he isn't sure, I never hear the end of it. He calls me a cop out, but I just can't be bothered to hear him complain if he doesn't like something. With the name thing, the final call was mine in a way, although he absolutely agreed we should just go with it.

He needs to watch this:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=SqGRnlXplx0

everytime he starts his pish - remind him it’s ‘sand’ and you have more important things to think about / worry about, as does he - worrying about sand diverts your attention from finding joy in life plus it negatively impacts mental health & well being - he can moan about ‘sand’ to his mates over a beer! Continuing to ignore your requests is him failing as a husband.

rinse & repeat!

You need to have an honest conversation with him about how he does this with any decision you have the final say on and that it feels like a personal attack on you rather than being about the name. If you don’t call him out on this behaviour he may continue unaware of it. Once you have highlighted to him that he does this he ought to change and if he doesn’t then it shows you how little he cares about you and that actually it’s deliberate and designed to belittle you and curmudgeon you into being submissive and allow him to choose everything.

This

You have up to a year to reregister a name.

But its a question of do you want to keep the name or not? If so then stand your ground. If he agreed he agreed. If your dd doesn't like it she has the option to change it when she's grown.

Why didn't you have a name that you BOTH agreed on, without you having to persuade him and all the back and forth?

When I was pregnant, if I came up with a name and DH didn't like it, that was the end of it and vice versa.

After reading all of your updates, you need to ditch him and move on. He's a control freak. You will never be happy because he will never allow you to be. Your poor daughter growing up thinking that's how she deserves to be treated and spoken to by her future partner as that is the example that has been set.