Valentine's Day drama WIBU?

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Dh has been unwell for the past week and hasn't made it out to get a valentines card. Seemingly he's also forgot how to use Amazon/Moonpig etc. I haven't made a fuss about it but as it's now apparent I don't have a card for tomorrow I feel a bit put out. Especially as he did a similar thing last year.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not bothered about big statement gifts. But for me a small card is just a token of appreciation. It shouldn't really be a chore and it's not hard work. He's made noises about how he really ought to get to the shop to get me a card which to me just screams of him wanting me to tell him not to bother and don't worry about it. I've calmly tried to explain that there's no point bothering now because he's made it into such a drama and faff thats not what it's about. If he really wanted to sort something he could have popped out and got one without saying anything like I did with his weeks ago.

Aibu to think this is piss poor? Yes he's been unwell but there would have been chance before that. And there's always the internet. Last year something happened where he was otherwise engaged and 'unable' to get me one too. He's usually pretty good otherwise so maybe he just doesn't care about Valentine's Day and I don't either really but it just stings a bit really.

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My husband does it on non made up holidays PLUS Valentine's Day so all the better for me

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I assumed it was the incorrect apostrophes!

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Suggest he draws you something, it doesn't have to be a work of art, just a token. No excuses then. If he is lying in bed take him a piece of paper and a pencil, he won't forget next year.

Think it would be more of an issue if birthday or anniversary. We did used to do Valentines day when we were younger and it was lovely to get a card and flowers etc and yes I would've been peeved if dh hadn't made the effort. Roll on 25 years and I didn't give a hoot he hadn't, it is after all over commercialised these days and not everyone buys into it. Just a little kiss and saying I love you would have always been enough for me. Xx

My parents have been married for nearly 55 years and still do Valentine's.

I think it's the fact that he knows it's important to you and still didn't get you one that's the issue.

You told him not to bother 🤷‍♀️. If you need a card on a particular day to feel the measure of your DH's love, I would suggest that your problems are bigger than a card...

My husband doesn't do valentines at all saying every day of the year is important not just 14 Feb. Look at it that way. It's just a day.

I’m 63 and my DH is 69. We’ve been together nearly 15 years, married for 7. We don’t need Valentine’s Day to show how we feel about each other, but we still exchange cards or something small.

OP YANBU to feel as you do, but if he shows you love and affection regularly anyway, you may have to accept that Valentine stuff is not his thing.

give him paper and felt tips. He can make one like a little kid. it will take more time and be more personal.... it might even be your favourite of all time. I still have all the handmade mother's day cards made at primary school - came across one today and it brought a tear to my eye.

While I don't care about V-day myself, I understand that others may do.

However, you told him not to bother when he was hinting, so why are you surprised that he didn't?

No you’re not being unreasonable.
If you like to celebrate it, then it means alot to get a card with their words written/typed.
There are lots of people who choose not to celebrate it and often those same people like to make out that you’re silly for wanting to.
I would be disappointed if my husband didn’t get a card and vice versa.

We are 14 years married this year and always do a card and a little something...and a special meal at home for me, dh and ds 8yrs, nothing huge and expensive, but candlelit etc. It isn't a big deal but we think it's nice to mark the occasion and show one another a bit of love that we can sometimes be too busy to stop and think about. I get where you're coming from OP, it isn't about the gift and expensive cars, it's about being thought of,I think I'd be feeling a bit stung too if I were you.

Don’t do Valentine’s Day. We’re nice to each other all the time 🤷‍♀️

Do you seriously imagine that people who buy a card and a bunch of daffs are absolute shitbags the other 364 days a year?

I don't do Valentine's Day. I make no judgement about the niceness of other people based on which days they acknowledge or celebrate.