Dr told me I'm three and a half stone Overweight but I'm in no place

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To accept it or get motivated.
I have every reason to be motivated . But I'm not.

I've three kids, on my own , my knees and ankles are paining me, I've a back injury that can be healed woth walking and im single and would like to feel my best to look my best to meet someone one day.

I don't know how I got to this place.
I can carry two stone over. Im 5'7 but this is a new low for me.
Where do I even begin.

My mood is so low and I feel hopeless and full of despair for the future .
That chat we had was just the mail in the coffin.
AIBU to think I can do this in my own.
I can't afford a club or dietician.

I have so little time for planning or prep and as dr said to me ' once again, it's us women putting ourselves last and waking up unhappy with our weight and fitness one day'
All opinions appreciated and even a kick up the behind .
Thank you for reading.

• nail in the coffin ..

I have been using the nutracheck app with great success after many fecked up diets. Its only a couple of quid a month. It's like a food diary, there's recipes and forums too. I've found it really helpful although it took a couple of weeks to get into it now its almost automatic.

Why not go to the Weight Loss forum on here? Very encouraging posters, many of whom have more to lose than you. AIBU is really not the best place.

Not sure if u were really looking for recommendations now I read back! It does bloody suck, it was developing significant health problems that gave me the kick up the arse I needed. Don't be me!

Your GP should be providing you with help & support.

Oh OP it's really hard.

I've been feeling the same so faced the scales in early Jan, I'm 3kg heavier than when I gave birth 3 years ago! And I'm 3.5 stone over my happy weight. I've been calorie counting using an app, walking as much as I can and drinking 2+ litres a day, its a slow and steady loss but I'm not starving or feeling like I'm on a diet, I feel better in myself already. Just small little baby steps, the motivation will come but just sometimes you have to fake it a bit first.

This is a situation that millions of us find ourselves in. Including me. Always putting ourselves last.

I suggest you try intermittent fasting because it should be something that isn't difficult to implement in your position. You don't eat when you get up - eat at 11ish. Have a small snack of nuts or cucumber and hummus if you need it in the afternoon. Eat dinner whenever in the evening. Don't eat until the next day. If you only take in food during those times, you should lose weight, even if the food at the meal times is not perfect. Drink lots of water. Don't beat yourself up about it. It's because you have been selfless.

Thanks.
My GP suggested mfp and definitely walking . She wants me to take things slowly and concentrate on food first as I'm so time poor .
She said I'm way off any of those injections And anyway my issues lie in my mental health: motivation at the moment I suppose .

First off, you can do it. But there will be challenges.

Do you have any help at all with the kids so that you can go to an aqua fit class or swimming? This is a no impact exercise and your joints would not be painful. Can you afford to do this?

What did your GP advise in terms of the help they can provide, if anything?

Can you walk the kids to school at all?

Can you do youtube videos?

Also, if you look on the British Heart Foundation website for recipes, try to make one meal change for a week or a month, or a snack change for a week or a month. Then implement another meal change etc.

You can do it, but don't get disheartened and just keep going, keep trying. Start small and build up. Good luck.

People in this area are being prescribed 12 weeks of slimming world
Can you ask if your GP offers similar?

I can do intermittent fasting as I don't eat until 1130 amyway.
I think my downfall is being unprepared and picking up anything I can get
My hands on when hungry.
I really do not each a massive amount of food or even thousands of calories.
It's gone in over about 15 years but mainly in the last three .

I'm in Ireland so everything is private and costly !

I will look up the heart foundation also thanks

Maybe spend one afternoon at the weekend batch cooking 3 or 4 different healthy recipes. Freeze the portions so you always have something handy.

Alternatively, use a slow cooker in the morning before you go out.

Lone parent of 3 here. I struggle with motivation too and can easily slip into bad habits. I've found a quick 20/30min YouTube exercise video in an evening really helps. I don't do morning exercise, I have to get up early enough as it is. I've been buying those chocolate protein mousses from aldi too to beat the chocolate cravings. Start by slowly building yourself a routine. You can do this.

Also, have lots of quick easy to grab but low calorie things in. Soup, porridge pots, low cal crisps/yoghurts. Avoid buying any kind of chocolate you like, I only buy stuff I don't like for the kids (they love it though).

I think you have to start introducing small changes, you don’t have to change everything overnight.

also, think about what you can ADD rather than taking away.

so - I can add 2 portions of veg or salad with my dinner / I can add a walk around the block at lunchtime / I can add a big glass of water with my morning coffee.
As you start to introduce good habits you’ll naturally drop some of the less beneficial habits.

There are loads of free beginner work out on YouTube. Try Grow with Jo, she does low impact no equipment exercise, lots of which are just based on walking on the spot (sounds stupid but is actually quite fun).

You don’t have to suddenly be measuring every single calorie or spending hours exercising, but you do need to introduce change. Introduce and commit to it.

if you know off handing snacking is an issue then you have to get better at planning - or at least having low cal snack options. It won’t get better on its own so commit to some small basic changes and go from there.

you can do it - you’ll feel so much better in a very short space of time I promise. Just start!

I recently listened to this audiobook (also available as a classic paper book) and absolutely loved it, heartily recommended

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B07VSHTHXN/ref=tmm_aud_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&qid=&sr=

I'm doing Team RH Fitness as well, about £6.99 a month I think. Really easy to follow. Focus in steps and calorie deficit.

All the best OP.

I am the same, OP, and it has taken me ages and ages to get in the right headspace for trying to lose weight. I made the new year my start point and am using MFP to count calories and making sure I have 1.5-2l water a day. You honestly CAN do this - just take it one day at a time. Make sure you've a good pair of kitchen scales to weigh out portions and stock up on plenty of fruit, veg and low cal yoghurts etc in your shop. Make life easy if you can and buy things that are already portioned for easy calorie counting. It is a bit of extra effort - but it's honestly not as much as you think and will soon become part of your routine. You've got this!

Sorry wrong thread

Stop immediately not eating until 11:30. That will not be helping you and ultimately will be fuelling your poor food choices.
Is there a reason why you are doing that?
Work out your BMR ( the calories you need to survive) and then work out a deficit, 20% with little exercise will see you drop a small amount a week, that will lead to sustained weight loss. Accept the fact you are eating more than you think.
Happy to work out your BMR if you'd happy to share your activity levels, height, age and weight.
You can do this OP, both options are hard there is no easy solution but if you don't sort it now it will impact your lifespan and future quality of life for your children.

Thanks I'm 50, height 5'7'. Weight 95kg. Activity level. Sedentary .
I work full time so only get breakfast after a commute at 1130.

My GP just gave me free weight
Watchers/slimming world. I have an app

I am waiting for it to a kick in atm
I was
Horrified when I saw the scale

It creeps up on you, doesn’t it, and then one day the number on the scale seems to be so high, it’s overwhelming. (22 stone to 11.5 stone here over 3 years, at 6 foot).

Then all the stuff online seems designed to make you feel bad if you’re not getting up at 5am for a 10k run into the dawn, followed up by a freshly-prepared smoothie full of exotic supplements and organic fruit from an ethically sustainable farmer’s market 🙄.

In reality, sometimes the best you can do is pick the healthiest option your head can handle on the takeout menu (seriously, sometimes my best is swapping out the cheese on my large Dominos to the reduced fat cheese and that’s a bloody win in my book!).

Small steps, that’s all that’s needed, to make your way back. There are tiny changes that you can make, slowly but surely and they add up over time. It went on gradually and it will come off that way as well.

I’ve been where you’ve been and the mental headspace is horrible. This is the worst point though, I can promise you that.

If you want to talk, my DM’s are open - I qualified as a nutrition coach last year and I’d be happy to talk through your schedule and home life, your pressure points and where you can make those little, manageable changes (for free, obvs - I got qualified to give myself the best knowledge, not to coach as a business!).

Sometimes, just knowing you’re doing one small thing a little healthier consistently gives you that feeling of success that then motivates you to handle more 🙂.