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H arrested for crashing car..over the limit. What happens

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user1471427614 · 05/02/2023 22:53

Husband has just phoned on his way to work to tell me hes crashed his car into a lamp post. He says police are there..hes ok..no one else involved. I tell him ilk phone work and let them know. In the time it takes to do that hes been breathised and blow 81 and has been arrested. I only know as the policeman answered the phone.

Husband has a problem with drink but only works two nights. I didnt know he was drinking while driving. He lost his licence for this when he was 17.

I've never been involved with the police. Does anyone know what might happen. They have taken him to the custody suite. When do they get realised is it mornings or could it be in the night. Does anyone know what might happen ie chargers. Points. Prison??? I've got no idea

We have 4 kids at home. He does the school run (walks). I'm guessing that I will have to do that tomorrow (at least and go to work late.

I'm sure your agree that I'm not be unreasonable to tell him that any drinking stops now.

Any advice or handheold would be appreciated I'm shaking and dont know what to do

OP posts:
XDownwiththissortofthingX · 05/02/2023 22:59

He'll be released whenever he's deemed sober enough to make his way home.

Over the limit is a guaranteed 12 month ban and fine as a minimum. Depending on whether his previous offence is still on his record or not that will also be factored in.

If the car is undriveable Police will impound it until you/he arranges repair. He will still be able to drive until he is in front of the magistrate and officially banned.

Minfilia · 05/02/2023 23:01

He will lose his licence.

Why on earth did he drive in that state? I’d be fuming OP

Exibstudent · 05/02/2023 23:01

How old is he? It makes a difference if his last drink drive was within the past ten years.
A reading of 80 in breath is not at the lower end. You can see the sentencing guidelines here: www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/offences/magistrates-court/item/excess-alcohol-driveattempt-to-drive-revised-2017/
The fact that there has been an accident even if no one else was hurt will also increase the seriousness and sentence.

ErinAndTonic · 05/02/2023 23:02

Does he need his car in order to do his job?

Willowwallow · 05/02/2023 23:02

I would be absolutely fuming.

what does he do for work?

hellobethyname · 05/02/2023 23:03

Would you like me to explain op as I'm in the know .

So he will be arrested and taken to station to blow into the intoxilyser .

The t results will form the file against him - he will be bedded down to sober up then released with a court date .

At that point he will likely be banned and fined at court .

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 05/02/2023 23:04

This website seems to calculate the average penalty based on a few questions www.drinkdriving.org/drink-driving-penalty-calculate.php

You must be absolutely furious OP.

hellobethyname · 05/02/2023 23:04

Court will be about 2 weeks . He can drive until then

lunar1 · 05/02/2023 23:05

Hopefully they will take his license away permanently this time!

Itsatwinthing · 05/02/2023 23:05

He was substantially over the limit. You are totally right to say that the drinking needs to stop. So sorry you are having to deal with this. If you look up sentencing guidelines then you can get an idea of what he's looking at.

hellobethyname · 05/02/2023 23:06

The legal limit is 35 for breath so he's over double .

Minimalme · 05/02/2023 23:06

I think you need to accept that if his alcoholism could be stopped by being told to stop, he wouldn't be in this mess.

It's great he walks to drop your kids at school but he is still endangering my life, my kids lives and everyone else who gets in a car.

What an absolute shit.

hellobethyname · 05/02/2023 23:06

He won't get prison op .

He will get a ban and a fine and points .

Throwncrumbs · 05/02/2023 23:07

Also your car insurance will not pay out for a drink driving accident and your premiums will be sky high in the future

Starlightstarbright1 · 05/02/2023 23:08

He.was drunk on the way to work.

You telling him to stop will make no difference.

StarsSand · 05/02/2023 23:08

I hope he loses his license.

Incredibly dangerous and shitty thing to do.

He could have killed someone's child.

Deathbyfluffy · 05/02/2023 23:08

Can’t stand drink drivers, he’ll lose his license and insurance will be pretty unaffordable for a good few years.

Rightly so - what a tool H is

hellobethyname · 05/02/2023 23:09

Courts always ban for opl . (Over prescribed limit ) points and fine .

LadyWithLapdog · 05/02/2023 23:09

I’m sorry for the stress and hardship this creates for you and your kids. Do you have family nearby for IRL support? It also sounds like your DP needs to get serious about sobering up. This could have been so much worse.

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user1471427614 · 05/02/2023 23:09

Exibstudent · 05/02/2023 23:01

How old is he? It makes a difference if his last drink drive was within the past ten years.
A reading of 80 in breath is not at the lower end. You can see the sentencing guidelines here: www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/offences/magistrates-court/item/excess-alcohol-driveattempt-to-drive-revised-2017/
The fact that there has been an accident even if no one else was hurt will also increase the seriousness and sentence.

Thanks for the link...depressing reading but it answering alot of questions.

Looking if this I think I'm right in thinking he will go to court. Again please excuse my ignorance. Does this mean he will have a criminal record.

Either way looks like he will loose his job as he has to drive to get there.

To answer questions hes 44. Last issuse he was 17.

I am of course fuming

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Zola1 · 05/02/2023 23:11

Yes he will have a criminal record when convicted, while waiting for court it would show on record as pending.

FourAndTwentyBlackbirdsBakedInAPie · 05/02/2023 23:12

He will more than likely get a ban and a fine.

You need to think about what you're going to do though op.

He's done something so dangerous he could easily have killed multiple people.

You say he is a problem drinker, I don't really know what that means to you, but it's likely not going to be as easy as telling him to stop, assuming he drinks a lot each day.

Your kids will also see his drinking habits, and what you put up with, and that will be their normal.

I would be insisting on a gp appointment ASAP to discuss how to safely stop drinking, and I would also be asking him to attend AA meetings, and possibly seeking support from AA yourself (they run groups aimed at families and friends too).

There's a lot for you to consider if you're planning on remaining in a realstionship with him.

CalloohCallayFrabjousDay · 05/02/2023 23:12

He probably will lose his job. If he was double the limit on his way to work then he would've been drunk at work, which is usually a sackable thing.

hellobethyname · 05/02/2023 23:12

His age makes zero difference.

I work in law . He will be out on intoxilyser machine at a station - the two lowest readings will form the case file against him .
He will be bedded down until sober then released with a charge to court . At that point he will get a ban , a fine and points . He will not be able to drive again for the duration of the ban . Yes insurance will go up when he can .
He will not get prison time .

userxx · 05/02/2023 23:12

Minfilia · 05/02/2023 23:01

He will lose his licence.

Why on earth did he drive in that state? I’d be fuming OP

I'm guessing he's an alcoholic and lost sense of normality.

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