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To be offended by DH gagging at my breast milk?!

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boobinandgroovin · 05/02/2023 18:58

1 week old was feeding and some milk was running out the sides of his mouth, he looked totally milk drunk and cute and I said aww, so my husband looked over and gagged when he saw the milk. I asked what that was about and he just said it's so weird that that's come from you

Last night baby pulled off the breast and my let down was squirting everywhere and I had nothing to grab no muslin so I just grabbed the only thing I had which was a glass and let it go in there. I went to tip it down the sink and he started dry heaving and saying no why is your milk in there.

I told him today I find it quite hurtful and he said that he doesn't mean anything by it and is fully supportive of me breastfeeding but it just makes him gag. There's going to be milk dribble and leaks and milky sicks I don't need him gagging all the time and making me feel disgusting just for feeding my child. He's saying I'm over reacting and it's just a reaction he can't control. AIBU?!

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Orangesare · 05/02/2023 18:59

He’s being ridiculous

Sapphire387 · 05/02/2023 19:00

Does he drink cow's milk?

ofwarren · 05/02/2023 19:00

You should do the same for his semen. Gag and say it makes you feel sick..

Hapoydayz · 05/02/2023 19:01

is he 12?! How ridiculous

DaveyJonesLocker · 05/02/2023 19:01

YANBU he needs to grow the fuck up.

mumto2teenagers · 05/02/2023 19:01

YANBU - it sounds like the reaction I would expect from a child.

DaveyJonesLocker · 05/02/2023 19:01

Absolutely start gagging at his semen!

Poppyseed14 · 05/02/2023 19:02

He sounds like a big pratty manchild OP

Dacadactyl · 05/02/2023 19:02

He sounds immature in the extreme.

What on earth does he think your breasts are for? Honestly, he's ridiculous.

slytherinabout · 05/02/2023 19:02

He sounds like a child.

Sukisal · 05/02/2023 19:02

He is being daft, but if I’m honest, I never thought milk drunk was cute at all. I didn’t like the smell of breast milk or the dribbling.

he doesn’t need to be making a performance out of it, and the gagging is daft. But maybe don’t make a habit of getting him to look directly at the milk drunk thing?

PenguinsandHippos · 05/02/2023 19:02

Tell him to grow up and stop being so pathetic.

CountZacular · 05/02/2023 19:02

Ugh, he sounds immature and pathetic. I’m getting the ick from him.

Twizbe · 05/02/2023 19:03

If he's supportive of your breastfeeding you need to tell him to stop. What he's doing now is not supportive at all.

EL8888 · 05/02/2023 19:03

Dacadactyl · 05/02/2023 19:02

He sounds immature in the extreme.

What on earth does he think your breasts are for? Honestly, he's ridiculous.

They are for his gratification obviously! Not for the function they were originally designed for

Sorry to hear this. He sounds rude and immature, over-reacting at random things

Lkydfju · 05/02/2023 19:04

He doesn’t need to like the idea of it in a glass but he doesn’t need to say anything either. Funny that he is probably ok with milk from an animal though

coralgeo · 05/02/2023 19:04

This would drive me absolutely mad. How immature can a grown man be. I presume he doesn't gag at the sight of cow's milk

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/02/2023 19:05

Men have spent their entire life's being told that breasts are solely sexual, belong to them and anything else is weird. It's just entitlement and it's really sad.

Since his penis's other job is to urinate, and that's vastly more disgusting that feeding a child, I'd point out that you put up with that.

OneTC · 05/02/2023 19:05

People that do that fake gagging thing are always fucking weird drama people

NuffSaidSam · 05/02/2023 19:05

Surely gagging is a reflex! Or you think he's putting it on?

If it's a reflex then he's right that he can't control it. If he's doing it deliberately then he sounds like a complete idiot.

All sorts of things make people gag, it's not really logical/thought out.

daisydaisy11 · 05/02/2023 19:05

Breast feeding your baby is absolutely natural...what is not is him(presumably) drinking milk meant for the young of another species altogether

NewUserName2023 · 05/02/2023 19:06

He sounds like an idiot. He'll have to crack on get used to it and support you in your BF.

DestinysGrandchild · 05/02/2023 19:06

Let's hope he was only formula fed as a baby otherwise he'll probably be forcing himself to throw up.

uhOhOP · 05/02/2023 19:06

No, you are not being unreasonable. He sounds very immature, as many others have said before me, off-puttingly so.

AtrociousCircumstance · 05/02/2023 19:06

He’s being an idiot. Pretty pathetic. Shows a deep rooted misogyny.

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