So for context- my DD is 4 years old and has just started Reception. Her class teacher told me (during my first meeting with her) that she thought my child was bossy and couldn’t do x y and z. Nothing positive. 😪
aibu?
yanbu - teachers shouldn’t call children bossy
yabu - you’re being over sensitive- it’s fine.
AIBU?
Ok for teacher to call child bossy
Whawhawha · 24/01/2023 17:25
Am I being unreasonable?
686 votes. Final results.
POLLBigButtons · 25/01/2023 21:01
Not sure why you asked in the first place. Most have said you are unreasonable, so there you go.
Whawhawha · 25/01/2023 20:39
@Upsidedownagain thank you. You’ve summarised my thoughts completely. And just to reiterate to other posters, she does not dominate others, she doesn’t sulk when other children won’t play her game etc. she might be a bit outspoken and isn’t ‘shy’ but she doesn’t do the things that have been described above. And there were definitely no positives. At all.
Whawhawha · 25/01/2023 20:39
@Upsidedownagain thank you. You’ve summarised my thoughts completely. And just to reiterate to other posters, she does not dominate others, she doesn’t sulk when other children won’t play her game etc. she might be a bit outspoken and isn’t ‘shy’ but she doesn’t do the things that have been described above. And there were definitely no positives. At all.
Whawhawha · 25/01/2023 20:39
@Upsidedownagain thank you. You’ve summarised my thoughts completely. And just to reiterate to other posters, she does not dominate others, she doesn’t sulk when other children won’t play her game etc. she might be a bit outspoken and isn’t ‘shy’ but she doesn’t do the things that have been described above. And there were definitely no positives. At all.
Zola1 · 24/01/2023 17:38
In report writing about children I tend to write 'likes to lead in play' or 'tends to want to lead amongst her peers' etc. Essentially it's the same thing just more kind as I don't like bossy - prefer strength based
fUNNYfACE36 · 26/01/2023 00:02
You are misleading your parents then because they are not 'essentially the same thing'. Leading is behaving in a way people are inspired to follow you, bossing is demanding they do.
Zola1 · 24/01/2023 17:38
In report writing about children I tend to write 'likes to lead in play' or 'tends to want to lead amongst her peers' etc. Essentially it's the same thing just more kind as I don't like bossy - prefer strength based
fUNNYfACE36 · 25/01/2023 23:53
The parents evening is not to blow smoke up your arse, it is to report to you how she is at school because YOU ARE NOT THERE . Given that, how do you know your dc fmdirs not dominate other children.Why do you doubt the teachers words? Why would she want to lie about your kid?
Whawhawha · 25/01/2023 20:39
@Upsidedownagain thank you. You’ve summarised my thoughts completely. And just to reiterate to other posters, she does not dominate others, she doesn’t sulk when other children won’t play her game etc. she might be a bit outspoken and isn’t ‘shy’ but she doesn’t do the things that have been described above. And there were definitely no positives. At all.
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