Inviting others on a trip we paid for?

[Wantsummerback]

Please tell me your thoughts on this, me and DH are so wound up about it. We have booked a trip for parents in law and they are inviting other people at our expense. I appreciate we have gifted it them and they can do what they want with it.

but it just feels such a slap in the face! We found such a lovely place for them to relax and now they aren’t even going together.

I'm not following, OP? They've given it to someone else? They aren't going at all?

More information needed

they are inviting other people at our expense. I appreciate we have gifted it them and they can do what they want with it

Doesn't make sense

What did you gift them exactly, and how does it incur more expense for you if they invite more people?

Are you paying extra for these people or is the price the same?

Apologies ive had a drink! They are going but have invited others.

Still doesn't make sense

How is it at your expense? Perhaps their friends are paying their own way? More info needed.

Just pay the set price for two people.

So, for example, you've paid for a cottage with two bedrooms and they've asked another couple along to fill the other bedroom? Will it actually cost you more money?

Have you booked a house/apartment and they're squashing more people in it?

How does it cost you more though?

Is it costing you any extra ?

You said they aren’t going together? But also that they are going together. I don’t understand. Why’s it costing you more money?

Just pay for 2 and they can pay the difference?

If you've booked a cottage that sleeps 4 for example then it's acceptable that they invite two.more people because you'll pay the same no matter how many people go. If they've booked a second hotel Room and added it to your bill then that's very unreasonable

My guess is that OP gifted in laws holiday for 4 with expectation that OP and DH would also go but in-laws have invited friends to go instead?

No we aren’t paying any extra it’s a lot cabin with a hot tub we have booked a private chef too for the morning. but one of the others that is going is the one that decided on not giving each other Christmas presents anymore. But now he has wormed his way in and got a free little break out of it funded by us!

it just feels like a slap in the face.

You are still making no sense. Are you going on the trip? Are your in laws?

They are going to have a shock if you’ve paid for a private chef to cook for two. They won’t take kindly to having extras surely? Will they even have enough food?

But it's not costing you anyhing extra at all. So it doesn't make any difference to you.

But it's not at your expense, it's not costing anything extra.
Once PIL are happy and enjoying the gift is surely the main thing?

So let me get this right @Wantsummerback

• you paid a fee for the log cabin and the chef (!) and it was a present designed for a couple - the only intended recipients
• the couple have invited someone else , a person in your friendship group who doesn’t believe in gifting Xmas presents to friends
• Your anger is that he didn’t gift you anything this year, but is now directly benefiting from your kindness by going along
• so it’s not costing you more; it’s just now a spend for someone you like, that isn’t now going to the right person

have I got this right now?

Bet its a SIL or BIL

Do you want them to have a nice time? Surely there is no issue here. You are paying no extra and they will have a fab holiday. What’s the issue?

@SavoirFlair yes thank you 🤣

I probably am being petty but me and DH just think it’s a joke. This isn’t the first time this person has tried to sponge a free trip.