I know I shouldn't have snooped but something was niggling at me.
I found whatsapp messages the other day between him and a "colleague." They both work remotely but for the same company so I don't think they've ever actually met irl.
He was being overly flirtatious and complimentary towards her. It looks like a lot of previous messages have been deleted so I think they have been chatting for a long time. A lot of it was work stuff. She's about 10 years younger than him from what I can see and most of the time brushes off what he's saying or brings it back to work chat.
He told her that she is perfect and "I would love to be with someone like you." "You are everything I have ever wanted." These messages were sent late at night and she didn't respond. The next day he messaged her at 7am asking if she was annoyed at him. 😖
We've been together for years and have a 1 year old DS. I'm the main breadwinner and have supported him through a lot of issues.
AIBU?
Found messages on DH phone
GreenFox · 19/01/2023 17:25
Yesthatismychildsigh · 19/01/2023 17:32
Ewww. He’s a predatory creep. Pestering someone a fair bit younger. Is that what you want?
GreenFox · 19/01/2023 17:32
Not at all :(
Yesthatismychildsigh · 19/01/2023 17:32
Ewww. He’s a predatory creep. Pestering someone a fair bit younger. Is that what you want?
GreenFox · 19/01/2023 17:36
I just would never have believed it (I know people always say that.)
Could he just be saying this stuff but not actually mean it? There aren't any other messages to anyone else like this. It's just her. I don't know if that makes it better or worse. Maybe I'm just clutching at straws.
GreenFox · 19/01/2023 17:36
I just would never have believed it (I know people always say that.)
Could he just be saying this stuff but not actually mean it? There aren't any other messages to anyone else like this. It's just her. I don't know if that makes it better or worse. Maybe I'm just clutching at straws.
GreenFox · 19/01/2023 17:36
I just would never have believed it (I know people always say that.)
Could he just be saying this stuff but not actually mean it? There aren't any other messages to anyone else like this. It's just her. I don't know if that makes it better or worse. Maybe I'm just clutching at straws.
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