To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached

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I share a 9 year old daughter with my ex, he is a good dad and we get on fine. My daughter has her friend over for a sleepover tonight - all going well then I received this text from my ex. He hasn't responded since the last message shown and isn't answering his phone.

I am wracking my brains for what it could possibly be. She has a phone she uses sometimes in my house to face time her friends etc but I go through that and there's nothing and her dad doesn't have it at his house. Im so confused by what he means and feeling quite frustrated he's said something like this and now not responding.

Is the sleepover at your house or his?

My house - sorry should have mentioned that in the post.

Drama queen (him).

Can't spell hunch.

Just give him chance. You said you get on well and he’s a good dad. Maybe he wants to talk when you can both do so privately. That said, I do get that you are concerned and want to know now.

No point racking your brains or worrying yourself to death over it. Just wait until you see him. It's probably nothing at all.

I actually work with a guy like this who always says “trust me I’ll get to the bottom of it and let you know” mostly because he wants praise or something

tbh I’d reply and be like “is my daughter in danger or [insert whatever appropriate word you think] please let me know urgently or I’ll have to ask X” and if he doesn’t reply in a decent time ask her

trust sounds like an attention seeker tbh
if there’s a problem he should tell you not send carrot dangling texts to have you on edge

Does he know the friend? Is it definitely him
texting, does it sound like him? What texts came before that?

His spelling is appalling

How annoyingly vague! I would be really irritated. Hope all okay op

That’s so frustrating as it could be something or nothing. Call him and ask him to at least let you know what you’re supposed to be listening out for. Does he mean listen outside the bedroom door for signs of bullying, or inappropriate conversations?

Something like this.

He sounds like a drama creating prick in the texts, but if he’s a good guy as you say perhaps he’s just in need of attention (or is a private detective in his dreams).

No one who is actually worried about something urgent communicates like this.

Hes a bit of a drama llama, isn't he? Its the text version of 'inbox me, hun'.

My ex husband likes to do this to me. We all get on really well but he knows it sets my anxiety off big time. I’d have to keep calling him

Well he came over earlier to drop something off for our daughter and both the girls were here but I heard their whole conversation do nothing untoward. Yes he knows the girl and has had her at his house with daughter although not for a sleepover. Yeah it's him I would imagine, his usual bad spelling etc, how he would usually phrase things. Literally no conversation before that. Just received his first text randomly this evening.

Yes

Oh god that would annoy the fuck out of me. "Listen in" for what?! Just say what you mean FFS and stop talking in riddles 🙄

If your daughter and her friend are at your house, then why do you think that these texts are to do with her? Or am I misunderstanding?

To do with my daughter or to do with her friend? Or both?

I would just ring him, ask him what's he seen/heard and what are you supposed to be listening out for

Something like this needs to be spoken about between the two of you, not getting in to a text conversation where he won't tell you 'what's what'

Honestly his texts would slightly paranoid and unhinged, like someone having a mental health breakdown.

Ring him and demand an answer - it's your daughter and you have a right to know what the hell he's wittering on about.

Sound not would!

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He's not answering the phone. So strange.

ok he actually sounds like a dick