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To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached

263 replies

backtomeagain · 05/01/2023 18:57

I share a 9 year old daughter with my ex, he is a good dad and we get on fine. My daughter has her friend over for a sleepover tonight - all going well then I received this text from my ex. He hasn't responded since the last message shown and isn't answering his phone.

I am wracking my brains for what it could possibly be. She has a phone she uses sometimes in my house to face time her friends etc but I go through that and there's nothing and her dad doesn't have it at his house. Im so confused by what he means and feeling quite frustrated he's said something like this and now not responding.

To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached
To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached
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Anisina · 05/01/2023 19:14

He wants you to listen in on your DD and her friend?

He either needs to tell you what's up or stop being so dramatic. Is he drunk?

crackofdoom · 05/01/2023 19:14

God, what a wazzock. Was he like this when you were in a relationship?

tinybyxor · 05/01/2023 19:15

What a total bellend.

Alaldlccmemsjzja · 05/01/2023 19:15

I bet it’s about absolutely nothing and he’s created some big fucking hoo haa

thats actually annoyed me and I don’t even know your family

backtomeagain · 05/01/2023 19:15

I just feel sick

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OnlyFannys · 05/01/2023 19:16

Oh christ, I dont know how you cope even I want to shake him

Iwantamarshmallowman · 05/01/2023 19:16

it just looks like attention seeking to me. my nassasist dm sends shit like that all the time.

Alaldlccmemsjzja · 05/01/2023 19:17

I’d prob just go to your daughter and be like “girls anything I need to know, yojr dad says I need to keep an ear out. Is everything ok?” And then just leave it and don’t stress yourself out even further
tell him you’re going to her too “keep an ear out for what? The fucking wind?”

if it were anything actually important he’d be phoning you to discuss

tiredmama23 · 05/01/2023 19:17

He is so frustrating!! What is wrong with him?!

Catoneverychair · 05/01/2023 19:17

I'd just block him for a while. It sounds to me like attention seeking for nothing.

Alaldlccmemsjzja · 05/01/2023 19:17

Ok I actually believe your ex is my colleague that’s exactly how he speaks!! It’s so frustrating and pissy

backtomeagain · 05/01/2023 19:18

I actually do wonder if something is the matter with him, he is making no sense

To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached
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tiredmama23 · 05/01/2023 19:18

tinybyxor · 05/01/2023 19:15

What a total bellend.

This with fucking bells on.

JanglyBeads · 05/01/2023 19:18

Sounds like my narcissist ex to me....

ICanHideButICantRun · 05/01/2023 19:18

Well he's annoying! It wouldn't have hurt him to say "Keep an eye on the girls, I think X might be bullying Y" or something similar. Far less drama.

ButterflyOil · 05/01/2023 19:18

Is he prone to drinking early on weeknights?? Not saying that to be bitchy - his texts sound like he’s drunk.

Anisina · 05/01/2023 19:18

If he thinks one of them is bullying the other then he needs to speak to you about what he thinks he's seen or heard. Not send stupid cryptic texts.

NotAHouse · 05/01/2023 19:19

I'd say "Fuck off, you're not Benoit Blanc, we don't need your half-assed detective skills, just fucking spit it out"

AnyFucker · 05/01/2023 19:19

I can see why he is an ex

Stop engaging with his idiocy

OnTheRoadAgain1 · 05/01/2023 19:19

Does he think your daughter and her friend are the bullies?

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 05/01/2023 19:20

He's on drugs? Sleep deprivation? Or mental break down. Is he normally cryptic?

Forthelast · 05/01/2023 19:20

How do you cope?

Anisina · 05/01/2023 19:20

NotAHouse · 05/01/2023 19:19

I'd say "Fuck off, you're not Benoit Blanc, we don't need your half-assed detective skills, just fucking spit it out"

Yes I think my reply would be along those lines.

Usernameismyname01 · 05/01/2023 19:20

Message telling him "you need to speak with him urgently, ring me now!" don't put a reason

slamwich · 05/01/2023 19:20

He's a drama llama.