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To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached

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backtomeagain · 05/01/2023 18:57

I share a 9 year old daughter with my ex, he is a good dad and we get on fine. My daughter has her friend over for a sleepover tonight - all going well then I received this text from my ex. He hasn't responded since the last message shown and isn't answering his phone.

I am wracking my brains for what it could possibly be. She has a phone she uses sometimes in my house to face time her friends etc but I go through that and there's nothing and her dad doesn't have it at his house. Im so confused by what he means and feeling quite frustrated he's said something like this and now not responding.

To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached
To feel uneasy about these texts I received tonight? Photos attached
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QueenAstrid · 05/01/2023 19:20

My ex sends me messages like this when he’s drunk. I ignore them

Despairingof · 05/01/2023 19:21

Does he think he’s psychic? Maybe he’s channelling a message or just making up total shite - minimal difference

PollyEsther · 05/01/2023 19:21

Fuck me, OP. You have the patience of a saint.

This sort of shit is why I am NC with ex (eldest's dad), I just can't deal with the narcissistic behaviour and gaslighting at all. That message where he says 'oh yes you're reasonable now' or whatever: gross. 😷

Blowyourowntrumpet · 05/01/2023 19:21

Bloody hell, he's annoying. Sounds like he thinks you're daughter and her friend are bullying another girl?

tiredmama23 · 05/01/2023 19:21

OnTheRoadAgain1 · 05/01/2023 19:19

Does he think your daughter and her friend are the bullies?

I think this too from that last message.

He's still annoying as fuck and unnecessarily cryptic. But that's what I got from that last one.

ofwarren · 05/01/2023 19:22

Is he drunk?
Does he take drugs?
I'm wound up just reading it and I don't even know him!
Infuriating

JustMerkinYourChain · 05/01/2023 19:22

Drink / drugs.

tiredmama23 · 05/01/2023 19:22

NotAHouse · 05/01/2023 19:19

I'd say "Fuck off, you're not Benoit Blanc, we don't need your half-assed detective skills, just fucking spit it out"

😂😂😂

Please send this OP

Blanca87 · 05/01/2023 19:23

If this is unusual I would think something is happening neurologically.

Usernameismyname01 · 05/01/2023 19:23

I think he thinks the girls might be bullying someone, that would make sense in what he has cryptically wrote!

ShakespearesBlister · 05/01/2023 19:23

I'm concerned about the Duck. I hope it's ok 😟

FOTTFSOFTFOASM · 05/01/2023 19:23

tiredmama23 · 05/01/2023 19:18

This with fucking bells on.

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I couldn't have put it better. My ex is the same.

OnTheRoadAgain1 · 05/01/2023 19:23

tiredmama23 · 05/01/2023 19:21

I think this too from that last message.

He's still annoying as fuck and unnecessarily cryptic. But that's what I got from that last one.

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I agree. Was just thinking that maybe that's why he's being a bit vague and doesn't want to accuse them outright?

Either way, he needs to grow up and learn to have an adult conversation. All this drama when he could have just given you a quick call about what he was concerned about and why!

MargieReen · 05/01/2023 19:24

These look like the texts of a drunk. Not great if he's alone there in sole charge.

Anisina · 05/01/2023 19:25

MargieReen · 05/01/2023 19:24

These look like the texts of a drunk. Not great if he's alone there in sole charge.

He isn't in charge of them , They are with the OP.

FOTTFSOFTFOASM · 05/01/2023 19:25

Btw, @backtomeagain, when my ex sends me cryptic, 'ooh look at me - I'm so special and I know something you don't know' messages, I just delete them. 25 years of experience speaking.

ofwarren · 05/01/2023 19:25

MargieReen · 05/01/2023 19:24

These look like the texts of a drunk. Not great if he's alone there in sole charge.

The kids are with the mum

Butchyrestingface · 05/01/2023 19:25

I'd stop engaging with him. Attention seems to be the oxygen he breathes so don't give him any.

MargieReen · 05/01/2023 19:26

Anisina · 05/01/2023 19:25

He isn't in charge of them , They are with the OP.

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Ah- thanks.

Haveagentlechristmas · 05/01/2023 19:28

Does he think your daughter and her mate are cyber bullying another girl? That's what it sounds like...... Perhaps don't write him off if that's the case.

SnowlayRoundabout · 05/01/2023 19:28

It's obviously pointless trying to get any sense out of him, he's pissed. Tell him to go to bed and sleep it off, and stop trying to text or phone him.

picklemewalnuts · 05/01/2023 19:29

If he's generally a decent guy, I'd assume he's had a quick wave of worry about an awful bullying story he's read elsewhere, and reassured himself by alerting you to the need to supervise.

Think of it as a 'You will keep an eye on her in the deep end, won't you?!', after someone's read a sad drowning story.

He's had a couple, he's worrying about her, and sharing the pain.

humdingle · 05/01/2023 19:29

What a bellend. Of course he’s doing it on purpose to have you on tenterhooks and begging for more info.

message him back “omg you won’t believe what I just overheard” and see if he likes a taste of his own medicine. If you feel like sinking to it. If not - just ignore him for a while.

LadyBrienne · 05/01/2023 19:32

he is not acting like an adult
he's acting like a immature twat

Theunamedcat · 05/01/2023 19:32

Is he always so muffled CAN....YOU....SPEAK... ENGLISH... WHAT THE ..FUCK ..ARE... YOU ...TALKING ...ABOUT