Embarrassed to say I'm lonely

[Richmond212]

Mum of 4 aged 42. Even with a DH and a house full of kids (aged between 21 and 6) I get lonely. I did have friends but they've fizzled away over the years. Even my very best friend has ghosted me lately. Is it embarrassing to have no friends? Is loneliness a mindset? I am starting to have very low self esteem over this ..I get envious of women on my social media having girlie days out and girlie holidays ect..wish I could train my mind to not be bothered

I lost my ‘friends’ when my husband died - an added perk of widowhood not often mentioned unfortunately. I’ve gone through feelings of rage, self-pity, loneliness and sadness (possibly a few others too). I think the place I am getting to with it all, it’s still a work in progress so I’m not 100% on this, is that all I can do is do the things I want to do even if it means doing it myself. It’s going to mean being brave but I can do it in small steps. I think you can too OP, and anyone else in the same boat.

@astridforty and @GoodTimes10 I'm North West based, closer to Manchester though. Would love to get a group going and get in contact with more people.

@Malarandras I'm very sorry for your loss
I think you're absolutely right.

@Malarandras I'm sorry, I'd just clicked reply and not finished reading the thread. I'm sorry for your loss and you do sound incredibly brave and completely right. 💐