part time nanny dictates what she wears in my house.

[lemonstrawberry]

I have a part time nanny I use every now and again. My daughter has really weak immuniology. When she comes after having travelled on public transport squishing with all the other commuters, I ask her to change into a clean set of clothes. When she finishes, she can just leave with the new set of clothes she is wearing.

However, she changes into like sleepwear jim jams pyjama type clothing because it is comfortable. Then when she leaves, she has to change back all over again. I asked could she just change into something like. a tracksuit or top and bottoms, but no, she likes her pyjama style clothing ! Which you would NOT wear out in daylight. We live in a high rise, and if there was a fire alarm etc, then she would go get changed again.

She is angry at me for telling her to just stop all this changing back and forth, and now is messing around and told me last minute that I can go to an agency to hire a. stranger. I am really annoyed because she is the one who wants to be my friend these past two years, and I have paid her above the hourly rate, and always paid her several hundreds of pounds in advance when she didn't have money. She is in her 60s..but honestly, it won't be easy for her to find work. But I feel like hey, it'ss my home, and I am paying you to provide a service.Time to look for another one.

I see 2023 hasn't stopped the batshit crazies on here

If you require your nanny to have specific clothes you need to supply a uniform or PPE .
Dress code should be specified in her contract of employment .

No way this is real. No one can be this deluded.

Is it actual pyjamas or just something that you find too casual?

Would she really get changed in the case of a fire or is that your assumption?

I think you are an absolute idiot for telling her not to change to go home.

Did you think that that would force her to wear something that you consider suitable?

Good for her for telling you to stuff that!

If you don't like what she wears you should have stopped using her before now.

Just here for the deletion message 😀

Yes lol.. we were so brain washed!!

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If this is real YABVVVVU. Nowt wrong with PJs!!

She is in her 60s..but honestly, it won't be easy for her to find work.

I think you're deceiving yourself there, OP. On the other hand, it won't be easy for you to find someone who will accept you dictating what they wear.

OK, but equally the employee isn't compelled to stay if her employer imposes impractical rules. And in this situation it's likely the employer will struggle to find someone else.

Oh look. The OP hasn’t come back.

what’s to bet this thread will be pulled by lunchtime

“We’ve had reports the OP could be identified from this post so we’ve pulled it”

Nurseries I have worked at do pyjama days, so this has happened. Parents don't care it's fun for the kids.

Oh give over

Exactly. As long as the clothing isn't any more revealing than outside clothing then I wouldn't have a problem. Such as brushed cotton traditional pyjama set with a top underneath, or bottoms and t-shirt set.

This can't be for real. But if it is, YABU.

A community nurse wouldn't change clothes between visiting patients. Surely it's more important that the nanny has good hand hygiene? What virus or bacteria is spread by surface transmission, as opposed to bodily fluids, that an immune suppressed person would need protection from?

Unless she is changing into an Agent Provocateur Babydoll YABVVU.

Then again I think this whole thread is bollox.

@machanicalmovement yes as a one off just like teachers do on set days too usually to raise money in school but not every day as there is a dress code which I am sure you adhered to.

For me actual pyjamas wouldn't be what I'd choose-but probably just leggings & a top-something easy to change into.

And if I was travelling back home on public transport I'd want to change again to just be carrying the light "work" clothes home.

Actually, if this is real I would be concerned about the child. Only allowed to socialise with people who have changed their clothes?! Sounds a bit Munchausens.

Apparently it is! I reported it as was sure OP wasn't a genuine poster but MN emailed me back saying they were!

Completely agree.

I am immunocompromised and I don't change my clothes every 5 mins either.

What do you think mumsnet base their “no reason to believe the poster isn’t genuine” statement on?

Always best to use your own judgment. Nothing on an anonymous chat forum can be proven as genuine.

You sound ridiculous. She changes into comfort wear at your request, and changes out of it to travel home at the end of her day, and you're insisting she wears slightly more outdoor clothes.

She's the one having to do all the extra washing because of you and by the sound of it she earns every penny.

Considering most of Mn have a heart attack at someone turning up to the school gates in loungewear bottoms and ugh style boots I'm absolutely amazed the number of people who think a nanny wearing her pjs to work is ok.

Just because it's AIBU doesn't mean you have to tell the poster they are!

And as an experiment I may wear my PJs to work tomorrow and see what the parents think when they drop their medically vulnerable children off for me to work with

You are being absolutely ridiculous.