Gift too small and no alternative offered

[Remaker]

DS was given a Christmas gift by my brother’s family that is too small for him. I messaged SIL asking if she had a receipt. She responded no receipt and was bought in cash so no cc statement either. End of message.

They have a younger DS who the gift is the correct size for. In their shoes I would just take the gift back and give DS money/voucher/correct size gift. But they’ve not offered any solution- just said sorry no receipt.

AIBU for thinking this is their mistake and they should sort it, not just dump DS with a gift he can’t use

You didn’t even read the IP did you? Just the thread title. It is an item of clothes that is FOUR YEARS too small, not that he was bought a thoughtful little token and OP is kicking off that the present isn’t substantial enough.

Jeez, if you can’t even be fucked reading the OP, let alone the rest of a fairly short thread, nobody wants to hear your hot take.

@Remaker

Its unfortunate that one of your kids seems to get a raw deal from this woman but unfortunately that is life.

There will always be people in this world who for whatever reason don’t give this sort of thing enough thought. It’s not ideal but it’s not the worst crime.

But if you go steaming in demanding “solutions” to these minor problems you are a) reinforcing the idea that a gift is an entitlement and b) signaling that you will always fight your kids’ fairly trivial battles for them even to the detriment of family harmony.

As @WombatChocolate has rightly pointed out this tells them that their personal value is measured by the amount and quality of gifts given to them and is really bad for their sense of resilience and perspective.

It’s not fair and life is not fair. But while there are some areas where this is worth a fight, such as equal pay for equal work, there are others like this where a fight just creates pointless resentment and rancour which will linger for a long time.

Ask yourself whether a year from now you will feel good if you succeed in wringing an updated present that fits for your DC out of your SIL in the face of it being a clear inconvenience to her or whether she (and your brother) would consider it petty.

Sometimes one of the most important life lessons to teach a child is that they are not the centre of everyone’s world but that life goes on and it’s alright.

To be fair, if you had put the fairly relevant information that you added on P6 in to your opening post, I think you would have been getting different answers.

From your op, we didn't know how well your SiL knew him. (I assumed it was a child she saw 2 or 3 times a year)
I (and I presume others) had no idea she bought something for a child 4 years younger than his age (I was just assuming she bought for his age and it was a bit snug on him).
None of us had any idea that you did have a wish list she could have chosen from if not sure.

If you had put that into your opening post, my initial reply would have been different, and my vote would have been different.

This

But isn't about gifting, it's about receiving. I have always given a gift receipt with clothes I have gifted. But if I have received something that didn't fit, wasn't me, I didn't particularly like, I wouldn't wear, whatever, I have graciously thanked the person and regifted it to someone I thought would like it / it would fit!

Well, all of Blinki’s posts have been deleted by MN so something must be up with that poster.

I’m glad for OP’s sake, she was upset by her OP’s posts.

*by Blink’s posts