Gift too small and no alternative offered

[Remaker]

DS was given a Christmas gift by my brother’s family that is too small for him. I messaged SIL asking if she had a receipt. She responded no receipt and was bought in cash so no cc statement either. End of message.

They have a younger DS who the gift is the correct size for. In their shoes I would just take the gift back and give DS money/voucher/correct size gift. But they’ve not offered any solution- just said sorry no receipt.

AIBU for thinking this is their mistake and they should sort it, not just dump DS with a gift he can’t use

Any idea why they treat your son differently?

Asking for a receipt wasn’t making a massive fuss, nither is being a bit irritated, it’s the response on here about you being dumped with it and them not doing their ‘job’ like they owe you because they have you a gift that’s OTT

Why can't you just take it back to the shop without the receipt and exchange it?

I would just leave it. Yes it's annoying but does it really matter?

This. It's a gift, but has turned out to be too small. Possibly they have already thrown the receipt away so there is nothing they can do.

Perhaps if you can identify the shop, you could take the item in, and ask the shop to swap it. but if that doesn't work and your brother isn't offering a solution, just send the item to the charity shop.

Pop it to someone who can use it/charity shop.

When it comes to her birthday/Christmas buy her a gift that has your name on it. 😉

Yanbu, if they do it consistently then it sounds like they have a problem.

Could you use the cost of living crisis as an excuse to suggest no longer exchanging presents?

Can you not be so mean please? OP’ mum has cancer and you’re laughing.

Sometimes gifts are not quite right. You were perfectly entitled to mention it was wrong but given that she’s not got a receipt then you need to let it go. It’s not an entitlement and there could be loads of reasons why she can’t replace it. Give it to charity or sell on eBay and move on.

We have this with every gift ever sent from BIL and SIL. Have done for 16 years. Usually it's really garish clothes more than the wrong size. I made the mistake of trying to exchange some of the clothes one year, they'd gone down so much in the sale at Asda that they'd only be worth 50p... SIL is a huge Asda fan. She's even regifted something back to us before too!

I've never ever said a thing to SIL and never will. It's really just a running joke now.

Just leave it, it really is just one of those things. Next time you see someone collecting for Ukrainian kids pop it in there.

@DrunkOnHim no idea. DS is a good kid, nothing to dislike about him really. They treat him fine in every respect apart from gifts. I think it might be that my SIL (who buys the gifts) is a bit clueless about boys his age. She could just get a voucher though.

You dont have a right to gifts. If you moaned to me about the gift it would be the last one you or your child ever got from me.
Its not the end of the world. It doesnt fit. Boo bloody hoo.

Just leave it be. Give it to charity and move on.

@Blinki you clearly said I message my brother about non-issues and he’s sick of it. I do not do this at all. Our mother is going through the most dreadful time and he is too busy to assist. So no he’s not sick of my little problems he’s selfish. Maybe you could just apologise for making completely untrue assumptions instead of doubling down with laughing emojis.

I don't return things for myself so wouldn't do it for anyone else. It doesn't matter to them. I wouldn't say you're unreasonable but at the same time I wouldn't bother changing it if it was me. It's a gift and I'm not a shop

Why not drop hints? It’s difficult not knowing what they have or like - or parents may have brought.

Why not have a look at Asda next year and say ‘oh DS really like the new fleeces’ etc and give her some ideas?

Then they shouldn’t happily accept gifts for their own crotch goblin.

Which shop is it from? M&S gave us a credit note for some clothes MIL got DS which were too big. We just got some other stuff in correct size.

Very likely the top was bought for their DS but for whatever reason it is not suitable and so they've quietly done what you should be doing and just passed it on to the next lucky recipient.
It's a gift. Seemingly a gift that keeps on giving. Pass it on.

You're not being unreasonable to be annoyed by the gift and the blasé response but I think you'd be unreasonably to keep pushing the issue and demanded a 'solution'
I would passively aggressively return it to them for their own son however saying someone should get some wear out of it .

Actually, it’s not clear at all and it’s bloody insensitive. Get some empathy.