To be upset over Christmas present?

[CrazyCatLady00]

I know they say it’s the thought that counts, but I seriously felt there was no thought or much effort into my Christmas present from my bf.

I gave him a list of things to choose from that I would like and he got one item from the list which was a pair of earrings that he ordered last minute from Amazon 😒 and I also know they didn’t cost more then £40.

I got him loads for Christmas and put so much effort into it. Am I wrong to feel disappointed?

Im actually appalled that you think a considerate partner who tries, knows you and will put effort into making you happy is a unicorn and women should not aim for such.

Once again your massive emotive reaction "appalled"
As per the poll 60% of people on this thread do not think the OP was being reasaonable. Therefore you are definitely talking in unicorn terms if you're extrapolating this to a dumpable offence.
Is this what your amazing marriage has taught you?

@RJnomore1
You'll also be surprised to find out many people don't put the responsibility for their own happiness in their spouses hands. I certainly don't expect mine to "make me happy".

Huh? My post didn’t mention money.

I’m not talking about numbers of opposite sex people per se, I’m talking about the fact that in all human populations, a large minority of men are never ever going to measure up to the kind of standards of behavior for men that you suggested in your post. So, should (let’s say) 40 per cent of all women just stay single throughout their whole lives rather than accept anything below such standards?

For what it’s worth, the OP wasn’t talking about a spouse who gave her nothing, or a disgusting/insulting/passive aggressive gift, or a lump of coal. He just gave her one of the things on her list, which was literally what she asked him to do. Apparently this was not good enough, because he was supposed to read her mind and go off-list BUT ALSO make sure that the off-list present was exactly what she wanted, or buy her everything on the list just to make sure that it totaled at least 200 pounds (cos the OP is looking at the value of the presents and checking and comparing with last year) or something else that involves a certain level of mind reading, and he needed to get it in person with his own bare hands rather than ordering it online Because Reasons.

Really, for a couple who (from the sound of it) have a small child and other expenses going on, it all sounds a bit immature and the kind of thing I’d expect from a needy 21yo who is still trying to get used to Xmas without a sack of presents from mum and dad.

You gave a list to choose from… he did that… stop being ungrateful

I really wish some would read my replies first before calling me greedy, needy and whatever else I’ve been called….!!

Thing is - I’ve read your posts and I still think your way of thinking about this is unreasonable, particularly your focus on the amount of money each of you has spent.

It’s ok to be disappointed. But you did receive a gift that you’d asked - the earrings were on your list.

You might want to think about your response - is it indicative of deeper unrest about your relationship?

Why do couples have to spend the same amount as each other? It sounds really childish.

We know she will have researched them because she was pissed off that he didn’t give her a pile of presents don’t we?

How did you know they were worth less than £40 by the way?

Doubtless that was the first thing she checked.

A case of knowing the price of everything and the value of nothing, from the sound of it.

That is extremely bad thing to do when you are given a gift , is to look up the cost . Maybe next year she'll get coal.

perhaps you and your partner have different expectations around gift giving. Maybe next year set a budget but don’t give a list and he’ll likely feel inspired to put some thought and effort in?