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To be furious SIL woke us up at 6AM?

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XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:24

We had a chaotic couple of days and late nights albeit lovely. SIL who lives abroad calls at 6am this morning just to say hi. Dh told her can he call back later as too early and she says oh sorry didn't realise Uk was that early.

I haven't been able to go back to sleep since and I was really looking forward to a lie in this morning. Aibu to be furious that she couldn't even be bothered to calculate the time difference?

She usually never calls and when she does it's either when she wants help with something or to ask a question. I want my sleep back!!!Angry

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MusicstillonMTV · 26/12/2022 08:25

Don't you put your phone on silent when you're asleep?

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XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:26

I do, but DH needs it for work 24/7 so can't unfortunately

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Woeman · 26/12/2022 08:26

I think that if you haven't put your phones on silent, then that's your look out. If it's on the landline,then that's totally shit of her.

Woeman · 26/12/2022 08:27

Cross post.

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XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:27

She knows DH's phone always rings

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LimitIsUp · 26/12/2022 08:27

Yes, furious is a massive overreaction

pictoosh · 26/12/2022 08:27

I suppose being a little put out by this is normal...but furious? Seems extreme.

BCBird · 26/12/2022 08:28

I don't think.it is unreasonable to be aggrieved. It is easy to.fund out thevtume difference. It wasn't an.emergency.

babyyodaxmas · 26/12/2022 08:28

It wouldn't bother me too much. But I am an early riser. I know others covet their morning sleep above all else so I'd say it depends.

pd339 · 26/12/2022 08:29

Not surprised you can't get back to sleep if you're "furious" - take a chill pill.

PortiasBiscuit · 26/12/2022 08:29

It’s Boxing Day, she’s made a silly error. Get over yourself!

Mummieslncorporated · 26/12/2022 08:29

Are things otherwise okay op, or is there a backstory here that's missing? Furious seems to be a bit of an overreaction.

Christmasmaddness · 26/12/2022 08:31

Woeman · 26/12/2022 08:26

I think that if you haven't put your phones on silent, then that's your look out. If it's on the landline,then that's totally shit of her.

I have all notifications on silent, but there are occasions when someone might genuinely need to contact you in the middle of the night, surely?

I think SIL had been annoying, but I think fury is a bit much. How would react if your own sister or a friend had made the same mistake?

GoodVibesHere · 26/12/2022 08:32

I'd be very cross OP. You could return the call, perhaps when it's 1am where she is.

I think it's incredibly lazy and rude of her to not think through what time it is in the country you're ringing. I'm really not sure I would believe that she simply didn't think of the time? It literally didn't occur to her? I bet it was just convenient to her to call at that time.

I hope you get a chance for a lie-in tomorrow?

Flaunch · 26/12/2022 08:32

A bit annoyed - okay
Furious - have a word with yourself 😆

LubaLuca · 26/12/2022 08:32

She made a mistake with her maths, that's all. It's inconvenient and annoying, but not something you would fly into a rage over. Have a nap later.

KatherineJaneway · 26/12/2022 08:32

You still could have gone back to bed and snoozed.

WandaWonder · 26/12/2022 08:33

I would grumble a little feel annoyed then move on, maybe learn some deep breathing exercises to stop this making you furious

TimeForMeToF1y · 26/12/2022 08:33

Christmasmaddness · 26/12/2022 08:31

I have all notifications on silent, but there are occasions when someone might genuinely need to contact you in the middle of the night, surely?

I think SIL had been annoying, but I think fury is a bit much. How would react if your own sister or a friend had made the same mistake?

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Then you set your phone to allow for emergencies

If your DH gets calls 24/7 I guess you must be used to being woken up at all hours so being furious seems extreme

B1993 · 26/12/2022 08:34

I think, because I'm used to getting up at that time regardless because of DS it dies seem like a bit of an overreaction to be 'furious'. I can understand you being a tad annoyed if you were looking forwards to a lie in but don't think it's something you need to dwell on.

Can you grab a nap this afternoon? An early night tonight? A lie in tomorrow?

HitMeWithAHotNoteAndWatchMeBounce · 26/12/2022 08:35

If you’re furious, you’re furious - I don’t see how anyone can say you’re being unreasonable for feeling a particular emotion.

But - so what? What are you going to do about it? She rang you super early, you’re furious - end of (rather boring) story, surely.

Or … what did you want us to say? Who’s going to play you in the movie…?

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XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:35

Maybe it's me then.. DH and I did the cooking and the usual stuff for Christmas, hosted for 12 people, kids running about. I had a bad stomach ache but did it as couldn't really cancel.

As I said I was really looking forward to having a lie in as we've been so busy with the build up to Christmas. We are not close to Sil.

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ifonly4 · 26/12/2022 08:35

Annoying, but a simple mistake. She was trying to do something nice, so no point in falling out over it.

Are you working today? If not, and you're really tired later so and escape and have a lie down for an hour.

pictoosh · 26/12/2022 08:36

None of that is her doing.
Do you not like her then?

Christmasmaddness · 26/12/2022 08:38

TimeForMeToF1y · 26/12/2022 08:33

Then you set your phone to allow for emergencies

If your DH gets calls 24/7 I guess you must be used to being woken up at all hours so being furious seems extreme

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But SIL (any family) is surely one of the people who might need you in an emergency?