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Original poster

To be furious SIL woke us up at 6AM?

207 replies

XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:24

We had a chaotic couple of days and late nights albeit lovely. SIL who lives abroad calls at 6am this morning just to say hi. Dh told her can he call back later as too early and she says oh sorry didn't realise Uk was that early.

I haven't been able to go back to sleep since and I was really looking forward to a lie in this morning. Aibu to be furious that she couldn't even be bothered to calculate the time difference?

She usually never calls and when she does it's either when she wants help with something or to ask a question. I want my sleep back!!!Angry

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alwayscheery · 27/12/2022 18:08

CocoFifi · 27/12/2022 18:00

Isn’t Christmas meant to be about family and loved ones. Not the best hour to call, I agree, but easy to have a nap later in the day.

This.
Or
Why not enable work calls only.
Or block sister in law from calling between 10pm and 8am.
Utilise the settings on your mobiles.

PetuniaT · 27/12/2022 18:13

You ask AIBU but have put up the voting buttons but it seems most people have told you YABU. Furious??

Digamejohn · 27/12/2022 18:13

You can set your phone to only allow selected callers during your ‘do not disturb period’ i.e. During sleep time

kitcat15 · 27/12/2022 18:20

XmasDone · 26/12/2022 10:34

@MajesticElephant no genuinely didn't know. The organisation that he works for don't give out work phones.

I find that hard to believe….even the nhs provide a works mobile🙄

Missingpop · 27/12/2022 18:25

Ffs Sil calls & your pissed it was 6am life in your goldfish bowl is really rocking it; how will you cope in the real world ?; people are dying; living without heating; don’t have enough food to give their kiddies & all you’ve got to whinge & whine about is being woken up at 6am 🤦‍♀️😂😂😂😂😂 you’ve made me laugh so much

Jilltee · 27/12/2022 18:31

So dramatic. You sound like you just don’t like your SIL, and if she has any sense, she will know and the feeling will be reciprocated. Chill out.

WTAFhappened123 · 27/12/2022 18:32

Yawn…

Toomuchtrouble4me · 27/12/2022 18:36

Total over-reaction, you could be a bit peeved…but furious?

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 27/12/2022 18:38

XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:27

She knows DH's phone always rings

Not if he silence his phone except specific work related numbers.

ExpatAl · 27/12/2022 19:00

Yes you are ridiculous being furious. A relative called to say hello. Oh poor you.

Mumof32017 · 27/12/2022 19:05

I’d call her back at an inconvenient time for her but I’m petty like that and I enjoy my sleep. My kids sleep well so if I get woken up by some random thinking it’s ok at stupid o’clock, I will be pissed off and I will get you back 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mandyjack · 27/12/2022 19:11

She said she didn't realise so think you just need to her over it. I've got relatives abroad and sometimes forget the time difference.

AiryFairyLights · 27/12/2022 19:57

XmasDone · 26/12/2022 08:45

@Mummieslncorporated because he's not particularly organised and falls asleep on his phone sometimes. He's not perfect

So it’s ok for your DH to make a mistake but not his sister?
Ridiculous to be furious/fuming/aggrieved that you couldn’t get back to sleep and felt picking the phone up and typing it out would help!

BaconChops · 27/12/2022 20:36

Get a grip she obviously wasn’t doing it intentionally 🙄

Original poster
XmasDone · 27/12/2022 20:42

PurpleParrotfish · 27/12/2022 13:48

@XmasDone Glad you got your lie in eventually and sorted it out with SIL!

Thank you so much!

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Damsel · 27/12/2022 21:34

In the context of the challenges people can face this time of year, not to mention the well-documented global issues, I am beyond staggered that the OP took the time to post this “AIBU.”

It’s privilege on a whole new level, which I fully expect to see reflected in a tabloid/mid market story, seeing as hacks are desperate for content at this time.

Meanwhile, hopefully the replies have given some much-needed perspective to the OP. Doubtful though.

Ineedtosleep79 · 27/12/2022 23:24

True but you could say that about most of the crap people post about on here. Most of it isn't important in the grand scheme of things.

And 6am is fucking early. Fuck that 😂

yphtutor · 27/12/2022 23:59

YRBU I agree get over yourself at least she calls. Be happy

Vodkafairy99 · 27/12/2022 23:59

Really? 6am isn't that early - bit of an over reaction mate

rangagirl · 28/12/2022 00:05

@Christmasmaddness
Are you joking? Unless you're on call for work, there is no reason on earth why you can't turn your phone off anytime you don't want to be contacted.
Sure, an emergency COULD happen.... but how do you think people coped without mobile phones for hundreds of years until they were invented?
They had to find another way to contact people!
Everyone should turn their phone off anytime they do not want to be disturbed. Overnight, feeling sick, at the theatre, don't want to talk... whatever.
People can COPE if they can't get ahold of you.

HitMeWithAHotNoteAndWatchMeBounce · 28/12/2022 00:06

It’s been sorted, people.

The OP has moved on, so can the rest of us.

Blueink · 28/12/2022 00:13

Massive overreaction on your part (obviously she woke u up, but not on her u couldn’t fall back to sleep). See you’ve had a conversation with SIL anyway and she was apologetic.

DonnaB5859 · 28/12/2022 02:09

It is unreasonable. It isn’t that easy when you are in a static time zone but North America changes zones depending on what day it is. Be happy she took the effort to call. Is this really worth a post?

Mikey87 · 28/12/2022 04:32

It seems obvious you don't like her, silly error, get over yourself.

Original poster
XmasDone · 28/12/2022 13:22

So just to clarify, I was fuming when I got woken up as I was extremely sleep-deprived, was ill on Christmas Day despite the fact we were hosting for 12 people, and I was really looking forward to my lie-in on Boxing Day.

I posted on MN because I wanted to vent like people do, read your comments and was able to calm down by the afternoon.

The following morning we had a chat wit SIL and cleared things up. Please read my previous posts.

Those who posted after my previous post did you read through my posts or did you only read my OP?Hmm

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