To be furious SIL woke us up at 6AM?

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We had a chaotic couple of days and late nights albeit lovely. SIL who lives abroad calls at 6am this morning just to say hi. Dh told her can he call back later as too early and she says oh sorry didn't realise Uk was that early.

I haven't been able to go back to sleep since and I was really looking forward to a lie in this morning. Aibu to be furious that she couldn't even be bothered to calculate the time difference?

She usually never calls and when she does it's either when she wants help with something or to ask a question. I want my sleep back!!!

Non event and total over-reaction

Ask for a work phone.

Or get a really cheap one with a top up only sim. No need to ever make any calls on it or put money on it - just have that one as the number for incoming work calls.

Mute the personal phone at night . Problem solved.

My mother moved back from abroad, moved into the house opposite me without asking and regularly came over at 5 or 6 in the morning. She is a very early riser. I have an absolutely hectic job and like to relax on my days off.
I had no option but to move.

I'm quite surprised at the posters who think it's normal to sleep with their phone on silent - I presume that they have no possibility of emergency contact being needed at night.

my ' do not disturb....except for' is set for 10.00pm until 7.30am everyday.
During these hours the only calls that can get through are from mum and dad, my children and one close friend.
It works perfect for me. My friends do the same but adjust their time to suit their lifestyle.

These threads always go the same way. The OP is not being unreasonable in the slightest to expect family members to respect the time difference for casual calls.

However there are always multiple smug posters who think they should be able to call at any time and the recipient should manage this by psychically knowing all the likely numbers which might be used in an emergency when they are on call, first contact for vulnerable family or even have older kids out and about. I can only assume none of them have ever had that responsibility.

Sorry OP you are over reacting massively.

Just forget about it. Don’t hold it to her. The phone rang and woke you up. That’s it. It a minor issue. People get woken up to loads of stuff early morning - crying babies, dogs barking, snoring, needing the loo, work men, traffic, alarms. Let. It. Go.

And what type of job needs you to be available 24/7? Sounds exhausting and totally unreasonable.

She’s a silly twat. Call her at 5am. And hopefully she hasn’t put phone on silent.

Totally get this. I have often looked forward to a lie in so much, for weeks sometimes...then it gets spoiled. I have been furious in the past as well.

Well it's annoying yes, but most of us have had a really busy, hectic time over the last week or so. Many of us catered for huge families yesterday. I assume you're working today which is why you're so 'furious' rather than just a bit pissed off, which seems like a more usual reaction to something like this. I'm sure you'll get over it.

If he needs to keep his phone on 24/7 for work then yes he needs to be given a work phone by his employer or at the very least paid expenses towards his personal phone costs.

You can get phones with two SIM card slots, perhaps he could get a different SIM card even if he doesn't have a different phone.

He also needs to keep the phone on his bedside table so he can answer it as soon as it rings and he's not scrabbling around to find it, that way there'll be much less chance of it waking you up or it might just wake you up briefly and then you have more chance of going back to sleep.

I'd be more frustrated with DH tbh for not managing all of the above in order to minimise the impact of having to take work calls at all hours.

For heavens sake chill out. People have died in America through the cold weather and no power.

They expect employees to be on call 24/7 on their personal phones?

Surely thats not normal is it, what kind of job does he do?

I can maybe see that someone like an emergency doctor might not have a work phone but other jobs I'd expect to

Wow Christmas is all about family. It was 6am hardly middle of the night! This says so much more about you then her. She wanted to call her brother on Christmas Day and made the effort to do so! Just say you don’t like you sil and be done with it!

Can he say his phone is broken and can work provide him with a phone? It’s pretty average to NEED a phone 24/7 for work but they don’t provide it, I would feel completely justified saying I need to be able to turn my personal phone off sometimes so if you want time to answer you need to provide a separate phone.

Only read first page but YANBU

So you think she’s done it deliberately? That’s why you’re furious, perhaps try to change your way of thinking?

Also he does need a work phone, if he’s on call 24/7- 365 days a year,

how do you deal with holidays?

I'm with you OP. It's easy to Google the time in the place you want to call.

Put the phone on do not disturb and allow calls from work contacts so they come through. Easily enough done.

If this was reversed and OP was the one who made the 6am call the entire thread would be people telling her how inconsiderate she is.

I'd be seriously pissed off. My mother does shit like this to me. She lives in the UK and is retired so absolutely no reason for it. She knows I have insomnia so I'm awake between 2 and 5am, and then I try to get a couple of hours before DS has to get up at 7.45am for school.

och naye! Hope you feel a bit less stressed soon, OP.

Not for some people! Once I'm awake, I'm awake and that's it. It's crap.

'Christmas is all about family'.....and you translate that into it being fine to ring a family member at the crack of dawn. In fact, waaay before dawn.

Wow!!