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Made to sit on the floor on Christmas Day

214 replies

SeatlessAtChristmas · 25/12/2022 20:11

Not sure if I’m overreacting but I just feel so hurt. When I spend Christmas Day at my parents there aren’t enough chairs in the living room for everyone. This year I was left sitting on the floor all day. I’d hoped when we all went back into the living room after Christmas lunch I might get the opportunity to sit on the sofa but everyone else took their seats where they were previously leaving me to sit on the floor again. My sister, brother in law, mother, and aunt are all fit and able bodied and just as capable as me as sitting on the floor, but they just kept the comfortable seats for themselves all day. AIBU to feel so disappointed that on Christmas Day my family were just happy to see me on the floor all day?

OP posts:
LikeTearsInRain · 26/12/2022 01:54

We need to get LadBaby on a charity single to help with this

Seat the UK
Spare a chair at Christmas time

and insert a sausage roll lyric somewhere

Abraxan · 26/12/2022 10:56

Course you do 🙄 I bet you’re on the floor right now

In our house it's my dad who chooses to sit on the floor, leaning against a wall. We all offer him a seat or even a beanbag/cushion but he declines them all.

20y dd often chooses to as well, even when there are seats available.

🤷‍♀️ Maybe they were pets in a previous life. I certainly don't choose to - I'd probably never get up again with my dodgy knees.

Penguinsaregreat · 26/12/2022 11:06

How very odd.

kimchifix · 26/12/2022 11:16

They sound like a bunch of tossers not to even offer you a seat to be honest!! Bil and DS especially. Wasn't there a kitchen chair you could have moved into the sitting room? If you didn't say anything maybe they assumed you were happy on the floor.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 26/12/2022 11:19

What did they say when you asked if you could take a turn sitting on the sofa?

1982mommaof4 · 26/12/2022 11:52

Oo I love sorting on the floor but YANBU I am weird

georgarina · 26/12/2022 13:39

I would understand if it were someone else's house but at your parents' house you should feel comfortable enough to bring a chair in, sit on the edge of the sofa or ask someone for space to sit down.

SleeplessInEngland · 26/12/2022 13:41

YABU for having put up with that.

femfemlicious · 26/12/2022 13:55

Makes me feel not so bad about it being just me and my twins. We slobbed around comfortably all day. Didn't eat Christmas dinner till 9pm. It was actually a toss up between a roast chicken and some leftover kebab in the fridge for a minute. The kids insisted on the roast chicken so i had to get off my arse and cook it😁.

KatherineJaneway · 27/12/2022 07:27

OP?

SkippyKangeroo · 27/12/2022 07:55

As 'the outsider' at our Christmas get togethers, this happens to me all the time. Always left with the worse chair.

It fascinates me, the ingrained selfishness and entitlement of some families, summed up in a Christmas seating arrangement.

CrazyCatLadyCat · 27/12/2022 08:21

Why didn’t you get a chair from somewhere else?? Or say something? 🙄

RampantIvy · 27/12/2022 08:30

I don't invite more people than I have seating for. It isn't very hospitable.

1HappyTraveller · 27/12/2022 08:30

YABU for moaning in the aftermath rather than doing something about it at the time.

Tuilpmouse · 27/12/2022 08:49

Interesting responses. MN is usually very hot on victim blaming, yet none of the blame here goes to those who hogged the seats for their selfishness?

Pipsquiggle · 27/12/2022 08:53

Did you not have agency to rectify the situation?

YABU. You should have brought a dining room chair in or asked to swap

foxy86 · 27/12/2022 09:03

When we have a full house and all seats are taken I bring a dining chair in. My husband thinks I should be sitting on the floor. My response is why the fuck should I when we have 4 bloody dining chairs that I could sit on instead.

saraclara · 27/12/2022 09:06

Tuilpmouse · 27/12/2022 08:49

Interesting responses. MN is usually very hot on victim blaming, yet none of the blame here goes to those who hogged the seats for their selfishness?

Maybe this would have gone slightly differently if OP hadn't said that she was made to sit on the floor, when she wasn't.

Willmafrockfit · 27/12/2022 09:18

just steal someones seat when they get up

PixieAndTheToad · 27/12/2022 09:18

If you didn't say anything then they probably assumed you were okay sitting on the floor. Nobody's a mind reader, you can’t be upset at others if you don't express to them what you want.
If you did and they still didn't give you a seat then that's another issue.

Weepingwillowtree99 · 27/12/2022 09:21

I would have asked if I could sit on someone's knee, hoping their response would have been, "It's okay. You can have my seat!"

NippyWoowoo · 27/12/2022 09:32

Wow did the OP never return 😂 what's wrong, back too stiff?

DangerousAlchemy · 27/12/2022 09:44

Op has buggered off after just one post I see! 🤣🤣🤣

saleorbouy · 27/12/2022 09:46

Why use MN for this, you should use your tongue and speak up in the moment.
"Please can I swap with someone I've been sitting on the floor a long time and need a seat for a while"
As an adult surely you can be assertive enough to make sure your own needs are reasonably met.

Walkaround · 27/12/2022 09:57

Yes, they were selfish not to notice and someone offer to swap with you, but honestly, silent martyrs are irritating in the extreme. If you didn’t ask to swap, you were not “made to sit on the floor,” you opted to do so. If you find it uncomfortable to sit all day on the floor, you say so.

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