Made to sit on the floor on Christmas Day

[SeatlessAtChristmas]

Not sure if I’m overreacting but I just feel so hurt. When I spend Christmas Day at my parents there aren’t enough chairs in the living room for everyone. This year I was left sitting on the floor all day. I’d hoped when we all went back into the living room after Christmas lunch I might get the opportunity to sit on the sofa but everyone else took their seats where they were previously leaving me to sit on the floor again. My sister, brother in law, mother, and aunt are all fit and able bodied and just as capable as me as sitting on the floor, but they just kept the comfortable seats for themselves all day. AIBU to feel so disappointed that on Christmas Day my family were just happy to see me on the floor all day?

I’d literally have a cushion fight with my adult siblings for the seat. We’re not a very passive family 😀

Yeah you go for a other chair fro elsewhere. I also have a gob in my head.

Tbh I wouldnt leave guests to sit on the floor, I'd be getting chairs from elsewhere for them.

I'd have grabbed a chair from the dining room or said that it was time for me to have a comfy chair and someone else's turn on the floor. If you let people treat you as less they will continue to do so, I learned that a long time ago.

Op, don't be a victim or martyr, stand up for yourself.

Why didn't you get an emergency chair aka bring a dining chair into the livingroom? Seems a bit silly of you to sit there clearly quietly seething (instead of bringing a chair through) and then after tea returning to the same place to seeth some more. If it was me I'd say "I've been sat on the floor all afternoon, come on get up, someone else's turn to be relegated to the floor/uncomfortable chair (you thought to carry through). If they are self centred people and you know this why sit there in silence? In our house we'd bring through an emergency chair and one of the men would take the uncomfortable chair, we are nice people and the men have manners though.

Why can’t you use your words, what’s wrong that you can’t speak up?

Same happened to me today but I just went and sat on the sofa when someone moved. I know if I had asked someone they would have immediately moved for me but I was happy enough on the floor for a bit. No biggie. Also I could have asked for a chair from the kitchen but didn't think to ask at the time.

I had fun seeing everyone and that was all I was thinking about tbf.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

You should have got Peter kay to ring the emergency chairs round.

Yes I agree with this

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You need assertiveness training for Christmas.

Why wouldn't you say something? Or when someone got up, pinched their seat and said "you snooze you lose" or something when they came back?

You weren't 'made' to sit on the floor all day. 🙄

What extraordinarily passive behaviour. Why on earth did you not say anything? It's nuts to come here and moan about it when a simple "could we swap places for a bit? My back's starting to ache" would have done the trick.

It seems a bit pathetic to be sitting around ‘hoping you’d get the opportunity to sit on the sofa.’ Why didn’t you just say ‘I’ll grab a chair from the dining room’ or ‘who is going to swap, I’m not sitting round the floor all day.’

My cat was raging about the extra people taking all the seats today. He made his preference perfectly clear and we made room for him.

1. you knew there weren't enough seats so why didn't you bring one?

2. why didn't you open your mouth and ask someone for their seat?

You my friend win the internet today

I write sitting from the comfort of my parents sofa

Yes, they should have offered to swap but you should have said something. Barring any physical impairments, you ahve as much right to a seat as anyone else.

This is why I spend Christmas at home and only invite an amount of guests our home can cope with

Christmas is a rare day where you should be able to do what you want and be comfortable doing it

I wouldn't want to sit on the floor making awkward chat with people watching something on the telly I probably don't even like

You either bring in a chair from the dining room, go and find an emergency chair (according to Peter Kay they're in back bedroom upstairs!), you ask someone to swap or if all of that fails, you wait for someone to go to the loo and take their chair. No need to suffer in silence.

Could you not take a camping chair? I wouldn't visit relatives if I couldn't sit down all day.

We have big family gatherings and people
always end up squashed on the floor at someone’s house - very few people I know (maybe no one I know!) have 24 dining chairs!
we manage it with a series of benches and dining chairs but the front room isn’t big enough to be hauling benches into along with the sofas, people end up squishing on the floor - it’s just a few hours - YABU because I presume you have a voice and could have maybe used it to convey your thoughts that you were uncomfortable.

I quite like sitting on the floor. I find it very comfortable. If you didn't say anything I probably would have gone down and joined you on the floor assuming you wanted to be there.

I’d have taken a chair from the dining room too! If that was out of the question I’d have told my sister I’ve had enough sitting in the floor so either she swaps for a bit or I’d be sitting on her knee. I find it strange that some families uphold such formality when they are together that you couldn’t just directly ask your own sister to let you have a turn of sitting in a seat!

YANBU would it be that difficult for them to buy a couple of cheap chairs on Amazon for the day?!

Course you do 🙄 I bet you’re on the floor right now