Made to sit on the floor on Christmas Day

[SeatlessAtChristmas]

Not sure if I’m overreacting but I just feel so hurt. When I spend Christmas Day at my parents there aren’t enough chairs in the living room for everyone. This year I was left sitting on the floor all day. I’d hoped when we all went back into the living room after Christmas lunch I might get the opportunity to sit on the sofa but everyone else took their seats where they were previously leaving me to sit on the floor again. My sister, brother in law, mother, and aunt are all fit and able bodied and just as capable as me as sitting on the floor, but they just kept the comfortable seats for themselves all day. AIBU to feel so disappointed that on Christmas Day my family were just happy to see me on the floor all day?

I don't know why you'd just sit there twice and say nothing. Yes rude not to offer but Christ just speak up for yourself. You can't be so passive in life and then seethe when others walk (or sit) over you.

You should have bought a chair in from the dining room or asked someone else to take a turn.

It is annoying but maybe they just didn’t register you were always on the floor or thought you weren’t bothered.

I voted yabu because surely it’s best to just speak up instead of getting quietly annoyed.

I’d have gone and sat on the arm
of the sofa

YABU for just sitting on the floor instead of doing any of the following

Asking someone to shove over
Asking someone to swap with you
Getting a chair from the dining room
Getting some cushions/blankets to make the floor nicer

Poor thing, my dog has the sofa and I go to bed😂

They are pretty thoughtless, but I'd have thought you could have said something.

Why not bring a dining chair through? I would probably have done that, and if asked why then I would have explained that I just wasn't comfortable enough on the floor.

They really didn't have any dining chairs to bring into the lounge? Really?

At my nan's we get the camping chairs out.

DH has just popped to the kitchen to get some drinks and I've taken the opportunity to pinch his chair after spending most of the day on the floor!!

😁

It's annoying and not great hosting from your parents, but I'd bring a chair from another room. Sometimes you have to look out for yourself.

This may have been mentioned, but would you consider taking a fold up chair next visit? They are reasonably priced in Ikea, & light enough to carry. Sitting on the floor is hard on your back.

I’d happily sit on the floor for a bit before lunch. If the floor person returned to that spot after lunch and didn’t speak up or fetch a chair or go elsewhere, I’d assume they were happy too.

I really can't imagine anyone sitting on the floor all day and not saying anything at all, no-ones that passive?

Its a very tough situation to be in but if you are ever in this position again, what you need to do is move a chair from another room and sit on it.

I have a preference for the floor!

But yes they should have offered to swap and yes you should have spoken up.

They probably assumed you were alright on the floor seen as you didn't do anything to help yourself such as bring a dining chair through etc.

I'm the youngest even though I'm nearly 40 so my default position is the floor.

YANBU to think it's rude nobody offered to swap, but YABU for not saying anything.

I can't imagine anyone being so passive that they unhappily sat on the floor all day without asking someone to swap, getting a dining chair or even attempting to squash onto the sofa arm.

I would imagine your family thought you were OK sitting on the floor as you hadn't actually said otherwise.

I don’t think anyone in my family would offer to swap as we’d assume when someone was fed up, they’d speak up! As people have said an ‘oi move your bum and let me have the sofa’ would be all that was needed

YABU for not having spoken up.

Is it not the norm to pull dining room chairs into the lounge?

Speak up next time and stop being such a doormat.

Haha. My dog gives evil stares to anyone who dares to sit in her favourite spot on the sofa.

Presumably you all sat on chairs for lunch, why didn't you bring one through to the lounge?

If there isn't enough sofa space for everyone then there isn't, they don't magically expand. You either speak up and take turns or find a chair from elsewhere.

You weren't 'made to ' ...you sat there being a martyr instead of saying something,getting a chair,squeezing yourself,jokingly into the sofa.t
if you're going to be a martyr expect it to back fire sometimes.

Why didn’t you say anything or bring in a chair