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AIBU?

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Original poster

Cocaine

316 replies

oystercatcher5 · 23/12/2022 08:16

We have come away for Christmas with our children and our parents.

Last night we had a meal in and sat around chatting and drinking.

Half way through the night DH went upstairs and did a line of coke.

I’m pissed off.

He thinks he’s done nothing wrong.

AIBU?

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 23/12/2022 08:17

Is this a serious question ?

Newwardrobe · 23/12/2022 08:17

Ltb

NippyWoowoo · 23/12/2022 08:17

Does he just walk with cocaine on the off chance he fancies it Confused

Juicylychee · 23/12/2022 08:18

Not the first time I’m guessing?

Newwardrobe · 23/12/2022 08:18

AnyFucker · 23/12/2022 08:17

Is this a serious question ?

I doubt it

Nimbostratus100 · 23/12/2022 08:19

deal breaker

thismamaaint · 23/12/2022 08:20

Join him next time Xmas Blush

StitchL · 23/12/2022 08:21

Some people can't drink alcohol without taking cocaine. If that's the case, he needs to stop drinking.

Hobbesmanc · 23/12/2022 08:22

He must have planned to taking it over Christmas. Why else would he bring it with him.

Is it something you usually do together recreationally.? Do you think anyone else noticed?

Did he tell you or did you spot the signs.

Original poster
oystercatcher5 · 23/12/2022 08:24

@AnyFucker I really wish it wasn’t

OP posts:
RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:26

I'd be calling the police and reporting him, but I'll probably get called a goody two shoes for saying that. I definitely wouldn't allow him near my child.

dad11122 · 23/12/2022 08:28

I assume that you won't be letting him drive you or your family (or himself) anywhere for at least 3 days.

thismamaaint · 23/12/2022 08:29

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:26

I'd be calling the police and reporting him, but I'll probably get called a goody two shoes for saying that. I definitely wouldn't allow him near my child.

Not really worth calling the police over, they wouldn't do anything. It's more of a moral argument

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 23/12/2022 08:30

Where did he get it from?

How did you find out?

Flerken · 23/12/2022 08:30

You must be ok with him taking cocaine at other times for him to be so casual about it though?

VioletPickles · 23/12/2022 08:31

Probs not ideal, but was any harm done or did he act like an idiot? Did he tell you?

butterfly888 · 23/12/2022 08:31

It's a very common thing. Millions of people use cocaine so that's why he thinks it's normal, especially if he's always done it he won't see that it's not right. Are you completely against all drugs? Or have you ever done them? Is drug use something you've ever talked about?

LikeTearsInRain · 23/12/2022 08:31

Can we have some drip feed please

Is this the first time you have ever been aware of him taking it? Or have you known he likes to use it and have married and started a family with him regardless?

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:32

@thismamaaint I would want it logged so that he couldn't be alone with my child after I left him. Imagine if a child had found the packet, or something had gone wrong when he was in charge alone.

Lelophants · 23/12/2022 08:33

StitchL · 23/12/2022 08:21

Some people can't drink alcohol without taking cocaine. If that's the case, he needs to stop drinking.

But that’s so dangerous!

butterfly888 · 23/12/2022 08:33

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:32

@thismamaaint I would want it logged so that he couldn't be alone with my child after I left him. Imagine if a child had found the packet, or something had gone wrong when he was in charge alone.

That makes more sense

OneTC · 23/12/2022 08:34

Moral part of the drugs aside I think it's pretty weird not being able to or wanting to do family things without getting on it.

MamboJamboWambo · 23/12/2022 08:35

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:26

I'd be calling the police and reporting him, but I'll probably get called a goody two shoes for saying that. I definitely wouldn't allow him near my child.

🙄 there's always one

Would you also report your husband to the police if he went 10mph over the speed limit with your children in the car?

butterfly888 · 23/12/2022 08:36

OneTC · 23/12/2022 08:34

Moral part of the drugs aside I think it's pretty weird not being able to or wanting to do family things without getting on it.

Not really. A lot of people use it in all sorts of social situations, a bit like smoking weed

Simplepink · 23/12/2022 08:36

Ok ignore the mn responses that are obviously very different to your own life set up.
its-a recreational thing in some peoples lives that’s relatively normal.
however this sounds like he’s crossed a line for you personally. Also worrying maybe that cocaine needs to feature at a small family multi generational gathering.
TALK to him. See if he feels he’s using it more regularly than he should be etc