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oystercatcher5 · 2022-12-23T08:16:13+00:00

We have come away for Christmas with our children and our parents. Last night we had a meal in and sat around chatting and drinking. Half way through the night DH went upstairs and did a line of coke. I’m pissed off. He thinks he’s done nothing wrong. AIBU?

wlepaj · 23/12/2022 08:37

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MamboJamboWambo · 23/12/2022 08:37

That's a weird scenario for him wanting to do it with no social occasion. Is he under pressure at work? Is something going on? I would be concerned that his drug use is that relaxed. Definitely seems like something is going on for him to be doing in those circumstances, has he got form for this?

KangarooKenny · 23/12/2022 08:38

I’m going to assume it’s not his first time, so YABU and I wouldn’t tolerate it.

YoSofi · 23/12/2022 08:39

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:32

@thismamaaint I would want it logged so that he couldn't be alone with my child after I left him. Imagine if a child had found the packet, or something had gone wrong when he was in charge alone.

It doesn’t work like that.

OneTC · 23/12/2022 08:40

butterfly888 · 23/12/2022 08:36

Not really. A lot of people use it in all sorts of social situations, a bit like smoking weed

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I see them as quite different and generally most people I know who use it socially use it with others. Doing it on your own, on the sly with your parents and kids there, IME doesn't really indicate someone who knows what's appropriate. Addiction is like that

Fairislefandango · 23/12/2022 08:40

Well personally I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who uses cocaine, but that's your decision. Is it a regular thing for him? If not, then this would seem like an odd occasion to do it.

butterfly888 · 23/12/2022 08:40

MamboJamboWambo · 23/12/2022 08:37

That's a weird scenario for him wanting to do it with no social occasion. Is he under pressure at work? Is something going on? I would be concerned that his drug use is that relaxed. Definitely seems like something is going on for him to be doing in those circumstances, has he got form for this?

Maybe the use started a while ago at social occasions & he sees family gatherings as the same. Maybe he has depression and uses it for his self confidence? Could speculate all day but the best thing to do is ask & talk about it x

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:44

I knew my response would be unpopular. Sorry but for me 'recreational or 'social' use is not an excuse for doing drugs.

thelifeoofme · 23/12/2022 08:46

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:44

I knew my response would be unpopular. Sorry but for me 'recreational or 'social' use is not an excuse for doing drugs.

I'm assuming you've never done them?

CherApparent · 23/12/2022 08:47

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:44

I knew my response would be unpopular. Sorry but for me 'recreational or 'social' use is not an excuse for doing drugs.

What about alcohol consumption? Not being goady, I'm genuinely interested. Is it the illegality of drugs? Morality of production and distribution?

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:47

No, I am able to enjoy myself without the need for it so why would I?!

Notanotherone6 · 23/12/2022 08:48

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:44

I knew my response would be unpopular. Sorry but for me 'recreational or 'social' use is not an excuse for doing drugs.

I think your response is entirely sensible, but apparently drugs are acceptable on here. It's disgusting.

Alwaysworryingoversomething · 23/12/2022 08:50

Rude not to rack it up on the dining table and share.

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:51

I also don't understand how so many people are so relaxed about it, dh would lose his job if he tested positive for drugs as would I.

Thank you @Notanotherone6 it's nice to know someone out there still things drugs are wrong. I find people's need for them rather sad really.

Nirvanarama · 23/12/2022 08:53

MamboJamboWambo · 23/12/2022 08:37

That's a weird scenario for him wanting to do it with no social occasion. Is he under pressure at work? Is something going on? I would be concerned that his drug use is that relaxed. Definitely seems like something is going on for him to be doing in those circumstances, has he got form for this?

I was thinking the same. I'd over look it as a one off if he was out with mates but it was so obviously not the time or place. I'd think there is something deeper going on or he has an addiction. You haven't given us much info though OP

OrlandointheWilderness · 23/12/2022 08:55

With you @RobinRobinMouse. If anyone brought frogs into my family's home or near my children I'd not be best impressed. And yep, love a glass of wine. I don't give a flying fuck if people trot out the old 'but what about alcohol' line.

OrlandointheWilderness · 23/12/2022 08:55

Drugs even....!!!!! 😂 😂
Bloody autocorrect!

Strugglingtodomybest · 23/12/2022 08:55

it's nice to know someone out there still things drugs are wrong. I find people's need for them rather sad really.

So do I, particularly the poor people who need them for their cancer treatment, that's really sad.

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Strugglingtodomybest · 23/12/2022 08:56

Great typo OrlandointheWilderness!

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:57

@Strugglingtodomybest Oh ok, I think I can allow them in such circumstances! 😁

Choconut · 23/12/2022 08:57

thelifeoofme · 23/12/2022 08:46

I'm assuming you've never done them?

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So if we'd all done drugs we'd all 'get it' is that what you're saying?

I've never done drugs but have been around plenty of people who have during my uni years. They were bores/hyper/loved everyone or just plain weird when they were on it - and even worse when they were coming down. But they all thought they were cool and amazing and had some sort of very special bond. I just thought it was tragic and pointless. I'd have no interest in being around anyone who does drugs - they always try to pass it off as 'everyone's doing it' and 'it's just a bit of fun'. Most grew out of it fortunately, those that don't just get more and more pathetic IMO, it seems to be the really shallow ones that keep it up - maybe because their life has no depth without it.

Strugglingtodomybest · 23/12/2022 08:58

On a serious note though, I think if someone can't get through a family meal without taking some coke, they've got a problem.

Strugglingtodomybest · 23/12/2022 08:59

RobinRobinMouse · 23/12/2022 08:57

@Strugglingtodomybest Oh ok, I think I can allow them in such circumstances! 😁

Glad to hear it!

stevalnamechanger · 23/12/2022 09:00

Probably the only chance of a white Christmas .

Sorry but that is bloody weird . Very brazen so he is clearly a long time user .

I'd LTB

liveforsummer · 23/12/2022 09:01

I'm assuming he's a regular/habitual user if he had some with him on a family trip. Are you aware of the longer term use?