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Husband lay on sofa when I shouted Help

313 replies

darkbluenails · 23/12/2022 00:36

This has been bugging me all week. A few days ago I was in the back garden alone, went over on my ankle and fell against a sharp bit of wood causing my arm to bleed quite badly and me end up in a pile on the ground.

As I fell I shouted, then I lay on the ground shouting help. OH was just on the other side of the door watching telly, instead of getting up he told our 8 year old to go see what I wanted. 8yo came out and got upset as saw all the blood which by now was all over my top. He helped me up, hobbled inside and OH still lying on the sofa, no effort at all to see what was wrong.

I'm so angry as he heard me, I've never shouted Help before so it's not like a Peter cries wolf regular thing and he must havev heard the urgency in my voice. When I asked why he didn't come out he said "I didn't know why you were shouting". WTF?! As if I would have to inform him what my emergency would be for him to move.

AIBU being annoyed about this? I could have been lying with an artery severed for all he knew.

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Whadda · 23/12/2022 00:38

I would be very annoyed.

Hope you’re on the mend.

CiderJolly · 23/12/2022 00:39

Your other half sounds lazy/uncaring but you sound really dramatic. Shouting help when you could quite clearly get up? There’s no way an 8 year old supported your weight. Weird that you would lie there shouting ‘help’.

EmmaAgain22 · 23/12/2022 00:41

Oh you poor thing
it's such a horrible shock to fall like that

I hope you are recovering

I have nothing good to say about H reaction, or lack thereof.

Fizzadora · 23/12/2022 00:41

Annoyed? I'd have slapped him round the head with the sharp piece of wood. The lazy, selfish arse. What a great example for your child.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/12/2022 00:42

CiderJolly · 23/12/2022 00:39

Your other half sounds lazy/uncaring but you sound really dramatic. Shouting help when you could quite clearly get up? There’s no way an 8 year old supported your weight. Weird that you would lie there shouting ‘help’.

I would guess she was quite shocked and had a struggle to get up. Hmm

YANBU, OP.

Aprilx · 23/12/2022 00:42

I can’t imagine lying in the ground shouting for help because of a cut on my arm. So I am thinking maybe you are prone to dramatics. If this is genuinely the first time you have ever over reacted like that, then yes your husband could have shown more concern.

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darkbluenails · 23/12/2022 00:43

CiderJolly · 23/12/2022 00:39

Your other half sounds lazy/uncaring but you sound really dramatic. Shouting help when you could quite clearly get up? There’s no way an 8 year old supported your weight. Weird that you would lie there shouting ‘help’.

Well my arm was badly cut and my weak ankle had given way and really hurt. I don't think shouting for help was dramatic. My 8yo helped me up yes.

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toomuchlaundry · 23/12/2022 00:44

Did he show any concern when you came inside?

Changingplace · 23/12/2022 00:44

He sounds lazy but couldn’t you have been a bit more specific on what you shouted?

I think in that situation if I’d really needed DH to come I’d have shouted something like ‘can you come and help me I’ve fallen & hurt myself’ rather than just ‘help’

CiderJolly · 23/12/2022 00:45

ErrolTheDragon · 23/12/2022 00:42

I would guess she was quite shocked and had a struggle to get up. Hmm

YANBU, OP.

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She didn’t struggle to get up though. She got up with her 8 year old helping her apparently- ie. by herself. Can’t imagine it was appropriate to shout ‘help’ in this scenario.

WeepingSomnambulist · 23/12/2022 00:45

I've done similar. I just got up. It was a cut on your arm and you lay outside calling for help...

There are situations when you really do need to do that, but this wasnt one of those situations. Get up, get inside and get something to press against your cut.

I'm a single parent though and have been for 10 years, so it just doesnt occur to me to call for help. I just get on with things. Different if I had a bone sticking out in my leg of course.

LizzieSiddal · 23/12/2022 00:47

So his wife is shouting “Help” in the garden, he had no clue as to what’s happening and he sends an 8 year old out to see?

Does he ignore you at other times @darkbluenails?

ErrolTheDragon · 23/12/2022 00:47

Doesn't sound remotely 'dramatic' to me as you've described it. You were able to get up eventually with some help (no idea why people wouldn't think an 8yo would not be able to be of significant assistance.)

Sausagelove · 23/12/2022 00:48

Did you go to the hospital about the cut to your arm?

oakleaffy · 23/12/2022 00:48

@darkbluenails
I stupidly stood on a stool to reach something really heavy, ( Cast Iron item)
the stool unbalanced, and I crashed down on top of one of the stool’s legs

I did yell, despite being alone.
I truly thought I’d broken something.

Thankfully just a massive bruise appeared over time.
It is normal to shout out if one has a sudden fall -
Men certainly do it, too.

EmmiJay · 23/12/2022 00:48

Should have shouted out, "I'M BLEEDING YOU LAZY DICKHEAD! Help me!" Hope you're on the mend and that he feels a bit guilty at least😬

Tandora · 23/12/2022 00:49

WeepingSomnambulist · 23/12/2022 00:45

I've done similar. I just got up. It was a cut on your arm and you lay outside calling for help...

There are situations when you really do need to do that, but this wasnt one of those situations. Get up, get inside and get something to press against your cut.

I'm a single parent though and have been for 10 years, so it just doesnt occur to me to call for help. I just get on with things. Different if I had a bone sticking out in my leg of course.

This. But also you are not a single parent. You have a husband. What is the point of a husband if he doesn’t even respond when you are injured and calling for help? Might as well be a single parent. YANBU OP.

Badgirlriri · 23/12/2022 00:50

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ErrolTheDragon · 23/12/2022 00:50

Sausagelove · 23/12/2022 00:48

Did you go to the hospital about the cut to your arm?

If not, do make sure you use loads of antiseptic on it, garden injuries can be bad for picking up infections.

DuplicateUserName · 23/12/2022 00:51

Hard to say really, perhaps it's one of those 'You had to be there' moments?

I turned my ankle a few months ago and actually broke it. It was painful but I got up alone (possibly because I'd fallen over in public and was embarrassed!)

I couldn't imagine laying there on the ground shouting 'help' though, unless I really really couldn't have got up alone.

So if you really couldn't, then YANBU but even then, he clearly didn't know what the problem was.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/12/2022 00:52

However, I have had a giggle about the thought of your weak ankle giving away and you lying there shouting help.

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darkbluenails · 23/12/2022 00:52

CiderJolly · 23/12/2022 00:45

She didn’t struggle to get up though. She got up with her 8 year old helping her apparently- ie. by herself. Can’t imagine it was appropriate to shout ‘help’ in this scenario.

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What's with the apparently? Why is it hard to believe my son helped me up, he's 8. And I did struggle, I'd gone over on my ankle and it was bloody sore, I didn't time how long it took but certainly didn't just bounce up. Ishouted help as it was sore, cold outside, I had a badly cut arm and wasn't sure how bad my ankle was. Strange this has turned into whether my call for help was valid, rather than the actual topic!

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EmmaAgain22 · 23/12/2022 00:53

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Blimey

hope no one has a fall in front of you

what's with all the weird replies?

ErrolTheDragon · 23/12/2022 00:54

what's with all the weird replies?

Yeah, quite nasty tbh.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 23/12/2022 00:55

Sounds like your H doesn't care a jot for you. What a terrible example he is for your son. I'd seriously be considering my future with this man...

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