Husband lay on sofa when I shouted Help

[darkbluenails]

This has been bugging me all week. A few days ago I was in the back garden alone, went over on my ankle and fell against a sharp bit of wood causing my arm to bleed quite badly and me end up in a pile on the ground.

As I fell I shouted, then I lay on the ground shouting help. OH was just on the other side of the door watching telly, instead of getting up he told our 8 year old to go see what I wanted. 8yo came out and got upset as saw all the blood which by now was all over my top. He helped me up, hobbled inside and OH still lying on the sofa, no effort at all to see what was wrong.

I'm so angry as he heard me, I've never shouted Help before so it's not like a Peter cries wolf regular thing and he must havev heard the urgency in my voice. When I asked why he didn't come out he said "I didn't know why you were shouting". WTF?! As if I would have to inform him what my emergency would be for him to move.

AIBU being annoyed about this? I could have been lying with an artery severed for all he knew.

Even though I think you’re being a tad dramatic and your hubby prob thinks the same.. for me personally I would 100% be fuming and raging if I shouted help to my fella and he sent our kid and continued to watch telly!!
Even if I was being a div and hadn’t even hurt myself!! If you tell me you love me and then don’t come running when I shout HELP.. then I’m sorry but you best sleep with one eye open my little sweet pea ☺️
On a serious level though..
Don’t cook for him.. tell him you didn’t hear that he was hungry..
Shrink his clothes.. tell him you didn’t hear the wash instructions..
Slap him up in your sleep!.. tell him it was a terrible dream! Reoccurring dream!!
Make him pay! If you ever leave the house and he’s in it then unplug the internet wires! Honest that one is literally the ultimate one! Good luck! And hope you feel better soon!! 🥰😘😘

Jesus. Some of you are just horrible. Keyboard warriors at their finest.

OP, I hear you, I would have been upset too.

The bar is indeed very low here and some of these replies are disappointing. I wonder if these are trolls, if not the internalised misogyny is scary. Women accepting so little in terms of relationships and quality yet you are being called dramatic. Just horrible . OP you are right to expect support from him otherwise what’s the point of him?

Your “partner/husband” is lazy, uncaring, nasty piece of work . Your poor son is seeing him as model of what a dad / husband is..

‘Dramatic’ is like gossip, natter, bitching, wailing. All wore thst keep women nicely in their place.

Just to give another perspective though @darkbluenails i have a slipped disc. I manage it well but when my back goes, I am useless for the first forty eight hours.

As it happened, when I met dh all was well and so the first time it happened was when ds was 7 months. He was absolutely rubbish. At one point I ended up stuck, unable to get off the bed and yelling for him to help (nope, not dramatic,I couldn’t move.)

My husband sees me as the glue. I’m the one who does everything, sorts ds, has the magic solutions, when that glue goes, it scares him. I am not excusing your husband there but it is an angle to consider.

Whether you think the OP was in pain or not is irrelevant.

She was scared and wanted help and her husband couldn’t be arsed to get up.

If somebody shouts help you go and find out what is wrong! What an utter d&ck. I’d be furious

YANBU

In my household if there is any sort of crash or shout people respond. Because, you know, we care about each other.

Some of these replies! I see someone's left the gate open at the cunt farm again...

No OP you are not unreasonable to expect the bare minimum of care and concern from someone who professes to love you. Your husband is a mean-spirited lazy arse.

I hope you're okay now.

Some unbelievable responses on here. Some people will literally say anything to make the op unreasonable.

Your husband is a selfish asshole.

have you told him?

I am sorry to say it does not sound like your DH really loves and cares about you. Which is so very sad and hopeless for you. I think you need to have a serious think and then talk about your marriage. In the wise words of Sub Sub 'If there ain't no love, then there ain't no use'.

I just want to say as a single mum too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 God this made me chuckle.

I genuinely don't understand this attitude at all. OP needed eight stitches, she hurt her ankle she was probably a little shocked and in pain. She wasn't dying or bleeding out in the back garden but fucking hell sure this warrants your loving partner shifting his ass off the bloody sofa for two mintes to help. Wouldn't you help a stranger who fell over in the street?

Why the fuck should you have to shout his name when he's presumably the only other adult in the house? Why do you have to communicate the exact issue for him to decide whether he can be arsed diverting his attention from the TV? How low are everyone's standards?

the twats are out in force today. Ignore them OP.

I hope you're ok now, when did you last have a tetanus shot? it might be an idea to check that. Keep an eye on the cut just in case.

When things have calmed down over christmas you might want to decide if your twatty husband is someone you want to spend your life with and, more importantly, if he is a good role model for your son. Discuss this with him (husband) and make it clear that in a partnership you don't lay about when your partner calls for help.

YANBU. My DH would have been up like a shot if he had heard me fall let alone if he heard me yell for help. But then he is a kind and decent person and tbh would run if he heard a stranger cry for help!

I also have a "comes running" type of husband (and I'm that kind of wife) and as a result if either of us drops something or there's a loud noise, our next utterance, unless we do need help, is "I'm ok" so we know.

Some "partnerships" are utter bollocks.

I thought this too!

I chopped my whole finger off on the garden and just ran in to the bedroom to get my dh.

Not a bit extreme are you? 😂😂🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
what sort of role model decides to divorce on grounds that “dad did not hear mum had a minor fall in garden with no major injuries”
Get a grip.

I did say to reconsider when things are calm If this is a pattern of behaviour? I wouldn't put up with it.

she required stitches.
I have a good grip thanks, just because your personal bar is so very low.
It's no wonder we see so many posts about useless "partners" here when you all put up with such princes among men.

Quite honestly, i’ve noticed a serious uptick (long time user, regular name changed) in the amount of ‘men’s perspective’ posts here in the last few months - in terms of being very misogynistic in the replies.

The relationships board is often filled with very nasty responses, especially on dating threads or threads about people being unhappy in their marriage and looking to leave. A LOT around women over certain ages or with children being ‘low value’ or expecting too much from me .

I really do wonder whether a lot of disgruntled men from other sites are making accounts so they can make these sorts of comments.

Are you deliberately ignoring the bit where she went over on her ankle and was hobbling to get inside?

Curb Your Enthusiasm 'The Tivo Guy' episode, OP.

Same here!

Usually people are on their way as someone then shouts"everything's ok, I knocked something over"

My husband once banged his head on the door frame and dramatically crumpled to the ground and lay there for a bit shouting until getting up no problem when no one was looking at him. I can’t say I rushed to him as I’m well aware he’s prone to footballer-style dramatic injuries!

He sent help to find out what was going on. I’m sure if you were bleeding to death your 8 year old would have been able to communicate this and he would have helped. Sounds like a reasonable response, and I assume even if you don’t think iou are you maybe prone to dramatics.

OP, you've had some shitty replies on here!

My DH is generally considered by all to be a lovely guy but totally inattentive to his poor wife, me! But even he would come running if I cried help - and has in fact on the numerous times when I have gone over on my wonky weak ankles and the odd occasion when I have cut myself.

He does this even though I'm totally over dramatic. E.g. one time when I went over on my ankle, he said my scream was so terrible he thought I was being kidnapped . Because torn ligaments and pulled muscles bloody hurt!!!

If I cut myself, as I have blood phobia, I have to shout his name and lie down as quick as possible before I faint.

So who cares if someone is dramatic - it is normal to respond to a cry to help and your DH was a shit on that occasion!!