Husband lay on sofa when I shouted Help

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This has been bugging me all week. A few days ago I was in the back garden alone, went over on my ankle and fell against a sharp bit of wood causing my arm to bleed quite badly and me end up in a pile on the ground.

As I fell I shouted, then I lay on the ground shouting help. OH was just on the other side of the door watching telly, instead of getting up he told our 8 year old to go see what I wanted. 8yo came out and got upset as saw all the blood which by now was all over my top. He helped me up, hobbled inside and OH still lying on the sofa, no effort at all to see what was wrong.

I'm so angry as he heard me, I've never shouted Help before so it's not like a Peter cries wolf regular thing and he must havev heard the urgency in my voice. When I asked why he didn't come out he said "I didn't know why you were shouting". WTF?! As if I would have to inform him what my emergency would be for him to move.

AIBU being annoyed about this? I could have been lying with an artery severed for all he knew.

Absolutely this.

I know the bar is lamentably low on MN but the OP's husband is a disgrace.

How she will ever look at him the same again is beyond me.

Blimey, that's a bit of a universally sexist overstatement innit?

NASSALT!
(Not All Sofa-Sitters Are Like That)

Also the judgmental people on this thread! Why are people automatically assuming that the OP doesn’t have underlying conditions. Conditions that would mean a fall could exacerbate those conditions or have serious consequences for the OP. Ableism at its finest 🙄

But he didn't know what the problem was, and asked 8 year old to check. I think that's OK. OP might have just wanted someone to pass an item to her
Yeah, when I need somebody to pass me a hammer because my hands are full, a painfilled-scream of "HELP!" is my go-to option. 😳

If OP was so badly injured, I don't understand why she didn't ask the child to go back in the house and fetch Dad / her DH
Because she was shocked, & hurt, & probably winded, & therefore not the adult who should have been the one to be thinking & responding clearly in this scenario?

Because she knows him better than you do, & what his response might still have been to his 8 year old saying "come & help mum!" ?

Because she was upset, & not thinking straight after a fall, & it's comforting to have a concerned party around, even if they are only 8 & you wished they hadn't had to have been the only one to respond like a normally functioning human to your distress?

Wow. That's a slight escalation. Not sure I deserved that...

Wow. You calling OP 'dramatic' was a slight escalation. Not sure she deserved that ...

This thread and this post in particular has made me laugh SO much. Thank you, this place is just so brilliant, it has cheered me up no end.

Well I'll just go with a plain old "Fuck You @KettrickenSmiled ". Clearly you have issues.

I really don't care whether you are dramatic or not. You shouted for help and your Husband didn't come out to see what the problem was?

Uncaring and lazy imho.

I'm lucky to have a very caring Husband who not only would have rushed out to help, but would also have cleaned my arm and made me a brew, and I'd do the same for him.

Is your OH usually so lazy and uncaring?

I don’t think she’s the one with issues………. 😳

I was called a heartless bastard out of nowhere.... So yes I do take issue with that and I will stick up for myself

Congratulations on getting rid of the wanker

Sure sure I'm sure your first aid advice of sending an eight year old to assess injuries was entirely genuine! You went a little too far with but we're doing ok before 😀

OP hope you're OK. No advice about your husband but i know sometimes it's as much as getting helped up and a wee quick hug to make you're OK I get it I do. I sometimes feel a wee bit shaky and weepy after a fall, if that makes me dramatic sobeit I'm a human not a robot. Take ir as easy as you possibly can and enjoy the Next few days.

Please come back and tell us what he did when he realised you were hurt.

Because I know I've misheard or misunderstood situations before and I want to believe that was it, rather than him sniggering about the fact you were on the floor and he cba to get up.

That's awful.

It must destroy any love you have for him.

I'd have been livid. Has it made you feel you don't want to feed them? That's how I'd feel.

Out of nowhere 😂
Out of coldly & superciliously commenting "how dramatic", actually.

Youre not being unreasonable. To be honest I have asked my partner why he didn't check on me when I've dropped something thats made a loud bang and get a similar answer of your ok though. I reply with I am, but if I wasn't how would you even know.

😂😂😂
Remind everybody what you were saying about 'escalation' again?

I hope when the cast finally came off you beat him round the ears with it.
Congrats on being free of a selfish sex pest.

We went on a (very expensive) holiday when l'd recovered. I had huge misgivings about going, and wanted to cancel it, thinking we could split the money (I was planning an escape fund, to be honest).
No. He wanted to go. And it was horrendous. When we came home we agreed to get divorced.
I'd love an hour over coffee to talk to the current Mrs Katseyes....

Congratulations on getting rid of the wanker
Well, after me being in plaster for six weeks, then still in pain and on crutches, for another 10, he'd had to get used to it.
After the way he'd behaved there was no way l was feeling benevolent in that respect.
And he must have stayed a wanker for a good while - he didn't remarry for a few years.

That's where I am too.

Are you together together or just together? it doesn't sound like he likes you very much.

Oh, come off it. If OP just wanted something passed to her, she wouldn't just sit there shouting "Help", would she? She'd be calling her husband's or son's name.

As for your second paragraph, it's terribly easy to say that with all the luxury of hindsight when you're siting in comfort at your keyboard. Maybe when you're bleeding, shocked and in pain, not so much?