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To really not get the mentality of some parents…

204 replies

LivIoe · 15/12/2022 08:37

I live near a school and it’s snowed heavily. I noticed that quite a few children were in the snow in slip on ballet pump style shoes or canvas shoes, or generally inappropriate footwear that would leave them with wet feet or slipping over.

I hunted out my children’s old snow boots/ study walking boots. They ranged from about a size 10 to size 3, primary school sizes. Then I put them in pairs on the wall outside, with a post-it saying ‘free’ and noting the size. Just ‘free, size 12) for example.

I came home and some were in the bush, didn’t think much of it- just put them back. I then saw a child run up with a stick and sweep them all off the wall, while his mum watched.

Put them back.

Then I heard shouting, some kids were throwing them at each other! About yr 3, their mums said stop and left them all over the pavement (I saw from upstairs, so didn’t get out to say anything).

before people aak

  • all shoes were in good condition, some branded, not tatty
  • Ive not had any negative interaction with anyone locally, didn’t recognise them
  • yes, some of the kids doing it were in light shoes…
  • all were around mid primary age with parents

What am I missing in the thought process here?

OP posts:
LivIoe · 17/12/2022 09:38

SinnerBoy · 17/12/2022 09:19

just leaving things on a wall (note or not) is what people would do with rubbish, not how you help people.

As quite a number of people have said, it's not seen as a way dealing with rubbish and people do appreciate it.

@SinnerBoy we’ve learnt that from the thread yes… but we’ve also learnt a lot of people are pretty strange 😊

OP posts:
Heyhoitsme · 17/12/2022 10:09

Well you tried. I think its probably as case of embarrassment. Even if they were taken discreetly the boots would be recognised when worn. A charity shop would love them.

goodnightsugarpop · 17/12/2022 23:03

LivIoe · 16/12/2022 21:06

@goodnightsugarpop you are correct… I know it’s normal here. I learnt the habit here, having come from a rural village where it certainly didn’t happen!

We have car boot sales, and not far they do those jumble trail things too. I’m not on my own in this. I’ve picked up stuff myself. I’ve even knocked to say thank you and double check on occasion for really good stuff (have you read the laundry basket thread?!).

Jumble trails! I'm getting more and more convinced we're neighbours 🤣

Thanks for the reminder about the laundry basket thread, going to check that one for updates now...

ZestFest · 19/01/2023 23:23

You are a nice person and a decent parent. The others adults were irresponsible and the kids needed to show a bit of respect. I sound so old saying this, but wtf happened that people behave like this

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