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Anyone else just want to weep?

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CrapBucket · 05/12/2022 19:35

I don't have time or energy for anything, am I the only one?

Home is a disaster- I have lost control of the basics like meals (although I'm always at bloody lidl or aldi or asda), laundry, walking the dog....

Behind on everything at work, need to delegate stuff and don't have time to explain anything properly to anyone

Teens are being really meh about everything and need me to set the tone of the family - I just don't have the mental energy

My friends need me and I'm flaking on them left right and centre

Parents want to know what kids want for Christmas.

Can someone please pause the world? Just want to crawl under duvet but then tomorrow will be even further behind.

Obviously I need to stop wasting time on mums net too.

Waaaaaaahhhhh

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Eileen101 · 05/12/2022 19:39

Same.

Housework not done, tidying up gets untidied by the kids (both under 5), haven't done a meal plan in an age so feel stressed every day about what to cook, horrendous prices for everything and hate my job so I'm entirely unmotivated....

It's truly shit.

But how to pull ourselves out of the funk? Confused

mauvish · 05/12/2022 19:40

Poor you, you sound worn out.

Do you think you might be depressed? If so, have you sought help? I know that help for depression doesn't get the shopping and childcare done but if you feel you are drowning, it can help you lift your chin above the water again.

Findyourneutralspace · 05/12/2022 19:41

Oh, I hea
r you. It’s exhausting and overwhelming isn’t it? My teens are meh about everything too, and they also hate each other. I just want to do nice family things like when they were little. They just want to keep unsociable hours that I can’t seem to nip in the bud.

Im tired.

ILoveeCakes · 05/12/2022 19:41

A case of the "Fuck its"

I wouldn't mind a couple of days pause too to rest and catch up but, as we know, nothing else stops so you end up further behind.

VerifiedBot2351 · 05/12/2022 19:46

Yup. I feel so alone and so down.

Idontdoyoga · 05/12/2022 19:48

We are about to move house but solicitors are dragging it out. Boxes every where, mostly packed up so nothing to hand, & living in limbo. Fingers crossed for next week completion.
Im full of cold and totally fed up with all the admin hassle with utilities, Royal Mail etc.

If I hear Bing Crosby singing “it’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas” (supermarket bleddy advert) I’ll chuck my shoe at the telly.
Where’s the duvet? I’ll join you.

TCMcK · 05/12/2022 19:55

Snap! We are moving house too, although not until after Christmas. I can’t be bothered to do anything. Still not put the decorations up or booked to see Santa. I’m so tired 😴 the only thing that’s keeping me going is the time off work at Christmas

whoareyouinviting · 05/12/2022 19:58

This is me today. It's all just too much and not much thanks either. It never seems to stop.

NatalieIsFreezing · 05/12/2022 19:58

Parents want to know what kids want for Christmas.

This is beginning to push me over the edge. Getting it from all sides and they've only just had birthdays! And you can't really complain about it because it's a nice thing, it's just hard work!

If you do one thing why not make a week's meal plan, write all ingredients on a list and take a photo so it's in your phone next time you're in the supermarket? It feels like a pain but then you only have to think about meals once.

katmarie · 05/12/2022 20:04

In our house we've had three weeks of covid (I had it the worst) followed by two weeks of sickness diarrhoea and heavy coughs and colds. Kids are in bed now and I can still hear them coughing. Ds is going to miss his first nativity because he's too ill and dd is missing out on a Christmas craft session at nursery tomorrow too. I feel like crap, exhausted because I can't sleep thanks to yet another cough, wearing tena pants all day because my pelvic floor is made of tissue paper. The house looks like a bomb went off, and the food plan is all over the place. Trying to wfh and juggle sick kids without losing my mind/job/marriage, and I just want to cry all the time. I'm so sick of being sick. It's bloody relentless and it's really starting to turn my mental health downhill. Which is so frustrating because I've really worked hard to recover from pnd, and I can feel myself going back there now. I'm utterly miserable and I keep thinking about a trip I took to Rome on my own when I was 34, before I met my dh, and what I'd do to just take myself off for a week alone, with no responsibilities, no cleaning, no sick kids bringing home more germs every day. So yeah, waaaaaaaaaah here too.

CuordiMela765 · 05/12/2022 20:10

Yep. DH and teens still WFH and I have lost control of the house. They create such a lot of work and mess that I can't keep up! And I am starting to resent it. I don't think I have the energy to "make the magic happen" for Christmas this year and if I don't do it, no one else does! If I am really honest, it's hard to get motivated to make everything nice for teens who have been vile of late, even though I have never let poor behaviour impact on high days and holidays before. I feel quite upset about it tbh.

Orangesandlemons77 · 05/12/2022 20:15

It's a stressful time of year. We have A level mocks starting this week and then the run up to Christmas and the cold weather forcast etc (trying to keep heating costs down) is pushing me over the edge. Have some stressful medical tests next week as well. It cost £91 for a dental check up today.

A family member from abroad brought loads of presents for Christmas so now need to send some in return and have no idea when it needs to go by to get to their country by Christmas. Thinking of just sending a voucher but that seems a bit impersonal.

It's all just a bit much isn't it. I wish Christmas was moire like Easter in a way with less of the pressure (warmer weather would be nice too)

reallyhatewinter · 05/12/2022 20:22

I hear you too. I'm also so fed up right now.
I hate my job, I feel like I'm crap at it even though I know I'm not.
Family life I love but its just so overwhelming at the moment. I'm desperately trying to sort everything for Christmas and also trying to give so many people ideas for the kids presents.
DH does a lot but it just doesn't seem to scratch the surface.
I just want the world to stop for a bit and let me catch up.

Schoolchoicesucks · 05/12/2022 20:25

Definitely not just you. Add in delayed building works, relatives coming to stay (arriving the day the builders are now due to finish), I'm starting to wonder if my boss is trolling me each time he adds another request for me to cover while he's off on leave. Think I'm peri too so my anxiety levels are sky high amd I'm coping less well with even normal things. I don't know what I'm getting my kids yet let alone figuring out what all my relatives should get them.

Rainbowshit · 05/12/2022 20:27

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tunthebloodyalarmoff · 05/12/2022 20:29

I think you should walk the dog. The kids can buck their ideas up and do stuff for themselves the dog can't walk itself

FairyLightAddict · 05/12/2022 20:35

I'm moving on Friday. I haven't even started packing yet.

I did walk the dog though.

BloodyShoes · 05/12/2022 20:37

All of the above plus...

DD was being sick at 5am this morning. Both of us work full time. I came down stairs and told DP that DD was being sick and she'd not be in school today. He said "oh dear" picked up his keys and went to work. Guess that's my problem then.

No wonder I drunk.

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CrapBucket · 05/12/2022 20:37

Sorry so many others in similar boats, yes you can totally join me under the duvet!!

I'm not depressed, just overwhelmed/tired/late period/got a wierd lurgy... and yes I do need to walk the dog as none of this is his fault..Going to hoover the lounge first so I can come back to a slight bit of tidiness and go plodding in the stupid pitch dark.

Solidarity fellow waaaaahhhhers. You are all amazing coping with all the crappyness.

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Oblomov22 · 05/12/2022 20:45

Why do you think you are struggling all of a sudden? There doesn't seem to be any logical reason for it happening, now?

I don't get stressed by Christmas. I like it. We have a huge family party next week. All the kids get cards with money in. They love that. Could you just ask parents for money?

FlyingHighwithSNkids · 05/12/2022 20:48

FairyLightAddict · 05/12/2022 20:35

I'm moving on Friday. I haven't even started packing yet.

I did walk the dog though.

Wow, thats impressive! Good luck with the move !!

carefulcalculator · 05/12/2022 20:49

Oh I would love a pause button, I agree OP.

Gazelda · 05/12/2022 20:55

Oh God! I feel exactly the same. Completely overwhelmed, out of control, drowning in everything.

Washing not drying. Christmas gifts not bought. Work piling up. Health suffering from very poor diet and lack of exercise. House a tip. Sex drive disappeared.

And no motivation to change anything.

FairyLightAddict · 05/12/2022 20:55

@FlyingHighwithSNkids I've just booked Wednesday and Thursday off. And packed one box so I've started!

WoodenStackingRainbow · 05/12/2022 21:00

If one more person asks me for present ideas, I'll scream. Child has a hacking cough, my nose and eyes are streaming, work is shite, I've got all sorts of unresolved body aches and pains I keep putting off seeing someone about. I've got a to do list the length of my arm, but every evening I'm so fucking tired that by the time I finish cleaning I can barely concentrate so just go to bed. If I leave the cleaning I'm just faced with heaps of shite in the morning instead. I honestly could hibernate for months.