Anyone else just want to weep?

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I don't have time or energy for anything, am I the only one?

Home is a disaster- I have lost control of the basics like meals (although I'm always at bloody lidl or aldi or asda), laundry, walking the dog....

Behind on everything at work, need to delegate stuff and don't have time to explain anything properly to anyone

Teens are being really meh about everything and need me to set the tone of the family - I just don't have the mental energy

My friends need me and I'm flaking on them left right and centre

Parents want to know what kids want for Christmas.

Can someone please pause the world? Just want to crawl under duvet but then tomorrow will be even further behind.

Obviously I need to stop wasting time on mums net too.

Waaaaaaahhhhh

I'm a single mum so this doesn't apply!

Single parent, 3 dependants one with special needs, one teenager who needs a massive wake up call and I’m just bloody exhausted.

I work as a nurse 2 long shifts, I do everything in the house, all my sons medical and camhs appointments, school asn outreach etc I have no money a dog who is a pain in the arse and I’m just exhausted. No thyroid so was exhausted before and wading through treacle is a great way to describe how I feel. Also no ‘dh’ to help either it’s all on me.
life really sucks just now and I see no way out or light at end of the tunnel. I get no help from anyone. Just fed up. Sad that I’m not alone though as feeling like this is shit and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone!!!!
love to you all ❤

Yep could have written the same. I am just so so overwhelmed by everything! I don’t feel there has been any let up all year long. I’m exhausted and physically feeling it! I just want to curl up and switch the world off for awhile.

I usually feel pretty organised but over the last week or so I've just been completely overwhelmed.

I've a teenager with additional needs. At the moment just managing to get them into school and for school to manage to keep them there, is consuming a huge amount of my mental and physical strength.

My other child misses out on attention and I constantly feel guilty that they are just left to sort things out themselves because their sibling monopolises everyone's time.

DH is overworked in his job and stressed. We need his income though.

MIL is nutty as a box of frogs and constantly asking for DH to do stuff for her. He doesn't have the time or energy and I need him here.

Every day is a struggle right now. I'm vold, tired and I'd just like to go to bed.

Same. Very overwhelmed with everything and also very underwhelmed with life at the moment.
Its the dark nights, the cold house, the normal Christmas stress, the money worries, the underpaid, overworked job role, the want/need to be there for my partner, my kids, family and friends, the endless list of things to remember for kids school etc etc don’t think I’m usually this bad this time of year 😞

Ah. Found my people. So sorry so many of us are in the same subsiding boat. Jumping off and drowning almost feels like a viable option.

Two young DC. Bought a house earlier this year and underestimated the amount of work needed so it’s been one long stress since we completed in March and continues to this day. Our builder turned out to be crazed - I had a long running thread about him - and we ended up having to call the police to deal with him. Now we’ve run out of money and I look at the stuff that still needs to be done on my to do list in a kind of stupor. I don’t know where to start.

Getting the kids settled in their new school, dealing with life and house admin, all the Xmas shite, long hours at work and a new eager manager who wants an in-depth career development plan from me by next week. I don’t have a plan. I don’t care about work.

We are going to a restaurant on Christmas Day. Can’t really afford it but family members were badgering me to host them “because you have a new house and lots of space now” and I couldn’t face it. The same family members who literally have never given a flying fuck about me suddenly making demands on my time. Yeah. No.

Hugs to you all. I left DP with the kids and am in a quiet local pub tonight, sitting on my own in front of a fire sipping a wine.

I feel like crying today. My newish job isnt going so well and I feel overwhelmed which has really knocked my confidence. I miss my dad who lives overseas. He is really ill and I worry about him alot.
My house feels out of control, stuff everywhere. I find that overwhelming too. My gorgeous kids need more from me than I can give them. I am tired to my bones. My dh is struggling mentally and he needs me too.

Also a single mum - with the added hindrance of a rather shite ex. I'm currently enjoying my 'me time', except they didn't actually go to their dads after all, so they are Still Here and I haven't had a chance to catch up with work, housework, or anything.

Yeah. I've just got over pneumonia, my 8 month old got referred to hospital the other day due to a rash and low temp, so spent the day there. My middle child has a terrible cough and my eldest is sneezing. I now have started sneezing. I've also just left my long term job to start a new one in new year. I have pnd/a, suspected OCD and ADHD and I feel so completely overwhelmed with how my new job will work with our life. We have noone to help with the kids and I am burnt out. I absolutely adore my children. I'm just knackered from all the mental load and sitting wondering how to continue breastfeeding my baby while I do a Nightshift job, when expressing milk isn't very successful for me and she won't take a bottle.

OP I could have written every bloody word of your post (except my children are little, not teens, so I also get woken up at surprise hours of the night every so often!)

DH and I are in the same boat and taking steps to address it, like giving each other a scheduled break every so often but I've never had such a long and pervasive attack of the "meh" before and I feel like it's making me shit and unproductive in all areas. And i love being productive and on top of things! It makes me feel good! But i can't motivate myself to do it half the time! And it feels like I can never finish a bloody task.

I find myself literally dreaming about owning Bernard's Watch and having a few, consequence-free days off, plus a few more to get up straight w with every body thing I need to do! I'm hoping the lead up to Christmas might give me some of that at work, but I won't hold my breath. Then Christmas at home this year so maybe can sort out everything else...
Got to keep reaching for that light at the end of the tunnel...

I feel like I've found my people.

Yup Christmas can fuck off, got to get the fucking washing, DS1 croup and DS2 molloscs off the bastard table first arrggggggggggggg

I'm so glad to have found this thread and to realise its not just me!

Fucking useless exes can get in the bin. Our schedule is EOW, except when he flakes, which is very very often this year, so it’s more like EO time he can get his parents to babysit.

Give yourself time and a chance with your new job.nobody knows it all at the start.is there anything you can do to make you feel like your managing it.or something that's made you feel yoyr not.could it also be with everything at home your also just finding it all a bit much?
Your kids need to be loved.how old are they.could you ask for help from them.or include them in a downtime activity.read,movie,bake,cook?
Talk to your dp.be in it together.make a tram and work out what BOTH of you can do to strengthen the other.

Pull a sicky 😬Either get some jobs done or rest. And if you rest don’t best yourself up that you’ve wasted a day. It’s not a waste if you needed to do it.

I've got so much on my mind I forgot my card at the grocery store yesterday, after they put a huge shop through.
I actually had a breakdown with all the messages asking what my kids want. They don't need piles and piles of presents! They don't appreciate them and can't even remember who got them what -they get so bloody many! And I have to give ideas for the bloody things and then obviously reciprocate buying the buyers children presents. I don't want to buy all these children I barely see presents! And then find room for all this new tat that my kids get in return.
Christmas is about children getting spoiled and their mum's going mad with the pressure.

Hugs op. My sister is in the Uk and she’s on her knees too. I’m in admiration/horrified at what the lead up to Christmas holidays involves with children, was it always this bad? People NEED to take into account the crisis in the UK re energy and cost of living, and give themselves grace and ruthlessly cut something off their to do list. This is madness, you can’t all continue like this. Switch all the lunches to sandwiches and baked potatoes instead of menu planning, and make the teens write a wish list, and reassure the A level kids that they are already ahead by virtue of having got through their GCSEs. The GCSE kids.. have to learn their own lessons. Let me think… Partners need to be told to speak to their side of the family.

This isn’t worth the health of a mother. This is just.. a national crisis. Something needs to give.

Just had my UC claim for childcare rejected again as the CM asks for payment for meals so it’s included in the invoice

Every time we jump through these hoops. Yes she invoices for meals. I claim for the hours. My bank statement portion of evidence doesn’t match what I’m claiming for. Because I’m not claiming for the meals because they reject it because UC doesn’t cover meals

Every single time it’s double rejection, explanation, further evidence in my journal, claim approved. It just takes up so much time and stress. I want to cry. I don’t want to be on benefits in the first place. You feel like shit for failing to get a good enough job, I’ve been rejected so many times, and then they punish you for it. Ugh

@Chattycathydoll I’m sorry, that sounds so stressful.

What has annoyed me recently is the “be grateful for what you have” brigade who criticise anyone who complains about their situation because someone else is always worse off. I think you can acknowledge that you are fortunate in some respects but also vent/moan about whatever shit is going on in your life. A friend is trying to persuade me to host an evening with a group of our mutual friends for our annual meet-up. We normally go to a restaurant but a few in the group are struggling financially so friend thought it would be nice to hold at someone’s house.

And it would be but I don’t have the mental strength to organise the house and prepare food/drink for 6 people. I explained that as there are still renovations it’s too much for me. Friend replied that so many people renting would love to be in my position so I need to stop being negative, it doesn’t matter what the house looks like. I am really struggling at the moment and she doesn’t seem to get it.

Yes

Life's a bit shit at the moment

@Eastie77Returns your friend can get in the bin. How dare she volunteer your house and energy? Tell her to get entirely fucked.

@Eastie77Returns yep that is a really crap message. You're not responsible for anybody else's situation re housing - if that friend is so concerned why didn't she host?

And for me things are still crap. I'm bargaining with my energy levels daily. What can I stop so I can start something else?

Oh me too. I usually love Christmas but I just can't be bothered this year. I've bought gifts but not wrapped them. We haven't got a tree for the first time in forever.

Everything feels like such an effort. I'm sick of thinking what to make for tea, cleaning, laundry, trying to find a new home, being cold.

I think alot of people are suffering from the trauma of the past few years.

Totally empathise. I've tried to make a start by doing things like decluttering (just taking a couple of bags to the charity shop feels like a result). I've cleaned out the bathroom cabinet - very small steps but they give you a bit of a sense of achievement. I'm only sending a few Christmas cards and have bought small consumable pressies (nice biscuits, truffles) for teachers and TAs rather than driving myself mad trying to make things.

I've made and frozen two side dishes for Christmas Day and have ordered the meat, so I've basically nailed it.

Baby steps, OP!!