Anyone else just want to weep?

[CrapBucket]

I don't have time or energy for anything, am I the only one?

Home is a disaster- I have lost control of the basics like meals (although I'm always at bloody lidl or aldi or asda), laundry, walking the dog....

Behind on everything at work, need to delegate stuff and don't have time to explain anything properly to anyone

Teens are being really meh about everything and need me to set the tone of the family - I just don't have the mental energy

My friends need me and I'm flaking on them left right and centre

Parents want to know what kids want for Christmas.

Can someone please pause the world? Just want to crawl under duvet but then tomorrow will be even further behind.

Obviously I need to stop wasting time on mums net too.

Waaaaaaahhhhh

So sorry youve hit your cup runneth over point op.
Could you liyerally do what you need to though. So actually do NOTHING.set a timer and go either onto your bed.or somewhere of comfort and sit and allow yourself to breathe and do nothing for 3 minutes.even 15! And just breathe.hand on belly.in out.still.

All the other shit will still be there but you will have just 're grounded.settled.that amount of time is NOT goungvto bury you.
Then as cliche as it sounds write a list.but no one TO DO of pressure.no just a get it out my head onto paper list.so it's not all swimming about in there.
Then see what you can do.could you ask the kids what they want and get them to text you.then forward it on.if they don't reply tell them parents will pick for them sooooo......

What have you in the fridge.what do you fancy for tea tomorrow.make double if you can so there s leftovers for lunch or tea the next day.nothing stressful.a pasta bake.jackets and meat.mince.
Or is it give the kids money and say I need help your cooking tomorrow.if they are toddlers this might still work😁

Stop putting pressure on yourself.not when your at burn out.this continues the cycle of shit.shame.spiral further.
Your doing the best you can.go with that.meet yourself where you are.

The dog will not die missing one walk.

If some one came in and said what can I help with.what would you say.do that.

When you leave a room take or tidy one thing.

Stick a sweetie in your mouth to Hoover and clean.for some reason it really help Ha!

Is there anyone to talk,hug,help.

Weep.a really good cry can help.

@Trumpton bravo! I am loving all the poem requests. Cheered me up despite aching all over and a headache.

@ApplesNeverFall
What happened for you to be diagnosed? Hope it isn’t cheeky to ask. It's just I have been convinced that I have ADHD for a while now but wouldn't know where to start or who to talk to about it.

'And then this. I'm old, I'm slow, I shouldn't be looked at in direct sunlight,'

This made me laugh! I know the feeling... I don't really use mirrors any more.

Also feeling meh about it all.

I remember one of my colleagues, who was terminally Ill and died in her thirties, talking about just letting all the c**p go, and she had a point. When life gets like this, bring it back to the basics. There are things you must do or are priorities and things you want to do.These do not include dealing with repeated messages about cauliflower cheese, being a short order cook for a family who all want different food and dealing with 101 messages about Christmas presents. Let it go.

Can I also suggest 'big panda tiny dragon' on instagram
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Can I join you in a cry? I've been living with depression for years but somehow always functioning but lately, I feel like everything is too much effort physically. New job is shit as well, in an office all day for longer hours and little time to exercise. marriage is shit, husband is a man-child who I resent but I have nowhere to go so stuck here. My kids are lovely but know how to wind me up (or I'm just more easily wound up these days. Cooking and cleaning have fallen to the wayside and my attempts at these are getting more and more half hearted. I don't dress up anymore, I don't recognise myself anymore at all.

I hope you're reciprocating tomorrow

Yep, new job and working stupid hours to try and keep up (but failing miserably). Working full time and spending a day a week at my Mum's to try and keep her on track (but failing miserably). I spent most of Sunday in bed because I was so bloody knackered. I also haven't really done any housework for a couple of weeks.....

Very fed up with life and modern workplaces.

I'm feeling the same. Like life is one perpetual hampster wheel: exhausted from always moving but never getting anywhere.

One poster said she's not in the mood to make the magic happen this year, and that's made me realise why I feel so overwhelmed and down. It's always on me to make it all special for everyone else and I just don't have the energy or enthusiasm this year. Barely seeing husband because of work schedules, eldest is just being stroppy and vile, family dramas on both sides blah blah. I would happily spend Xmas day in my pyjamas and just order a takeaway.

Yes this is my life too.

I can’t keep on top of everything in a normal week so have no chance with Christmas.

Kids are harder and messier as they get older and make own food, snacks etc. whole house feels grubby and I feel like a maid.

Seem to have no free time with this and work and feel a bit grinchy about Christmas l

@Maddison12 My DS was diagnosed a few years ago, and I threw myself into learning everything I could about ADHD (which I now recognise as hyperfocus!). Slowly I began to see myself in everything I was reading. It came to a head when I received feedback at work that I am too disorganised, do everything at the last minute, am terrible at getting back to people etc. I am a senior executive who reeeeally should be better at managing my time and my workflow. This then started me wondering if I could have ADHD, just like my little boy. I reflected back on my childhood and academic career, and just saw so many signs: handing everything in late, pulling all-nighters to complete work, smashing exams but hating assignments, being chronically messy and disorganised, terrible at life admin etc.
I went to see my GP, who wrote me a referral to a psychiatrist. I'm in Australia now, so the medical systems are different. But this is how it went for me: I researched all the local psychiatrists who specialise in ADHD and chose the one I wanted. The GP addressed her referral to him; I phoned his office and made an appointment. The session was an hour long, was mainly conversation but he got me to do a few questionnaires. We talked about my childhood, family relationships, he screened me for symptoms of anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, autism - to rule out any other underlying cause of my presenting symptoms - then said that it was obvious to him that I have ADHD. These words felt so amazing. At the age of 43 I feel like I finally understand why I have struggled with certain things all my life, things which come easily to others. I have a high IQ and had a privileged upbringing and excellent education: I should be winning at life instead of feeling like I'm lost in a muddle of incomplete tasks, unfollowed thoughts, and neglected admin. I start medication this week and cannot wait!
Btw: that hour with the psychiatrist cost $1000. I am fully aware of my privilege in being able to pursue diagnosis and wish it was an equal playing field.
Anyway, not sure if any of this resonates with the OP; just do consider that ADHD is not the sole domain of 'naughty' hyperactive little boys. Middle aged women present very differently but are just as deserving of diagnosis and treatment.

Oh I hear you. I so hear you. It's the stress of being the brain of the family and the one who has to cheer everyone up. I have let a lot of things go this year. I can just no longer be arsed.

Also very waaaaaaaaah. And also wishing I could curl up like an old cat. I always thought you got wiser as you got older. But all I do is keep on making the same shitty mistakes.
Christmas just holds up a spotlight (and a magnifying glass) on the crap that we all deal with, day in, day out. And when it's staring us in the face that we are taken for granted, unappreciated, and burdened with all life's boulders of shit it's hard to keep smiling.
But isn't that what we all do ladies? We paste on a brave face and go out there regardless and make shit happen. Despite knowing that actually, why the f* should we. So maybe Christmas 2022 we should take the time to step back and say to the world at large, I am taking a holiday from the mundane crappery that is what my life gas become, and if anyone needs ANYTHING from me, it can wait until the New Year!
Stay strong MNetters

Oh god, unmumsnetty hugs and buckets of glogg with amaretto to everyone. There should be a name for this - Advent Armageddon maybe - so dark so cold so much to do - on top of the insult of the pay gap which means that we basically earn nothing in December compared to men, women are expected to squeeze out this extra invisible month of frantic work

I'm usually such a happy positive person. But I find December stressful! It's basically that life is pretty busy anyway - work, kids, ageing parents - and the extra jobs associated with Christmas (buying presents, decorating tree, attending school concerts) tips me over the edge. And DH is away this week. Argh!

I want to join the pity party!

I’m so sick of constantly being in demand and being pulled from every angle. Work sucks, staff absence through the roof so I’m doing about 5 peoples jobs and not getting paid any more for the privilege.

I have 2 kids under 5 who seem to be alternating illnesses. I can’t take any more time off to care for them so I keep sending them to school/ nursery and praying I don’t get called to pick them up or I don’t know what I’ll do. I’m sick but can’t rest, there’s too much to do at home with the washing, cleaning, cooking, shopping and then the Christmas prep on top.

The kids don’t sleep. I finally collapse in bed and am woken within an hour. The kids don’t sleep. I haven’t slept a full night in over 4 years, I’m tired to the bones.

I do feel better for getting that off my chest though!

Yep. Burnt out and actually sobbed this evening.
Solidarity with you all.

Yep.
I'm pregnant and permanently worrying if the baby is ok/ developing
I have 100s of exams to correct and reports to write
I'm trying to help my child adapt to the idea of a new sibling.
I've lost control of the house and it's not up to my standard.
My elderly parent continues to be a bloody nightmare in general
A cold snap is coming and driving in frost makes me incredibly nervous
This is on top of my usual PTSD and anxiety.
The only way I manage is by trying to take things a day at a time.

Oh and my morning sickness has broken blood vessels in my cheeks so they're bright red.

Hello, I just wanted to say that you are not alone! Most people seem to be really feeling the stress at the moment, the only people that aren't that I know are the people who earn a lot of money and can pay for extra help!

Work is relentless for me, I'm doing a job that about seven years ago had a team of 15 of us doing the work, now there are two of us! We have to use contractors and it's a logistical nightmare... the stress and anxiety I carry around is immense. Sending a big virtual hug! And sympathy xxx

Fucking elf on the fucking shelf has just tipped me over the edge……as a PP said, if I don’t make the magic at Christmas, no other sod does. My DD is glorious and deserves a wonderful and magical Christmas after a shitty year, but it’s just another thing to add to a very long list. Totally overwhelmed with even the basics right now. Sorry so many others are feeling the same.

Crawling under the duvet too.
Yesterday my toaster died . A small incovenience. Today the washing machine decided to join in, only after refusing to spin and leaving me with a flooded floor and manky soaked laundry. Then the car.. the screeeching metallic mouse noise means £££ at the garage.
I'm hosting everyone for Xmas, and keeping relatives dog for the week .. it bullies mine. Eldest child is going through a devastating breakup/divorce, my job sucks, the mental load and admin increases daily, and even the dog has an ear infection and my dog walker is in hospital very poorly poor woman and I have no dog care for work this week.

AAAARRRGH!!!!

I'm hibernating and not coming back out til at least April!!!!

Testify Sisters! It's dark. It's cold. It's wet. Work is back to back Christmas events and 12 hour shifts. Partner has no job and the house is a freezing tip filled with half done projects. Aged Parent uses alarm button as daughter-summoning-device when ever she needs the loo or can't remember how the dvd player works at 3 in the morning. Menopause. Mystery cat widdling issue has led to 2 ruined rugs. Ever tried to wash cat pee out of a huge rug in a very small bathroom with no way of drying it after? I really wish l hadn't either ... We've just had to strip out the living room carpet due to the phantom piddler and there's boxes of crap everywhere and a sideboard in the bedroom which l have to climb over to get into bed. I'm totally knackered and l can't sleep. I want to be snug under a duvet until at least next May! Hugs and buckets of sloe gin for all. X