Anyone else just want to weep?

[CrapBucket]

I don't have time or energy for anything, am I the only one?

Home is a disaster- I have lost control of the basics like meals (although I'm always at bloody lidl or aldi or asda), laundry, walking the dog....

Behind on everything at work, need to delegate stuff and don't have time to explain anything properly to anyone

Teens are being really meh about everything and need me to set the tone of the family - I just don't have the mental energy

My friends need me and I'm flaking on them left right and centre

Parents want to know what kids want for Christmas.

Can someone please pause the world? Just want to crawl under duvet but then tomorrow will be even further behind.

Obviously I need to stop wasting time on mums net too.

Waaaaaaahhhhh

@MistressoftheDarkSide if it helps, put it all out there. You have a sympathetic audience, even if we are all so tired we may fall asleep while posting. Doesn't mean we aren't 100% in your corner.

Long Covid here - not severe, but enough to mean every day is plodding through treacle. Clutter everywhere, pre-teen kids sniping and stropping at each other, the endless getting of meals, no energy for fresh air, attention span and memory wrecked.... fellow shoulderers of crapness, I salute you (or would do, if I had the energy).

Totally feeling all of this. DP wants to try for a baby but i don't think I have the mental space to take on an additional thing that needs full care from me. Sick of it all.

And if being honest I'm resentful towards my mum because she said all she's ever wanted is to see me settled with a DP

But surely she couldn't havent meant for me to be juggle cooking the tea, throwing washing in the machine, getting stuff out the dryer with the cat climbing up me, all whilst DP sits on the couch.

Maybe we should all form a commune style environment with a big hut in the middle for all of us - no others allowed - giant cushions, duvet, soft lighting and the option for primal screaming?

Thank you all for the reassurance I’m not alone and May our challenges become manageable in time ……

@geraniumsandsunshine

Please my best mummy
What shall I do?
I can’t find my left glove
And my right shoe.

Oh my darling child
Have you really tried?
Have you used both eyes?
Where could they hide?

Please my best mummy
And is he really true?
Darren says he’s not
What shall I do?

Oh my darling child
What is truly real
Is the love in your heart
And how you truly feel.

And oh my darling child
Here’s your shoe and glove.
Now off to school you go.
And give that Darren a shove!

Can I join?! I could have written this too. I posted last week about Just.Wanting.To. Run.Away.

This is all way, way too much. Totally unsustainable. I’m normally a pretty resilient person. But I wake up each morning thinking I simply can’t go on like this. And then, hey presto, some other shit happens.

What the fuck is going on?? And where does this end?? We can’t all be clinically depressed?!

I feel you. I’m simultaneously going through a divorce and trying to buy a new house, whilst also working full time and looking after two young kids under six, one of who potentially has special needs and needs extra help at school and nhs appointment because of this.

There’s multiple emails to answer/phone calls to make every day, even without the extra Christmas stuff. And now my parents have decided to visit for Christmas, so I will have to cook a roast for them while trying to juggle an impatient toddler who just wants cuddles and pizza.

I still have an uncarved pumpkin in the kitchen…

Tesco Recipe Binder and the 'Add Ingredients to basket' feature is a lifesaver.

Me too. My days seem to be a constant round of dog walking, school runs, washing, work, cleaning, dog walking, school runs, cooking, cleaning, washing, food shopping, work

Its endless... and the worst of it is however much I do everyone else seems to mess it up behind me. I never seem to be able to find anything and the whole house is a tip. We had a cleaner until 8 weeks ago but she suddenly left and we've not been able to replace her yet so I suppose I'm feeling the loss a bit

On top of that adult DSS is living with us for a bit and he's not tidy either though he does at least walk the dog from time to time and put things in the dishwasher so he's welcome to stay longer

I'm sick of trying to work out what to cook - DP low carbing, DS gluten free, DD and DSS vegetarian.

It's worse at this time of year though isn't it? So much mud being trailed into the house on shoes. Everyone wearing more clothes which are thicker so of course more washing at exactly the time of year it's harder to get it dry.

Today was rubbish. Both DD (17) and DS (10) off school with some kind of nasty bug but obviously just about well enough to trail about taking the best snacks and generally making a mess... lost my patience eventually.

To top it all DP picked up a desk for DD tonight - of course it's too big to go up the stairs so it's in the process of being dismantled on the kitchen floor - now to get from oven to sink I have to walk around the desk...

Yup I want to weep

That sounds bloody marvellous.

I think nothing has actually changed - we’ve always done all this stuff and had to deal with this shit.

What’s changed is that we’ve all suffered a trauma (Covid) and even if we didn’t feel stressed at the time it’s now affecting us more than we think.

It’s a theory anyway.

I feel you. I just want the world to stop so I can get off for a bit.

Well I for one am very fucking depressed. It's like what's the point to life anymore? There isn't a single direction you can look in for relief.

It is a bit of a grindbat the moment but definitely first world problems in our house.

I am coping absolutely fine but it's taking all my energy to do so. The house is running okay but I only have time and energy for the bear minimum so it's never nice and beginning to get shabby.

DH and I both work from home full time but despite working more hours than last year we have far less money because of the cost of living and our kids' very full on activities and music lessons. I have had to stop online shopping and my only lie in of the week to save money doing the weekly shop at Lidl, then try to disguise the fact every meal is made of discount vegetables and tinned beans. I buy cheapo chocolate biscuits to cheer everyone up which everyone is unhealthily obsessed with eating (or I make cakes which are fought over and inhaled in minutes)

To top it off DS2 had a bout of angry stubbornness at the weekend. We were WINNING and DS was starting to realise he had to do what he was told but DH suddenly randomly told him he'd buy him a really expensive musical instrument next year (with what fucking money???). It's completely impractical and there is nowhere to put it (the living room would cease to be a living room), and while if I had infinite space I'd love for DS2 to have his own it's really a bit unnecessary as he plays several times a week at school, and he already has three instruments at home (which are much more normal ones to own).

I do think nearly three years of instability has alot to do with it - nothing is straightforward any more - customer service, healthcare, economy etc etc - things can just change on a sixpence it seems…..

I’m in my 50s and I know there have been tough times before - hell, I’ve muddled through plenty of things but now it really does seem worse….

I lost it today because my mum (retired) plenty of free time told me my toddler needs a hair but badly and Why haven’t I taken her ti the hairdresser - Yes mum - I know - just a bit busy with being out the house 8-6 everyday at work/nursery etc will sort the hairdresser visit out as a priority 😭

Yes and so past it I can't be bothered to write what's wrong

I love this 😂
Well done!

I think I'm also peri m, so some weeks I'm buzzing. Thinking I can take on the whole world; I'm 17; I'm looking and feeling great. I can do a million things at once.

And then this. I'm old, I'm slow, I shouldn't be looked at in direct sunlight, I can't cope with having to think about anything at all. I just want to sit in the window, like an old cat.

On the plus side, I nolonger have young children, so all the visiting santa bollocks has gone and the lie ins are back.

I quite like the scene in motherland where everyone’s striving for stressed Christmas perfection and there’s that scene of Liz alone in bed swigging advocat and watching telly and I try to reassure myself that that’s the level of Christmas magic I’m aiming for for myself and if I at least get that .. I’ve won.

And fucking autocorrect has changed bare to bear.

I'm with you all here. Just can't be assed with any of it. Dc are grown up & off my hands so they're no trouble. Dh is amazing & holds it altogether. Cooks every night while I'm supposed to wash up, but it takes me all night to get motivated as I can't be assed.
I was poorly all October & ended up in hospital for a week being very poorly. Now I'm back at work & just get a few niggle pains. Work load very heavy all of a sudden.
I've another thread about missing Xmas from the 70's. My df died of covid on nye 2020, & he was old with a heart problem. All of this has made me want to go to sleep until the spring

This year's word of the year is 'goblin mode', which I only heard about tonight. Ds was way ahead of me on that one.

I reckon we all go goblin mode.

Same. I'm so exhausted and burnt out with life I don't even have the energy to type it out. 😔