Anyone else just want to weep?

[CrapBucket]

I don't have time or energy for anything, am I the only one?

Home is a disaster- I have lost control of the basics like meals (although I'm always at bloody lidl or aldi or asda), laundry, walking the dog....

Behind on everything at work, need to delegate stuff and don't have time to explain anything properly to anyone

Teens are being really meh about everything and need me to set the tone of the family - I just don't have the mental energy

My friends need me and I'm flaking on them left right and centre

Parents want to know what kids want for Christmas.

Can someone please pause the world? Just want to crawl under duvet but then tomorrow will be even further behind.

Obviously I need to stop wasting time on mums net too.

Waaaaaaahhhhh

I feel exactly the same, completely overwhelmed. This morning I sat down and made a list of things I needed to do (admin type things) and actually got through most of it in a couple of hours.

Although I now need to think about cleaning the absolute tip of a house and think about Christmas shopping and decorating, but I do feel a lot calmer tonight that I can move that stuff out of my head now and start thinking about the next thing.

I can do relate to this.

I know in order for me to feel better, I need to eat well/healthy and do some exercise and cut out the drink.
But I'm just so bloody tired all the time, I can't seem to get started on it.

I keep walking past a bag of presents that need wrapping and I've not done them.

I go through stages of wanting to scream my frustration out and others where I just sit and cry.

DH is wonderful and helps a lot but I still can't seem to pull myself out of this vicious circle.

We’re in the same boat, 2 weeks of various illnesses in the household and everything seems behind, and neither of us can find much motivation to sort things.

Desperately hanging on to so much needed leave over Xmas to reset

LOL... no one wants to give money, it doesn't show THOUGHT. I mean its me doing the thinking...but what evs ....

Same. I just want a few weeks to catch up on life admin and housework.
I can't cry because it'll unsettle my utterly sensible eldest teen but my youngest freaks out when people are upset and has lashed out at me in the past for it. Only five years until they are both at uni.....
I genuinely love my job and colleagues so I can't even get signed off.

YANBU I’m really overwhelmed at the minute and it feels like I’m constantly spinning plates.

I have such a massive to do list that I end up being too overwhelmed and end up sitting down on MN!

I think the weather makes a massive difference.

Before I would come home from my job, cook, clean, work, help with my child’s homework and then have time to watch some tv and then read a book.
Now I’m struggling to get half of those things done properly.

Get them pop tarts or unicorn poo
Just don't ask me
What would the kids like this year
For Christmas
I don't have the energy

Can someone write a poem in the spirit of Please Mrs Butler - I've tried, and failed!

I feel your pain OP, everyone asking for bloody present ideas, and then even when I provide lists of what I think the kids will like, they say 'oh I don't want to just buy them clothes/books/vouchers (delete as appropriate), what else would they like?' Gaaah.

"Teens need me to set the tone of the family" really resonated with me. I always feel as though I'm letting them down if I leave them to fester in their rooms but it's so difficult to find the energy to jolly them along.

Can I join in?

DP died unexpectedly in January.

Muscled through the admin, the funeral, went back to my retail business…. Just about survived till about September financially then as soon as the “cost of living” crisis and energy crisis became mainstream news my cash flow went sideways…..

Had to empty a storage unit we had of things from our old larger retail outlet and also personal stuff - while I offloaded a fair bit my house is now jam packed and we only have the kitchen to live in.

My adult (aaproaching 30s) kids x 2 plus one of their partners live with me - they contribute a bit to the rent and are all working full time like me and frankly we’re all stressed, depressed and now I think I need professional grief counselling which I don’t have time for because I have to open my shop every day in the run up to Christmas because the third bout of lurgy in as many months put me in bed for a week ……

Our house is a shit tip, I don’t know how / where to start and I’m angry with myself for not being more resilient……

I can’t support friends going through some serious shit as a friend should, and can’t ask for help because embarrassed and….. they’re going through serious shit too…..

So I’m in the “Waaaaah” camp too and sending solidarity - the cat is permanently on heat but we don’t have a dog.

And if one more person offers me a platitude I might strangle them ……

I have a Ukrainian refugee living in my spare room and I need to figure out how to integrate her into our family Christmas without tipping my neurodiverse teen into a massive tailspin. And then try to work out how to gently help her move out when there is fuck all affordable housing round here.
Another teen is making herself ill through A level stress and overwork while the other one is doing nothing at all despite looming GCSE mocks.
My mother has asked me four times now whether I will be making cauliflower cheese for Christmas and I've moved from being irritated to actually quite concerned about her.
I'm eating too much and can't be arsed to exercise, there is building work nearly finished but not quite because the builders have buggered off to another job and won't come back to finish it, I've got a looming financial crisis at a charity I'm a trustee of and I have a horrible feeling I've forgotten some key piece of admin I needed to do. I know I have to pay a massive tax bill because my payroll department forgot to adjust my tax code last year.
It's shit, and everyone expects me to keep it all together. I can feel it very much not being kept together.

Me too, me too. I could cry

Please mrs.mumsnetter
What shall I buy your sprog?
Don't know DM, don't know DMIL
I need to walk my dog

Please mrs.mumsnetter
The kids are sick again
Well DH why not take your turn?
I'm knackered and in pain

That work?
Hugs to all

@geraniumsandsunshine that was for you

Oh Christ yes, I forgot the "what do the children want for Christmas?". I don't bloody know - I don't know what I'm going to get them. And worse - I've been divorced for 12 years and my ex's sister in law (married to his brother) just messaged me to ask. She's lovely and I'm fond of her but really and truly, can you not just ask their father? He is the one you have the misfortune to have to see over Christmas so maybe get him to step up once in a while rather than assuming I will pick up his to do list.

I'm with you. Pass the duvet. Cancel Christmas. We have an 8 ft tree in the lounge that no bastard can be arsed to decorate. It kind of sums us up right now.

Every. Fucking. Year.
Doesn't help that I teach, so it's always mock exam season, staff absence and wall to wall behaviour issues. I predict I'll be ill on the last day, having covered for every twat with a sniffle for weeks on end.

Then you come home to:"Where's my Xmas jumper/ earrings/disco outfit/elf/reindeer/ sweets for Xmas raffle/ presents for my teacher/cash for x y z?"
Then it's time to put the decs up, before you take them all down 3 weeks later.

I have a child desperate to do Xmas. Dh isn't arsed. Teen dc isn't arsed. I'm not arsed. And yet, I'm the one who has to make the effort. Dh tells me it'll all be fine; it's always fine. Yes, because the fucking Xmas fairy does it all.

I waste far too much time on Mumsnet and generally online.

Please Mrs mumsnetter
This woman, Aunty Sue
keeps mithering about the turkey sides
What shall I do?

give her jam and bacon, dear
give her spam and tea
give her piles of Brussels sprouts
just don’t ask me.

@CrapBucket

sdds another name to the list! Brings huge duvet & joins it to the sup duper duvet!!

can you cheer a few of us up & post a photo of your dog?!

I want a dog (cocker spaniel). But I can't have one (currently no garden) & don't have the energy for all the walking/cleaning/finding stimulating games.

I want the cuddles, the cuteness, the 'buddy'.

but until I have more energy & a garen
its not something I'm going to do.

@MistressoftheDarkSide I hadn't read the whole thread before I posted. What an utterly horrible miserable year you have had; please don't beat yourself up for not being resilient. You're still here and still putting one foot in front of the other and that is enough. Well done and get the kids and their partners to pitch in and clean and tidy this weekend. That will at least help with that. No platitudes from me (I hope) just sympathy and best wishes.

She's not depressed, just overwhelmed with life and all the shit it entails. I'm with you op.

I wish I was a fairy godmother for you all, I'm struggling too with menopause, lucky my kids are grown and don't want much for Christmas. I have a very easy but menial job putting cleaning products in boxes. I'm so tired through lack of sleep that I have dropped off to sleep at my work station a couple of times. Why can't I sleep at night! Sending hugs and solidarity girls, wrap up warm and keep plodding .x

@FairyLightAddict

As long as you didn't pack the dog, it'll all work out!!

I did weep today at the doctors. I got covid which gave me sinusitis, I’m on my third week of antibiotics. You know when you get pissed and lie down and the room spins? That’s how I feel all the time, with throbbing pain in my cheekbones. My 13 yo is so poorly. I thought he had scarlet fever, and tbh I think he still does. Back to the doctors tomorrow. Dh has been ok, but the crown is slipping a bit now.
The 15 yo has mocks and is in denial and moaning about lack of rice crispies and achy legs.
Just before we got ill we got two rescue kittens. Sorting them and their cat tray out feels like climbing Everest. I can’t fucking do anything.
Dh’s cousin, whose dh died of cancer in July, has got breast cancer. She has three girls who I haven’t spoken to. It’s just all so shit and I want my crappy little life back.
For us

What you describe is how I felt for the majority of my adult life. I've recently had a diagnosis of ADHD and it explains sooooo much of why I have felt overwhelmed and chaotic at home and at work. Have a read and see if you think you fit the profile.